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The Velveteen Ocelot

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15. You're not being a pest.

Sun Sep 20, 2020, 06:36 PM

Sep 2020

It's only been a week and you aren't ready for new plans. Your friend means well but probably has never been in your situation. Don't plan, just be.

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... Aristus Sep 2020 #1

We don't know each other but Ferrets are Cool Sep 2020 #2

((Soph)) blm Sep 2020 #3

Love to you...I woulda kept them... Eliot Rosewater Sep 2020 #4

Me too lillypaddle Sep 2020 #86

You are not a pest, and you deserve all the love you need! nt tblue37 Sep 2020 #5

Oh, dear, it's a tough journey you're on, I feel for you soothsayer Sep 2020 #6

I know exactly what he would he say Soph0571 Sep 2020 #17

The Tears Have Value leftieNanner Sep 2020 #50

Hang in there vlyons Sep 2020 #7

Ask for what you need and speak up when we'll meaning (or not) people MLAA Sep 2020 #8

OMIGOD, my dear Soph, you will NEVER be a pest! NEVER. CaliforniaPeggy Sep 2020 #9

I am lost right now Soph0571 Sep 2020 #23

NO question that you will find your way, dear Soph. CaliforniaPeggy Sep 2020 #42

You could never be a pest. femmedem Sep 2020 #10

You are not a pest and you have our love. NNadir Sep 2020 #11

I lost my husband 2 years ago... lisa58 Sep 2020 #12

Sorry to hear about your loss, you sound like you have handled it with wisdom grantcart Sep 2020 #61

I'm glad you told your friend to STFU. Now is a time to listen and give support. demmiblue Sep 2020 #13

I think the meds thing is brillaint Soph0571 Sep 2020 #26

It is the fear of contamination/tampering. demmiblue Sep 2020 #30

Make no major decisions for a year. Laelth Sep 2020 #14

You're not being a pest. The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2020 #15

This is why we are here Soph, to provide community support and a safe place to rant. alwaysinasnit Sep 2020 #16

The death of a loved one is possibly the hardest thing we can endure rurallib Sep 2020 #18

... RKP5637 Sep 2020 #19

Sending you a big hug, Soph. BComplex Sep 2020 #20

Here you go: volstork Sep 2020 #21

... pazzyanne Sep 2020 #22

Oh Soph! My heart is breaking for you. Callalily Sep 2020 #24

I am really cross at him Soph0571 Sep 2020 #35

Emotion is not a weakness, Soph. Expressing them is a way to honor yourself SheltieLover Sep 2020 #52

You're better than me... AmyStrange Sep 2020 #25

Sooooo tempted Soph0571 Sep 2020 #36

I hate you! AmyStrange Sep 2020 #41

You know, I'm glad you're here. I'm very, very sorry for your loss, but PatrickforO Sep 2020 #27

I read the replies and they're good...just wanted to underline that you're not a pest, never Karadeniz Sep 2020 #28

Moving is not going to happen Soph0571 Sep 2020 #37

I'm so sorry. LiberalLoner Sep 2020 #29

Hug ananda Sep 2020 #31

all things pass llashram Sep 2020 #32

I am so sorry about your "well meaning" friend's profound lack of sensitivity. pnwmom Sep 2020 #33

+1000 nt steve2470 Sep 2020 #80

Today was rough Soph0571 Sep 2020 #87

You will know when you are ready to use those abilities. But it's only been a week, pnwmom Sep 2020 #88

I know parents MFM008 Sep 2020 #34

Giant Hugs for you Tribalceltic Sep 2020 #38

You are wonderful and loved. Alpeduez21 Sep 2020 #39

We all heal the way we heal MuseRider Sep 2020 #40

Soph, DU is a family. Dem2theMax Sep 2020 #43

+ 1 3Hotdogs Sep 2020 #44

When people ask me what it was like after my wife died, I tell them... Girard442 Sep 2020 #45

A hopeful hug. ancianita Sep 2020 #46

You have been through trauma. I am so sorry. Take it one miunte at a time. That is all we have. XXOO Evolve Dammit Sep 2020 #47

I wish I had some words of wisdom Ohiogal Sep 2020 #48

You are not a pest, Soph... you're doing exactly the best thing you can... connecting. n/t TygrBright Sep 2020 #49

Oh Soph, I weep for you and with you. flamin lib Sep 2020 #51

(((((((((Soph))))))))) sending you lots of hugs, and vibes for healing and strength. And for niyad Sep 2020 #53

(((((((Hugs)))))) Kitchari Sep 2020 #54

You sound a little better. I'm so glad. JDC Sep 2020 #55

Hi Soph❤️ Olafjoy Sep 2020 #56

been where you are msdogi Sep 2020 #57

He is still there just recently gone sadness surely prevails over everything in the flat lunasun Sep 2020 #58

Holding you in my thoughts and my heart, Soph. Habibi Sep 2020 #59

Grieve in your own way and heal at your own pace csziggy Sep 2020 #60

Hugs, hugs, hugs CanonRay Sep 2020 #62

You are not a pest. I know you know that, but feel somehow obliged to apologize for it anyway. TreasonousBastard Sep 2020 #63

We all need to grieve when we lose a loved one, and we all do it in different ways. Lonestarblue Sep 2020 #64

Hugs from this "delivery boy"... mwooldri Sep 2020 #65

I've been there. Twice. I know something of what you're feeling. catbyte Sep 2020 #66

I read something I liked: LakeArenal Sep 2020 #67

Hang in there DU sister. Everyone here is with you. panader0 Sep 2020 #68

I'm so sorry for your loss. The Polack MSgt Sep 2020 #69

No worries, friend firstwife Sep 2020 #70

One minute, one hour, one day at a time. GemDigger Sep 2020 #71

Sending tons of love Blue_playwright Sep 2020 #72

So sorry for the pain. cate94 Sep 2020 #73

I hope we can help lift your heart and ease your burden Trueblue Texan Sep 2020 #74

Oh, my dear, I am sending you hugs. Joinfortmill Sep 2020 #75

Whether a loss is anticipated, as your loss... 3catwoman3 Sep 2020 #76

My husband died 1332 days ago Marthe48 Sep 2020 #77

Sending you love and peace... Freedomofspeech Sep 2020 #78

I have not read the thread yet, but you must know that your grief will go on for a few years.... steve2470 Sep 2020 #79

Dear Soph, just sound out anytime and often, peacebuzzard Sep 2020 #81

You will always miss him, the pain & loss will always be in your heart FakeNoose Sep 2020 #82

Come here: ((((hug)))) JudyM Sep 2020 #83

Virtual hugs from across the pond... Heartstrings Sep 2020 #84

You take all the time you need. malthaussen Sep 2020 #85

Grieving is normal Nululu Sep 2020 #89

Your friend may be well meaning (you're the best judge of that), soldierant Sep 2020 #90

You must miss him so much. CTyankee Sep 2020 #91

There are several ears here when you need a friendly ear to talk to. Lady Freedom Returns Sep 2020 #92

Take your own good time, Soph VerbalBarb Sep 2020 #93

You do you! Phentex Sep 2020 #94

{{{soph}}} deek Sep 2020 #95