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In reply to the discussion: Ladies of the lounge who have been through or are going through "the change" [View all]stevenleser
(32,886 posts)153. I understand your initial decision not to edit HH, but I think it is really important that you do.
It's way, way, WAY over the top in terms of crude, crass and lack of sensitivity.
You probably didn't intend it to be that way, but it is. I would remove it all except for an explanation.
Again, just a strong suggestion from someone with absolutely zero power to compel anyone to do anything in this situation. I just think it would go a long way to mending fences with a lot of people here that you really offended.
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Ladies of the lounge who have been through or are going through "the change" [View all]
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
OP
I have the additional confusion of being bipolar, so when I am grouching and yelling, is it
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#4
Yeah, my anxiety has way been way up there for the last couple of years. I am sure this is a
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#38
Having them more and more often now, I am starting to look forward to them going away . LOL
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#7
Yeah, the loss of fertility and femininity are hitting me pretty hard. I'm already very
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#41
What I didn't know until I did some research on Google is that perimenopause may be responsible for
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#9
Sleep has always been hard for me thanks to the bipolar. Not sure I can count on
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#11
I do straight up Melatonin. Is MidNite somehow better? I find I have to be careful of certain
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#32
I was going through the change and found a lead penny! Oh! "ladies"! Never mind!
ohiosmith
Sep 2012
#10
Sounds like something to look forward to, if it works out the same way for me. :^)
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#106
My wife's 49 - just started this last year. The mood swings are still there, just not the blood.
HopeHoops
Sep 2012
#17
Yeah, I went running to my husband today because I am struggling with accepting that
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#23
Trying not to be a bitch is already hard because of the bipolar, but I will do my best.
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#44
I just hold her and tell her everything is okay - or leave her alone if that's what she's yelling.
HopeHoops
Sep 2012
#59
I was finding this thread informative until I got to your crude and over the top comments HH.
auntAgonist
Sep 2012
#50
Sorry, but that's what we all call them ("P-pads thin/thick" for short on the grocery list).
HopeHoops
Sep 2012
#60
I don't care what you call them, that's not what I found offensive. NO she isn't
auntAgonist
Sep 2012
#62
I've had a few locked and hidden, yes. I've been toning it down and MFM got on my case.
HopeHoops
Sep 2012
#63
Yeah, but to be fair (again, language aside), men have to deal with the issue too.
HopeHoops
Sep 2012
#74
If you have to keep APOLOGIZING for your language, maybe it's time you stopped using
auntAgonist
Sep 2012
#79
Really? Weird. I still thought it was 12 hours. Anyway, I won't. The posts that follow...
HopeHoops
Sep 2012
#82
I did, but not to alter it, just to encourage that others read the negative comments.J
HopeHoops
Sep 2012
#85
I understand your initial decision not to edit HH, but I think it is really important that you do.
stevenleser
Oct 2012
#153
Trust me, I've had enough new orifices torn out of me. Leaving it and the comments works.
HopeHoops
Oct 2012
#154
I don't believe there is a time limit on editing posts. I may be wrong. try it.
auntAgonist
Sep 2012
#84
Interesting observation, but you're correct. Different TYPES of boundaries, but I agree.
HopeHoops
Sep 2012
#92
It's not placating by any means. It's sincere. Sometimes putting her to sleep with a backrub...
HopeHoops
Oct 2012
#162
Yes, I was of course sincere, and I did consider the other forums, but the Lounge
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#96
My mother was on HRT when that study came out, and she was one of those women who
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#105
See, I never would have guessed it would be. I assumed they were both more politically-oriented. :^)
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#113
Oh yes, the baby thing. I do miss having them around, although I think it's as much
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#33
Late 40s. I'm now 57 and some things are still ridiculous. Your mileage may vary.
nolabear
Sep 2012
#19
"Dress light." Will definitely remember that. LOL I've only had a couple bouts of night sweats but
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#35
Trust me. I'm a professional. "That thing" is just fine. "Who's that man in my bed?"
nolabear
Sep 2012
#47
Yeah. I am having trouble with people's names as well. Awkward in public, but
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#54
My mom would get us three boys' names confused when she was upset (but never with the dog's)...
MiddleFingerMom
Sep 2012
#125
I'm sure it's bad of me, but I laughed. The universal truth of siblings, right?
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#135
I started with hot flashes at 40. My idiot HMO doctor did blood work and told me
kcass1954
Sep 2012
#20
I am going to have to be reallly careful and guard against a menopausal baby because of the meds I
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#43
See, I can't stop thinking, "But I'm only 41!" at least in terms of the things I don't want to lose,
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#121
I haven't hit anyone so far. I aim to keep it that way! I haven't had flashes during the day, but
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#55
Yeah, so far the idea of getting older is the hardest part. But I guess all that grey hair should
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#56
Wow. I should be so lucky! :^D (Well, not with that dripping thing. LOL)
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#65
As you probably know, it's different for everyone, even women with the same gene pool.
Gormy Cuss
Sep 2012
#86
Yeah, Google has helped somewhat. :^) With my luck the fog will clear the day before I turn 51 or
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#99
I will be checking that out. And also be looking up "vicissitudes," for even though it seems vaguely
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#107
My hair color is already well on its way to grey and silver, but mainly on my hairline. What's on
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#108
I will look into that. I am lucky in that my general physician is a woman about 10 years older than
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#114
They do at that. :^) My mom was definitely the happiest I had seen her in a long time, those last
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#129
I am so, so sorry. *hugs* I have only had two real nightsweats so far, but they
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#112
I have been considering the sleepmask option. Definitely want the best of both worlds!
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#134
Let us know when you do finally get to see a doc, and how things go? *hugs*
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#130
Oh my! You sure are lucky having a husband who would do that for ya. :^D
GreenPartyVoter
Sep 2012
#131
I was just wondering last night if men had a comparable change of life they go through. :^)
GreenPartyVoter
Oct 2012
#138
Your hair falls out, your skin gets messed up, you can't think straight, fall sleep standing up
TrogL
Oct 2012
#146
Turns out there is even more than that, and I never knew it. Why don't we women
GreenPartyVoter
Oct 2012
#139
Weirdly, they say being heavier helps out your bones, so in that case I am
GreenPartyVoter
Oct 2012
#143
It definitely could be the case. Eating well may also help, from what I hear.
GreenPartyVoter
Oct 2012
#159
The migraines have me a bit worried as I got them in my pre-and early teen years. Makes me wonder if
GreenPartyVoter
Oct 2012
#160
I did have one similar symptom in pre-teen years and in the very end of menopause:
DebJ
Oct 2012
#169
I think I would be too exhausted to raise another little one. Just adopting kittens this summer
GreenPartyVoter
Oct 2012
#164
I get my kid time in with other people's kids now. WHen I get tired, I give them back. :^D
GreenPartyVoter
Oct 2012
#173
True. I may not experience it the same as my Mom did anyway. (Although I am
GreenPartyVoter
Oct 2012
#172