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In reply to the discussion: Father will be reunited with baby adopted without his knowledge, judge rules [View all]Tumbulu
(6,268 posts)I am not in charge of the law. I am writing my opinion on a message board.
I do not know why you concluded that I said that. I was referring to what I read in the article cited. Other articles present the case differently apparently. I was reading that she felt abandoned and filed for divorce and gave her baby away.
What I see are a whole bunch of people claiming that a father who is absent and who does not produce the child himself has some sort of right to enforce the mom to keep the child. Or the right to take the child and raise it himself against her wishes. In this article it appears as though she clearly she thought unknown adoptive parents would do a better job than he would.
Why is the mother not absolutely in charge of where her baby goes? The law is clear that the father is given these rights, but what I am asking is why if he is not actively contributing to the welfare of both the expectant mother and child?
Only in dreams does anyone have this sort of pregnancy, get a grip. Producing a baby is seriously hard, often times life threatening and a big deal. The reason that humans generally pair up for childrearing is that there is a huge biological advantage to the mother and young if they are supported during such a vulnerable time. Equating dad's who are not supportive to dad's that are is the issue.
Although the law clearly treats these two types of dad's equally it seems.