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In reply to the discussion: Showing someone your dick is rape culture [View all]mythology
(9,527 posts)I can't imagine being so limited in my thinking that I couldn't imagine a situation where things are unclear. For example, if two people have been drinking and slip past the point of being legally capable of having consent, are they both rapists and both victims? Legally speaking the answer must be yes. Or if one partner doesn't feel empowered to say no to something, or even says yes without fully agreeing or knowing what said act will feel like.
If you think consent is so easily and clearly determined, go ask a medical ethicist about informed consent. It's a clearly evolving field, and while in general there is less of a knowledge gap than between doctor an patient, but if one partner has more experience, a less experienced partner may not understand what they are consenting to. For example let's say a person consents to give a guy a blowjob, go ask 10 guys what makes a great blowjob, you'll get 10 different answers. If the person is like me (I'm a guy who has a gag reflex that has resulted in a dental assistant getting bitten before), but the guy thinks a blowjob includes deep throating, that's a recipe for disaster. Did the person consent to that? They said yes to giving a blowjob. Life is complicated and while we may understand that a blowjob includes a dick in a mouth, there are lots of variations of what that means. And apply that across all possible sex acts, and it's far more complicated than you think. I would go so far as to say that thinking consent is simple, means you don't really understand the subject at all.
Also while we're on the subject of your logical flaws, I'd like to point out that if I as a guy show my dick unsolicited to another guy that's also a form of sexual violence. Or if a woman shows somebody unsolicited images of herself. Your hetero-normative world view not withstanding.