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In reply to the discussion: Elderly neighbor becoming more and more demanding [View all]animal-girl
(1 post)44. I feel your pain
Orrex: I am new to this site and yours was one of the first post I read. I also live in a 55+ neighborhood, I am 64 and young for my age, I am seen as the "young lady" on the street. This seems to make requests (demands) okay for some reason. It starts small and soon your raising them as your own. I have found that there is no easy way to end the parasitic relationship, you choose your battles and decide what you are willing to do. If your consistent you will find that the requests start to tapper off. If you don't need to be best friends with this lady, let her know up front that you are not available to run all her errands. It takes a strong backbone but in the end you won't be feeling so resentful. Good Luck!
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Just me,...but I'd rather be known as a selfish jerk than a sap! If her requests/demands are not
ohiosmith
Dec 2012
#1
I'd tell her that we don't answer the phone or door before 9:00 am or after 5:30 pm. And that you
ohiosmith
Dec 2012
#5
I didn't realize you were that old! Which retirement home do you and your wife live in??
madinmaryland
Dec 2012
#29
tell her a price per month to continue as gofer person or she has to stop asking
2Design
Dec 2012
#33
Helping people who are unable to help themselves is the highest moral calling in life
Taitertots
Dec 2012
#35