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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]Lydia Leftcoast
(48,217 posts)I understand that people might live with their parents for any number of reasons (I did it myself at one point), but I found that it was a major turn-off for potential romantic partners.
I once read an article about a man who lived with his mother and couldn't seem to get anything but platonic female friends. It turned out that the women were assuming that he was gay because he was living with his mother and therefore thought he was just being friendly when he invited them to something.
Do you have any female platonic friends? If you don't, you may be inclined to think of women as a strange, alien life form, and that will make you nervous. If you have trouble talking to women in general, you need to work on that. Once you have platonic female friends, ask them how you come across in social situations.
Work on living independently and getting out of the house more. Join social groups that do things that you are interested in, without any regard for whether you might meet women there, but preferably they should be things that both men and women are likely to enjoy or that attract slightly more women than men.
Desperation is another turn-off. Some people just radiate it. If that's a possibility, focus on other areas of your life first.
If a woman is fond of you, lack of experience will not be a problem. I've heard many stories from women friends about "initiating" an inexperienced man.