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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #43)

Mon May 27, 2013, 08:06 PM

56. That nuanced view leans toward yes meaning MAYBE and maybe meaning NO.

In other words - it pushes people to be more cautious about whether their partner is actually, freely saying yes, or if they are being pressured into saying yes. Not less cautious. Not only interested in securing the magic word, so that they can proceed, guilt free.

Some people clearly have no issue at all with pressuring and coercing someone into going along with something they clearly don't want to do, and comfort themselves with ideas about how it was their partner's responsibility to resist the pressure and coercion, and since they didn't, well that's just too damn bad. That's indefensible IMO, but what can you do.

I would think that we could all agree that that's wrong. Very wrong. Unmistakably wrong.

Further, I would think that people would only want to have sex with partners who also want to have sex with them, but obviously I'm way, way, WAY off there. Sadly.

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