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Response to ohnoyoudidnt (Original post)

Tue Jul 15, 2014, 08:47 PM

7. Everybody needs something different.

I like to immediately talk about the person and all of the memories I have of him/her, as well as hear others'. However, there are many in my family that don't want to mention the person at all. So, as others have said, you have to take your cue from the person who is grieving. Give them time, too. It's not going to be over in week or a month.

I always say, however, that when my dad died, one of the few things I remember from the funeral was a friend of mine coming up to me and just saying, honestly, "I don't know what to say" and then giving me a big hug. That was for some reason really meaningful to me, just the honesty.

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