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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]CTyankee
(63,903 posts)Loss, it seems, must be borne and what I found out during grief for a beloved one was that it had to take its own time. I wrote about her. I kept a daily diary about it, how I felt each day after, but always the pain. The hole in my heart. I truly thought that it would never go away.
Now, 10 years after, a wonderful thing has happened. My grandchild, born a biological male, has told his mother, my daughter, that he wishes to transition to a female and he wants to take our beloved lost one (her great aunt) NAME! It is not a common name. It is old fashioned. It is lovely. And I know my beloved lost one, my sister in law, whom I mourned and mourned and mourned, will now live in spirit within my grandchild.
Thank you for reminding us of our common humanity: we mourn our losses of fellow human beings whom we love.