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29. While there have been times when there has been more than one clique in the lounge

Wed Mar 14, 2012, 04:15 PM

Mar 2012

(and those have been the worst times), there has, in my experience, always been at least one clique.

It is primarily composed of long term lounge members.

There are lots of inside jokes. Posts often reference directly or indirectly other members of the group.

It is very difficult to break in. New people are generally ignored or even openly challenged.

If you are not a regular, posting something personal in there would probably be a big mistake.

If sufficiently motivated, people can join the club, but the amount of effort involved is pretty high.

I don't mean any of this as criticism. It is what it is. And it is, thankfully, a relatively peaceful and fun place for the members who are regulars right now.

The point really is about locking threads in GD because "they really belong in the lounge". If not a lounge regular, you probably really don't want your thread in the lounge.

I know I don't.

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If there's a clique, I'm not a member. The Velveteen Ocelot Mar 2012 #1

I know how to click a Bic Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #4

Flick. Flick a Bic JustABozoOnThisBus Mar 2012 #8

well, obviously I am not very good at this click thing -- Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #17

Doobage! I have a vague recollection from the distant past JustABozoOnThisBus Mar 2012 #130

Sorry, but it is. cbayer Mar 2012 #2

This could get good! ohiosmith Mar 2012 #5

I know, right. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #7

And you started it. ohiosmith Mar 2012 #9

sure, thanks -- Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #14

Welcome one, welcome all! ohiosmith Mar 2012 #16

if it was up to me, the admin would shut down The Lounge. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #6

I think admin keeps the lounge open because they want to keep the lounge drama out cbayer Mar 2012 #10

I am? news to me. I am a long time poster in the Lounge, true... OK then, let us go down your path Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #12

While there have been times when there has been more than one clique in the lounge cbayer Mar 2012 #29

I am sorry cbayer but, that post is pretty offensive on some different levels, I know you Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #30

Did not mean to be offensive and I sincerely apologize. cbayer Mar 2012 #31

the smug attitude is what I am seeing over in H&M by other DUers, not you. of course, this has Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #33

Really? Close the lounge? OriginalGeek Mar 2012 #102

Honestly, OG, I don't know what I want right now ... and Yes, there are times when Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #105

Yeah that can happen. OriginalGeek Mar 2012 #110

yes, but now they are arguing about what belongs where and holy hell Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #113

this is such a great post! Kali Mar 2012 #111

Nope, not at all OriginalGeek Mar 2012 #120

Let's talk about some bad ass re-mixes then! snooper2 Mar 2012 #143

Mashups over remixes any day! kentauros Mar 2012 #147

No Way, a proper re-mix is greatness topped only by the originals... snooper2 Mar 2012 #149

As you should know, "best" is not determined by higher numbers kentauros Mar 2012 #162

wow Kali Mar 2012 #32

I would REALLY like to see even ONE example of a newcomer (who wasn't a troll) MiddleFingerMom Mar 2012 #50

It's been a while pintobean Mar 2012 #103

! Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #161

I'm new here and I pop in on random stuff TheCruces Mar 2012 #129

~ Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #135

Needless to say - but said anyway - welcome to DU!!! MiddleFingerMom Mar 2012 #145

I usually hang in the lounge nadine_mn Mar 2012 #62

Actually, California Peggy was pretty much the only welcoming person cbayer Mar 2012 #70

I want to address this cbayer since you have been a Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #77

I think the best answer I can give you is that you were able to start this thread. cbayer Mar 2012 #82

thanks for replying... as for new members and where they choose to post, I can only wonder Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #83

I really have no idea what you're talking about XemaSab Mar 2012 #121

I really don't understand this part: Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #89

I am really sorry I entered this thread at this point. cbayer Mar 2012 #93

is okay...I can see why you are frustrated. I am too which is why I posted...btw I have replied Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #95

You are a clique of One! snooper2 Mar 2012 #144

I agree with you here Bryn Mar 2012 #146

it will be ignored by cbayer because she left the thread and since you Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #158

That's a pretty cool trick Duer 157099 Mar 2012 #3

fixed it, thanks. I thought about replying to that post and changed my mind -- Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #11

Was Lounge Losers a clique on DU2? JustABozoOnThisBus Mar 2012 #13

me too, I am a Loner...I try to be polite and respectful to ALL DUers...sometimes, I fail miserably Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #15

Painfully obvious to me now that I'm one of the bozos Duer 157099 Mar 2012 #18

oh gawd, the pain -- I know, right. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #20

ok as a lounge lizard, I am offended by the use of "they" nadine_mn Mar 2012 #19

yes. that was the thing with me. like we are lower class citizens if we post in here Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #23

Yes, we are the lower class. Dr. Strange Mar 2012 #48

I know, right Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #52

That's one I read much more than I post OriginalGeek Mar 2012 #119

Oh what's the gungeon? Nt nadine_mn Mar 2012 #64

(on the left of the page) Gun Control & RKBA (Group) Justice & Public Safety MiddleFingerMom Mar 2012 #94

I don't see it as a click. HappyMe Mar 2012 #21

well, I understand but, damn... can't we get some respect around here? Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #28

Meh! I don't give a crap if others HappyMe Mar 2012 #133

it will all go in GD...they are arguing that the word GENERAL means just that...so be it, I say. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #134

No. HappyMe Mar 2012 #138

cheers! Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #140

We are members of the Sunflower League {kick in unison} Ptah Mar 2012 #22

OK that made me laugh Duer 157099 Mar 2012 #24

omg, Ptah! Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #26

Cricket threads should go to the sports forum. Swede Mar 2012 #25

oh! cricket! Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #27

the lounge is mostly for the lounge people. MFM and his merry band of whatevers. MiddleFingerMom Mar 2012 #34

I know, right. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #37

"some DUers looking down their nose at other DUers..." MiddleFingerMom Mar 2012 #42

"Merry band" Can I play cymbals? ohiosmith Mar 2012 #39

only if I can shake the tamborine Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #59

Shake that thing. ohiosmith Mar 2012 #97

I thought *I* was in your clique, Tues!1 But seriesly speaking of smug hosts (not cbayer) UTUSN Mar 2012 #35

dude -- Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #36

It's not like we'd tell *you* ZenLefty Mar 2012 #38

you - Ninja - you Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #51

Damnit. Wait Wut Mar 2012 #40

hey, that fruity drink would go nice with the mixed nuts Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #43

!!! MiddleFingerMom Mar 2012 #45

Damn you to hell! ohiosmith Mar 2012 #46

SPEEDO!! DAMNIT!! I SAID SPEEDO!!! Wait Wut Mar 2012 #53

omg!! *snort* Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #55

Dear god man...I need to call PETA nadine_mn Mar 2012 #66

I was thinking of you because I know sometimes you think hedgehog Mar 2012 #72

exactly! Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #100

EEEEKK!! susanr516 Mar 2012 #118

Did I just get hired by UPS? OriginalGeek Mar 2012 #122

There's totally a clique XemaSab Mar 2012 #41

and you know cliques, right. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #49

Classical music? rug Mar 2012 #71

sue me, I'm a nerd. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #74

Excuse me... Wait Wut Mar 2012 #58

I kept hoping for a smiley or something at the end of your post siligut Mar 2012 #99

me too, siligut. me too. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #101

Yes, it is her choice siligut Mar 2012 #104

yes and since we have so many groups and forums, I think it can happen in any of them on here Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #106

If there is, I am clueless siligut Mar 2012 #112

LOL Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #116

who posts only for thier friends to reply to? Kali Mar 2012 #117

And you are..? denbot Mar 2012 #44

am I really? is that the way you see me? cool. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #47

That's totally not you. Wait Wut Mar 2012 #60

yeah, maine coon -- thats the ticket Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #63

Wow, wait a minute denbot Mar 2012 #78

I apologise, denbot--- after I posted -- I realized that I probably took it the wrong way -- Sorry Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #80

Hey no worries denbot Mar 2012 #88

got that right. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #90

I think it was a cute joke siligut Mar 2012 #114

yeah, I realized it after I posted but, I didn't want to edit because I wanted to make sure Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #115

I don't see a clique either. It is a nice place to relax and "think back ore the years and laugh applegrove Mar 2012 #54

I can't wiggle my ears but, I can roll my tongue. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #56

. applegrove Mar 2012 #57

I can't do either of those, kentauros Mar 2012 #152

Does it count... Wait Wut Mar 2012 #61

Personally, when I wiggle both my ears i do it by raising and lowering my eyebrows. Anything is applegrove Mar 2012 #65

Shit. They should have seen the "clique" and the "swarm" back in 2009. madinmaryland Mar 2012 #67

There were no cliques or swarms in 2009 taterguy Mar 2012 #68

These are not the cliques or swarms you are looking for. MiddleFingerMom Mar 2012 #96

whatever the hell That was, This ain't it- because - if IT is --- Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #98

I find the lounge to be a friendly and caring place. LiberalAndProud Mar 2012 #69

I can think of at least three threads today where the OP hedgehog Mar 2012 #73

Is that a bad thing? LiberalAndProud Mar 2012 #76

I meant this as a counter argument to the notion we're hedgehog Mar 2012 #141

Yes, it is. pipi_k Mar 2012 #75

I would think that it is normal to feel left out, I know I have felt that myself -- Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #79

I'm sorry, I didn't see that thread... pipi_k Mar 2012 #84

the Moran Clique ?! Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #86

HE's back.... madinmaryland Mar 2012 #107

Maybe we need a Lounge Clique-tionary for those who feel left out. nolabear Mar 2012 #81

Thanks... pipi_k Mar 2012 #85

eccentric and found tolerance in the Lounge, is that it? Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #87

What made me laugh about the whole clique thing nolabear Mar 2012 #91

. . . and dogs Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #92

Cats suck. bluedigger Mar 2012 #124

Alerted for ignorance. Wait Wut Mar 2012 #128

Cats don't rule... pipi_k Mar 2012 #137

Indeed. HappyMe Mar 2012 #139

? Dystopian Mar 2012 #108

girl, you make me giggle Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #109

Funny, during the "purge" I survived. mentalsolstice Mar 2012 #123

I was kinda hopin' there was a clique so's I could see all those asplodin' haids. MiddleFingerMom Mar 2012 #127

so then, you are admitting to making Radio Lady the butt of your fun, right. got that. lovely. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #136

Can't help but point something out RZM Mar 2012 #153

There's a lot of anxst and insecurity here. bluedigger Mar 2012 #125

Now somewhere in the black mountain hills of Dakota there lived a young boy named Rocky Raccoon... PamKlaus Mar 2012 #126

... RetroLounge Mar 2012 #150

... Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #160

"Rocky Raccoon" kentauros Mar 2012 #154

howdy Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #157

Howdy! Thank you so much for the warm welcome! PamKlaus Mar 2012 #163

ReaLLY?!? MrScorpio Mar 2012 #131

Must be these guys. They and I went to different schools together. DFW Mar 2012 #132

I noticed when I started posting regularly, kentauros Mar 2012 #142

Seems that the cliquishness is on the other side of the fence, by my reckoning... AMEN!!!! Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #148

You're wailcome! kentauros Mar 2012 #156

Of course there aren't any cliques RetroLounge Mar 2012 #151

long time no see Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2012 #155

Hum, PamKlaus Mar 2012 #164

Well, to be honest, we do have "sharp noises" from time to time: kentauros Mar 2012 #159