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Kali

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29. poverty, e-mail

Reply to Sugarcoated (Original post)

Wed Aug 1, 2012, 04:46 PM

Aug 2012

too poor and vehicles to shitty to drive that far for visits

avoid phone at all costs

live on a ranch where everything is "ranch rigged" (held together with bailing wire), dusty, "smelly" and disorganized - helps discourage visits from anal-retentive assholes

the emails still push my buttons, but I can write scathing replies and delete them or hold in a draft folder until I cool off

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How do you handle family members that you don't want to be around anymore? [View all] Sugarcoated Jul 2012 OP

Before I retired, HeiressofBickworth Jul 2012 #1

This is how I feel about it Major Nikon Jul 2012 #2

I know, I know Sugarcoated Jul 2012 #15

Sorry to hear you're an emotional hostage like I was... Pholus Jul 2012 #3

Thanks for sharing that Sugarcoated Jul 2012 #18

Sugarcoated, I feel your pain. My parents are gone, I have no kids, and only two sisters. raccoon Jul 2012 #4

Thanks, I checked out that site briefly this morning Sugarcoated Jul 2012 #10

Ignore them. After five years or so, they get the message. ohiosmith Jul 2012 #5

This one works for me. Sugarcoated Jul 2012 #11

Hide under the bed. HopeHoops Jul 2012 #6

How about this as a strategy... pipi_k Jul 2012 #7

This works for me as well. Sugarcoated Jul 2012 #12

Me too. I'm not good at thinking on my feet, thinking of a good response when someone does or says raccoon Aug 2012 #23

I know...I hear both of you... pipi_k Aug 2012 #26

I usually try to be funny. turtlerescue1 Jul 2012 #8

Humor is my default setting, it's an awesome defense. Problem is, they're quicker and funnier Sugarcoated Jul 2012 #13

Ignore them; avoid them; erase them from your life. In less than two years you'll byeya Jul 2012 #9

Move to a different state Myrina Jul 2012 #14

I actually considered that, Sugarcoated Jul 2012 #17

Moved to the opposite end of the country TrogL Jul 2012 #16

I don't recommend shutting them out. Wait Wut Jul 2012 #19

I don't think I'd ever shut them out completely, Sugarcoated Jul 2012 #21

ACoA is great pipi_k Aug 2012 #27

I stopped calling, and sent her cartons of cigarettes for Christmas for about 10 years slackmaster Jul 2012 #20

Tell Them How You Feel...Discuss It And Be Honest HelenaHandbasket Aug 2012 #22

Sometimes the most civil approach is to treat relatives like they're perfect strangers. Baitball Blogger Aug 2012 #24

I know exactly what you are going through.. President T Toilet Aug 2012 #25

I try to make the visits or calls few, far between, and short Populist_Prole Aug 2012 #28

poverty, e-mail Kali Aug 2012 #29