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Response to redqueen (Reply #22)

Mon May 27, 2013, 06:32 PM

41. Yes means yes. It does not mean "no" or even "maybe"

 

The fundamental point of patriarchy is "I make your decisions because I know what's best for you".

Understanding consent as a binary is powerful because it allows us to say that “no means no”, a statement which has had and still has incredible power to change attitudes about rape for the better. However, it can make it more difficult for us to conceive of what else might mean “no”, as well as to distinguish between different kinds of “yes” given in different contexts.


Yes doesn't mean no, and no one else's appraisal of her choice matters.


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