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Marthe48

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160. So sorry for your loss

Mon Oct 29, 2018, 11:25 AM

Oct 2018

My husband died 21 months ago. I hope you have many happy memories to help you through this sad time. Try to stay in touch with friends and family. It helps.
There is a grief support forum on DU. Everyone was very kind.

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48 years. 9 months...and now I am a widow [View all] SoCalDem Oct 2018 OP

So sorry for your loss SCD ... my heart goes out ... and know that you are loved mr_lebowski Oct 2018 #1

Sorry for your loss. mecherosegarden Oct 2018 #2

I am sorry. What a shock. I bet it still hasn't really sunk in. You are in my thoughts. Doodley Oct 2018 #3

Such a long time together. 3catwoman3 Oct 2018 #4

I weep for you my sister in humanity. 🕯 sprinkleeninow Oct 2018 #5

You have my condolences. TexasTowelie Oct 2018 #6

I'm so sorry for your loss. CentralMass Oct 2018 #7

I'm so sorry Beaverhausen Oct 2018 #8

Electronic hugs and sympathetic vibes being sent to you (inadequate though they may be). alwaysinasnit Oct 2018 #9

To both you and family my condolences . This happened with my father - here one moment then gone. lunasun Oct 2018 #10

I am so sorry. You must be in shock. Shrike47 Oct 2018 #11

I am so sorry for your loss RainCaster Oct 2018 #12

I am so sorry. Corvo Bianco Oct 2018 #13

I'm so very sorry for your loss. StarryNite Oct 2018 #14

Celebrate the privilege of coinciding in space and time with him for 48 years, 9 months Xipe Totec Oct 2018 #15

Damn. WinstonSmith4740 Oct 2018 #234

So very sorry for your loss, my dear SoCalDem... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2018 #16

I'm so sorry. After so many years together, this is tough. Honeycombe8 Oct 2018 #17

OMG. my heart goes out to your and your family. iluvtennis Oct 2018 #18

I am so sorry for your loss...a lifetime together... Satch59 Oct 2018 #19

I am truly sorry proud patriot Oct 2018 #20

:( So sorry to hear. You were both beautiful in that photo! C Moon Oct 2018 #21

Deepest sympathy. Scarsdale Oct 2018 #175

((SoCal)) blm Oct 2018 #22

Love that picture. Looks like you grew up together. mountain grammy Oct 2018 #23

I'm sorry, SoCalDem Solly Mack Oct 2018 #24

I'm so sorry! DUgosh Oct 2018 #25

I am so very sorry for your loss, SoCalDem! pnwmom Oct 2018 #26

I'm terribly sorry. LisaM Oct 2018 #27

Very sorry for your loss JDC Oct 2018 #28

I wish you did not have to go thru this shock and loss. dixiegrrrrl Oct 2018 #29

such sad news orleans Oct 2018 #30

There is no way to prepare, and no words that are adequate DFW Oct 2018 #31

Sincere condolences... RHMerriman Oct 2018 #32

I never know the right words. Control-Z Oct 2018 #33

so sorry kanda Oct 2018 #34

Heartbreaking! I'm so sorry. You were a beautiful couple. spooky3 Oct 2018 #35

Condolences to you. edbermac Oct 2018 #36

I am so sorry for your loss. (eom) StevieM Oct 2018 #37

I never know what to say, except I am so sorry from the bottom of my heart. Laffy Kat Oct 2018 #38

I am so very sorry. murielm99 Oct 2018 #39

I'm so sorry for your loss. FuzzyRabbit Oct 2018 #40

I'm so sorry for your loss DesertRat Oct 2018 #41

So very sorry to read this sad news. Strokes are so very hard. No Vested Interest Oct 2018 #42

i am so sorry Demovictory9 Oct 2018 #43

So very sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. BadgerMom Oct 2018 #44

My heart goes to you. question everything Oct 2018 #45

Condolences, dear friend SoCalDem.... KY_EnviroGuy Oct 2018 #46

I'm so very sorry. cate94 Oct 2018 #47

You are a member of our family, too. What a blessing it must be to love each other so long. NBachers Oct 2018 #48

I'm so sorry. May his memory be a blessing. EllieBC Oct 2018 #49

Truly sorry. Duppers Oct 2018 #50

So so sorry for loss of your husband. God Bless you. trueblue2007 Oct 2018 #51

Care and comfort in your time of loss. rwheeler31 Oct 2018 #52

I'm so very very sorry, SoCalDem diva77 Oct 2018 #53

A loss that mere words are not enough to say how truly sorry I am... pbmus Oct 2018 #54

I am so sorry for your loss. tenderfoot Oct 2018 #55

What a lovely photo of you two. LittleGirl Oct 2018 #56

I always thought so too.. SoCalDem Oct 2018 #58

My sincere condolences, SoCalDem. kag Oct 2018 #57

Memory eternal shenmue Oct 2018 #59

I was saddened and touched by your story. It's is a haorrible loss, I cannot imagine. So very sad Pepsidog Oct 2018 #60

So sorry... JohnnyRingo Oct 2018 #61

I am so sorry. ChazInAz Oct 2018 #62

Hugs dear SoCalDem. Words don't begin. mahina Oct 2018 #63

I am so sorry. I recently went through something very similar AJT Oct 2018 #64

Condolences to you. spooky3 Oct 2018 #113

So sorry for your loss. I hope you're finding inner peace as you move forward. nt Fla Dem Oct 2018 #235

It sounds as though you built a beautiful life together. Totally Tunsie Oct 2018 #65

I'm so sorry for your loss. pruple Oct 2018 #66

Sad and beautiful. byronius Oct 2018 #67

I am so sorry. area51 Oct 2018 #68

How awful! Glamrock Oct 2018 #69

I am so very sorry, my friend. Rhiannon12866 Oct 2018 #70

I am so sorry Lifelong Protester Oct 2018 #71

Deepest sympathies to you and your family. Duncan Grant Oct 2018 #72

I'm so terribly sorry, SCD. Peace and strength to you and your in the difficult days ahead... Hekate Oct 2018 #73

So sorry for your loss. Remember the good times. GoneOffShore Oct 2018 #74

Paz! RestoreAmerica2020 Oct 2018 #75

My sincerest condolences R B Garr Oct 2018 #76

I am so sad for you. Silver Gaia Oct 2018 #77

A long and happy life together, a mercifully quick and peaceful end. DRoseDARs Oct 2018 #78

I'm so sorry for your loss vercetti2021 Oct 2018 #79

I am so sorry. Celebrate every second you shared with his wonderful energy; his smile says it all. fierywoman Oct 2018 #80

Dear SoCalDem... calimary Oct 2018 #81

I am so sorry KT2000 Oct 2018 #82

Heartbreaking, a very sad loss. JohnnyLib2 Oct 2018 #83

My heart goes out to you and all who love him... WePurrsevere Oct 2018 #84

Sorry to hear this, SoCalDem True Dough Oct 2018 #85

I'm so sorry for your loss SoCalDem. Thank you for posting livetohike Oct 2018 #86

Our condolences SoCalDem denbot Oct 2018 #87

Mu heart aches for you... FarPoint Oct 2018 #88

So sorry for your loss... Raster Oct 2018 #89

Oh dear! My sincere condolences, SCD... Dennis Donovan Oct 2018 #90

I am so very sorry. mnhtnbb Oct 2018 #91

Oh, SCD, babylonsister Oct 2018 #92

so sorry for your loss handmade34 Oct 2018 #93

my deepest condolences to you and your family. Kurt V. Oct 2018 #94

sorry for your loss, accept my condolences. JHan Oct 2018 #95

My condolences sellitman Oct 2018 #96

Sincere condolences MFM008 Oct 2018 #97

I'm so sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. Lars39 Oct 2018 #98

I know that there isn't much that words can do. zanana1 Oct 2018 #99

I am so sorry for your loss. CousinIT Oct 2018 #100

That's a heartbreaking story PJMcK Oct 2018 #101

I am so very sorry janterry Oct 2018 #102

Death sucks SallyHemmings Oct 2018 #103

Hugs, my friend Maeve Oct 2018 #104

I echo the sentiments of everyone on this forum. I am sorry. in2herbs Oct 2018 #105

I'm so sorry! redwitch Oct 2018 #106

I am sorry for your loss Cary Oct 2018 #107

Condolences,SoCalDem on the loss of your beloved husband. gademocrat7 Oct 2018 #108

I'm so sorry Ohiogal Oct 2018 #109

My deepest condolences to you and your family Docreed2003 Oct 2018 #110

My condolences to you and yours. rzemanfl Oct 2018 #111

i cant even imagine..... samnsara Oct 2018 #112

That's a sweet picture.You can tell there was love there. Crutchez_CuiBono Oct 2018 #114

I'm so sorry. sinkingfeeling Oct 2018 #115

I am so sorry for your loss Fresh_Start Oct 2018 #116

What a beautiful photograph. Zoonart Oct 2018 #117

Sincerest condolences to you and your family GeoWilliam750 Oct 2018 #118

my condolences krakfiend Oct 2018 #119

I'm so sorry Blue_playwright Oct 2018 #120

I so sorry, SoCalDem. Aristus Oct 2018 #121

I cant fathom the depths of your loss. Le Gaucher Oct 2018 #122

My heart breaks for you and your family lillypaddle Oct 2018 #123

So very sorry. democrank Oct 2018 #124

Please accept my condolences. malthaussen Oct 2018 #125

So very sorry SoCalDem... Tikki Oct 2018 #126

I am so sorry for you loss. TNLib Oct 2018 #127

It happened to me, too. BonnieJW Oct 2018 #128

I am so sorry. bronxiteforever Oct 2018 #129

So so sorry. My heart breaks for you. nt Kahuna7 Oct 2018 #130

Lump in my throat. So sorry for you and your sons. Fla Dem Oct 2018 #131

I am so very sorry. davsand Oct 2018 #132

I am so sorry for your loss. In_The_Wind Oct 2018 #133

Very sad for your loss. A long life together but never enough. IADEMO2004 Oct 2018 #134

Words always seem so insufficient. Online so very much more so tymorial Oct 2018 #135

I am so sorry for your loss. DarleenMB Oct 2018 #136

So sorry for YOUR loss SoCalDem Oct 2018 #167

Hugs to you. Your loss is so recent, I hope you are doing ok. Fla Dem Oct 2018 #237

Never enough years to love the people we love! nocoincidences Oct 2018 #137

Condolences for your loss. Skinner Oct 2018 #138

So sorry TuxedoKat Oct 2018 #139

I'm so sorry Bettie Oct 2018 #140

Oh no, I am so sorry. MuseRider Oct 2018 #141

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. madaboutharry Oct 2018 #142

. Loryn Oct 2018 #143

So sorry meow2u3 Oct 2018 #144

He had a wonderful smile! CrispyQ Oct 2018 #145

Forever in your heart........nt Heartstrings Oct 2018 #146

I am so sorry for your loss. Maraya1969 Oct 2018 #147

All my love Socaldem cally Oct 2018 #148

SoCalDem ... CountAllVotes Oct 2018 #149

... defacto7 Oct 2018 #150

So very sorry for your grief and sadness.....wish I could provide true comfort for your loss. ... Ninga Oct 2018 #151

So sorry SCD...... panader0 Oct 2018 #152

I'm sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. nt brer cat Oct 2018 #153

My deepest condolences.... airmid Oct 2018 #154

I'm so very sorry to hear your tragic news. BobTheSubgenius Oct 2018 #155

I'm so sorry, the same thing happened to my father 7 years ago. haele Oct 2018 #156

I am so so sorry. CaptainTruth Oct 2018 #157

Deepest condolences, SoCalDem. Granny M Oct 2018 #158

My empathies... No words. nt TwistOneUp Oct 2018 #159

So sorry for your loss Marthe48 Oct 2018 #160

I'm very sorry for your loss. dae Oct 2018 #161

My condolences to you and your family pandr32 Oct 2018 #162

I'm very sorry for your loss FakeNoose Oct 2018 #163

I'm so very sorry. The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2018 #164

Sorry for your loss... Stuart G Oct 2018 #165

Holding you in my heart for comfort, SCD... so very sorry. TygrBright Oct 2018 #166

... Amimnoch Oct 2018 #168

Wishing you comfort during this intense heartbreak. JudyM Oct 2018 #169

My heart to you kentuck Oct 2018 #170

My condolences on your loss. greatauntoftriplets Oct 2018 #171

Sorry for your loss. 47of74 Oct 2018 #172

Lovely photo, your smiles speak through your grief saidsimplesimon Oct 2018 #173

So very, very sorry. hostalover Oct 2018 #174

i'm so sorry for your loss. barbtries Oct 2018 #176

Damned onions made my eyes water. keithbvadu2 Oct 2018 #177

Sorry for your loss Dan Oct 2018 #178

My deepest sympathies hermetic Oct 2018 #179

so sorry for your loss (nt) matt819 Oct 2018 #180

SO sorry for your loss, wish I could console you. You had a long blessed marriage. joanbarnes Oct 2018 #181

so sorry to hear this sad news bigtree Oct 2018 #182

I'm so sorry for your loss kimbutgar Oct 2018 #183

What a gorgeous couple! colorado_ufo Oct 2018 #184

I am so sorry UpInArms Oct 2018 #185

So sorry. volstork Oct 2018 #186

I'm so sorry for your loss. herding cats Oct 2018 #187

So very sorry to hear this...48+ years! Great for the both of you! masmdu Oct 2018 #188

My heart breaks for you snowybirdie Oct 2018 #189

...My dad went that way also. In time may you find peace. Jack-o-Lantern Oct 2018 #190

I am so very sorry for your devastating loss. I know there are no words, nothing that niyad Oct 2018 #191

Condolences wryter2000 Oct 2018 #192

I'm so sorry qanda Oct 2018 #193

Terrible news. Hope that your sons and you are brought closer together grantcart Oct 2018 #194

I am so sorry for your great loss. irisblue Oct 2018 #195

So sorry to hear of this, SCD. That you were able to be there with/for him at the end may be FailureToCommunicate Oct 2018 #196

So So Sorry for your loss sdfernando Oct 2018 #197

So very sorry for you loss dbackjon Oct 2018 #198

So sorry for your loss minstrel76 Oct 2018 #199

Oh lord. I am so sorry. crazytown Oct 2018 #200

This is so sad... BigmanPigman Oct 2018 #201

I'm so sorry for your loss. Power 2 the People Oct 2018 #202

Sending sympathetic thoughts to you and your family.... northoftheborder Oct 2018 #203

My deep condolences to you and your sons polmaven Oct 2018 #204

I am saddened by your loss. marble falls Oct 2018 #205

My deepest sympathies... farmbo Oct 2018 #206

I am terribly saddened to hear of your loss. Moostache Oct 2018 #207

My heart aches for you. I'm so sorry for your loss. NurseJackie Oct 2018 #208

Love and peace to you. Freedomofspeech Oct 2018 #209

Sending you and your children 💕✨☀️ MLAA Oct 2018 #210

I'm so sorry for your loss. debsy Oct 2018 #211

My heart goes out to you and your family. nt chowder66 Oct 2018 #212

So sorry for your loss. duforsure Oct 2018 #213

Truly, truly sorry for your loss. LoisB Oct 2018 #214

Deepest condolences on your loss. Behind the Aegis Oct 2018 #215

I am so sorry for your loss. onecaliberal Oct 2018 #216

That looks likearound 1970. You guys are such a beautiful couple. zonkers Oct 2018 #217

It was 1971, when we were visiting my aunt in Miami SoCalDem Oct 2018 #220

So sorry for your loss bpj62 Oct 2018 #218

I am very sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. Kind of Blue Oct 2018 #219

Sorry for your loss. Jim__ Oct 2018 #221

My dearest SoCalDem, my heart goes out to your huband, you and your family. scubadude Oct 2018 #222

OMG! I'm so sorry for you and your kids. TheBlackAdder Oct 2018 #223

So, so sorry for your loss and pain,SCD. stuffmatters Oct 2018 #224

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, SCD yonder Oct 2018 #225

My heart aches for you, SoCalDem... choie Oct 2018 #226

Deepest sympathy from an internet stranger... 50 Shades Of Blue Oct 2018 #227

I am so sorry. trof Oct 2018 #228

Ready for the kicker? SoCalDem Oct 2018 #229

damn trof Oct 2018 #231

I am so sorry for your loss. sheshe2 Oct 2018 #230

In your photo he appears to be a very kind man ZZenith Oct 2018 #232

So very sorry. WinstonSmith4740 Oct 2018 #233

Very sorry for your loss. MarvinGardens Oct 2018 #236

I'm so sorry, SoCalDem. SalmonChantedEvening Oct 2018 #238

I'm so sorry PennyK Oct 2018 #239

Prayers to you and your husband benld74 Oct 2018 #240

So sorry for your loss. littlemissmartypants Oct 2018 #241

My deepest condolences. sl8 Oct 2018 #242

Oh my Dear SoCal annabanana Oct 2018 #243

... UTUSN Oct 2018 #244

Peace friend Wawannabe Oct 2018 #245

My deepest sympathy to you! AwakeAtLast Oct 2018 #246

So sorry for this terrible loss peacebuzzard Oct 2018 #247

My condolences Hoosier Oct 2018 #248

We are never ready. Peace to you. LuckyLib Oct 2018 #249

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. You made a fine looking couple. flying_wahini Oct 2018 #250

I am so very sorry, I wish I had more and better words for you. FM123 Oct 2018 #251

I am so sorry for your loss meadowlark5 Oct 2018 #252

Oh no! cilla4progress Oct 2018 #253

I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband, SoCalDem. (((hugs))) sueh Oct 2018 #254

Greatest condolences oldtime dfl_er Oct 2018 #255

Sharing is healing randr Oct 2018 #256

So sad to read this...you were a beautiful couple! OAITW r.2.0 Oct 2018 #257

*hugs* sakabatou Oct 2018 #258

My heart goes out to you, SoCalDem frogmarch Oct 2018 #259

So very sorry samplegirl Oct 2018 #260

I'm so sorry. blogslut Oct 2018 #261

What a wonderful life you must have led. MicaelS Oct 2018 #262

My heart goes out to you... Phentex Oct 2018 #263

Very Very sorry! bluestarone Oct 2018 #264

My sincerest sympathies to you and your family Niagara Oct 2018 #265

Oh honey. I am so very sorry. nolabear Oct 2018 #266

Thats awful. Im so sorry imavoter Nov 2018 #267

Wow! Deepest Condolences SCD! ProfessorGAC Nov 2018 #268

SoCalDem, I send you my profound condolences. kairos12 Nov 2018 #269

I am so sorry for your loss. yardwork Nov 2018 #270

I'm so sorry... LeftInTX Nov 2018 #271

I only just now saw this, linked from another post. I am so very sorry. Tanuki Nov 2018 #272

Sending love and sympathy Danmel Nov 2018 #273

Sincere condolences to you and your family. peekaloo Nov 2018 #274

You have my most heartfelt condolences MrScorpio Nov 2018 #275

My heart aches for you. williesgirl Nov 2018 #276

I can't begin to know what you're going through... MissMillie Nov 2018 #277

I'm very sorry to hear this underpants Nov 2018 #278

I am sorry for your loss. GWC58 Nov 2018 #279

Very sorry. Take care still_one Nov 2018 #280

I hope you and your family are at peace. riversedge Nov 2018 #281

I am so, so sorry, SoCalDem. nt tblue37 Nov 2018 #282

Sorry. You and your family ghostsinthemachine Nov 2018 #283