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MarianJack

(10,237 posts)
55. Scorn isn't an issue here.
Fri Aug 10, 2012, 10:13 PM
Aug 2012

I have nothing but respect for my son's birth mother. I appreciate the choice she made. This does not change the fact that she stated that she DID NOT WANT her baby. Perhaps she came to regret that decision, but in the course of the open adoption we agreed to, she has made ZERO attempts to contact him for the last six years and only one since he was 2.

Perhaps she's moved on? Of course I realize that my perspective as his father since he was 15 weeks old means very little in this equasion. My wife and I have always said that we'd support his contacting his birth mother if he ever expressed an interest. He hasn't.

In your view, it seems that every birth mother must have the same views and feelings that you do. Or maybe my wife and I SHOULDN'T have believed her oft repeated statements?

Adoption Affects on Birthmothers [View all] me b zola Aug 2012 OP
Effects Tunkamerica Aug 2012 #1
Affects is the verb. Effects is the noun. OP is correct. 1monster Aug 2012 #10
And the sentence only makes sense if a marybourg Aug 2012 #34
There is ONE reason that my son was available for adoption. MarianJack Aug 2012 #2
Thanks for your post customerserviceguy Aug 2012 #3
No Thanks needed. MarianJack Aug 2012 #4
MarianJack Diclotican Aug 2012 #7
When we took custody of our son,... MarianJack Aug 2012 #18
MarianJack Diclotican Aug 2012 #28
I'm an infant adoptee myself customerserviceguy Aug 2012 #39
I think that in his heart of hearts,... MarianJack Aug 2012 #43
You don't know that she didn't WANT BlueToTheBone Aug 2012 #5
Speaking as a person who wasactually there... MarianJack Aug 2012 #6
Well, I'm glad you wanted the child. BlueToTheBone Aug 2012 #8
He isn't "the child"... MarianJack Aug 2012 #13
Exactly. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #33
No, you do not know...... citizen blues Aug 2012 #52
Well pardon my dumb ass for believing... MarianJack Aug 2012 #53
Just have some compassion... citizen blues Aug 2012 #54
Scorn isn't an issue here. MarianJack Aug 2012 #55
EXACTLY PhoenixR Nov 2012 #60
Absolutely. LuckyTheDog Aug 2012 #12
Our son came into our lives when he was 2 1/2 months old. MarianJack Aug 2012 #14
This post was not intended to insult or hurt adoptive parents me b zola Aug 2012 #20
At least three of the mothers in that video have acquired contact with their children. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #21
The insensitivity of your post made me catch my breath me b zola Aug 2012 #25
And the insensitivity of yours annoyed me pretty good. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #30
What the fuck is this AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #32
Post removed Post removed Nov 2012 #59
Ours was an open adoption. MarianJack Aug 2012 #42
Statistically speaking AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #22
If he ever chooses to meet his birth mother,... MarianJack Aug 2012 #41
Statistics are about odds, whom is more likely... me b zola Aug 2012 #56
Odds, and also understanding historical track records. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #57
Understand the implications. no_hypocrisy Aug 2012 #9
The problem isn't the sealing of the birth records. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #23
You are promoting identity theft me b zola Aug 2012 #26
Promoting? You just essentially accused me of PARTICIPATING in it. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #31
You seem to be a willing participant me b zola Aug 2012 #36
You seem to think it's a problem at all. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #37
Post removed Post removed Aug 2012 #44
You don't seem to understand the issue you are advocating. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #46
My first/birth mother didn't have a choice me b zola Aug 2012 #48
And you would be laughed at. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #49
You are serioulsy ill me b zola Aug 2012 #50
That arrangement is not your concern, nor is it a 'civil right'. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #51
So would I PhoenixR Nov 2012 #61
I don't know what your problem is AtheistCrusader Nov 2012 #63
Also, I've already taken care to obtain the medical history of the AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #47
Post removed Post removed Nov 2012 #62
I hope the intention here is not to demonize adoptive parents LuckyTheDog Aug 2012 #11
When our son isn't around,... MarianJack Aug 2012 #15
The intent of the women in the video or mine? me b zola Aug 2012 #19
Sounds like a strawman. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #24
That is the lie that these brave activists are exposing me b zola Aug 2012 #27
No it isn't. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #29
Post removed Post removed Nov 2012 #58
You haven't sourced the alleged 'lie'. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #38
huh. i wish to publicly thank my birth mother for handing me over to the most xchrom Aug 2012 #16
As an adoptive dad, all I can say to you, xchrom, is... MarianJack Aug 2012 #17
To me, the issue isn't to be against the adoptive parents...I don't ever think that. Neoma Aug 2012 #35
A couple of years ago Maine unsealed the records for adults who were adopted as children. Gormy Cuss Aug 2012 #40
Thank you for sharing your experience me b zola Aug 2012 #45
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