Adoptees shouldn't be called adoptees.
We are domestic infant supplies. Commodities. Disposable. Available for purchase. In fact, that's the only way you can get one of us. Even if all someone is doing is paying the hospital bill, you are purchasing a human being. Legal human trafficking.
No one should listen to adoptee's voices. How in the world could we know what we are talking about? We only live the experience. No one else does, but our voices should not be listened to.
Everyone should pay attention to the fairy tale. That's the only thing that counts. The fairy tale that the adoption industry feeds to every single person within hearing distance.
As for adoptees wanting to abolish adoption, and wanting to make sure that if we can't live with our birth parent/parents, at least let us live with an extended family member? Well, it sounds like we are an inconvenience. Even though we are human beings. Like I said, disposable commodities for sale.
And heaven forbid anyone pay attention to this:
"In general, there is a misconception in conventional attitudes that young children cannot and will not remember traumas experienced in their first few years of life. It is commonly believed that children “removed at birth may be spared the impact of ACES” (Anthony, Paine & Shelton, 2019) and although adoptions that take place at an earlier age are often associated with better outcomes (Perry, Hambrick & Perry, 2014), adoptees who experience relinquishment at all ages are vastly overrepresented in mental health and substance abuse clinics, are at higher risk for mood disorders, mental health issues, and are four times more likely to commit suicide than non-adoptees (Sunderland, 2019). Adoptees are an unrecognized marginalized group deserving of specialized services that are currently lacking. This article strives to debunk the myth that even when placed into the best of circumstances, adoptees separated from their birth mothers in early life face challenges with long lasting developmental, emotional, and behavioral consequences."
The entire article is worth reading, and should be required reading for every adult.
https://visiblemagazine.com/the-unrecognized-developmental-trauma-of-early-relinquishment-in-adoption/
Adoptees are the one class of people that has absolutely no voice. Absolutely no control over what happens to us. Absolutely no right to know who we really are.
But why the heck should anyone care about us? As long as we don't inconvenience anyone else, we're supposed to shut up and be grateful that other people decided our lives weren't worth anything, that our emotional health wasn't worth anything. And by all means, our lived experience isn't worth anything.
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