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Fatemah2774

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56. Great post and if I may comment

Sat Sep 23, 2017, 08:28 AM

Sep 2017

As a transgender woman after being assaulted and raped I had people including some of my female friends who said, well, you should wear pants and jeans instead of skirts.

Grrr.

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What Were You Wearing?' exhibit takes aim at age-old sexual violence myth [View all] sheshe2 Sep 2017 OP

I love this! I attended IU when Bobby Knight VigilantG Sep 2017 #1

You are welcome, VigilantG. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #4

Dear God! get the red out Sep 2017 #30

He was disgusting. He's probably Trump's friend. VigilantG Sep 2017 #37

From a small child to a tall man. No, it doesn't matter. Warpy Sep 2017 #2

Hi, Warpy...thanks for your post. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #5

That sundress made me cry. Such a pretty,happy dress, and a little child would have been so anneboleyn Sep 2017 #24

It is about power but don't forget about female-on-male rape... masmdu Sep 2017 #60

Having to deal with a sexually aggressive woman is not rape. Warpy Sep 2017 #69

So, you're saying a woman can't rape a man? I beg to differ. "Compelled to penetrate" masmdu Sep 2017 #83

I'm speaking to the examples in the article you posted, not the straw man in your title Warpy Sep 2017 #84

Sorry, you lost me there...what? masmdu Sep 2017 #88

It's sad this is still necessary mythology Sep 2017 #3

Yes it is sad but unfortunately our country seems to be regressing. VigilantG Sep 2017 #6

That whole Christian Patriarchy movement enshrines victim blaming Ligyron Sep 2017 #8

You're right that the patriarchal myth hurts both men and women. yardwork Sep 2017 #13

This message is drilled into boys and girls at an early age brer cat Sep 2017 #28

"don't ask for it" sheshe2 Sep 2017 #31

I've read it on DU wryter2000 Sep 2017 #65

Dear Goddess... sheshe2 Sep 2017 #66

Yup wryter2000 Sep 2017 #67

Like Eve was blamed for Adam eating the apple. BarbD Sep 2017 #68

I never had this "drilled into" me or my brother as kids... LakeArenal Sep 2017 #70

I read a column by a man once wryter2000 Sep 2017 #16

He could've also said, "Don't rape" and "Stop men who are raping". SharonAnn Sep 2017 #58

I imagine he did wryter2000 Sep 2017 #63

k+r Blue_Tires Sep 2017 #7

The child's dress mcar Sep 2017 #9

Yes, sheshe2 Sep 2017 #11

I know. Heartbreaking. yardwork Sep 2017 #14

K&R Solly Mack Sep 2017 #10

Banks thbobby Sep 2017 #12

Men do get raped (it's an epidemic in prisons) and all forms of sexual violence are monstrous anneboleyn Sep 2017 #25

I agree with you thbobby Sep 2017 #38

Thank you for speaking out on the behalf of male survivors, such as myself. Behind the Aegis Sep 2017 #39

Happened to my favorite cousin back in 1985 ChubbyStar Sep 2017 #62

I am sorry that you went through that, BtA. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #74

One of the sets of clothes... sheshe2 Sep 2017 #48

+1 nt Gore1FL Sep 2017 #49

This is a topic deserves it's own discussion thread. And here's why: lambchopp59 Sep 2017 #51

Heartbreaking. mountain grammy Sep 2017 #78

You post good threads, sheshe! yardwork Sep 2017 #15

Thanks, yardwork. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #17

Great post and if I may comment Fatemah2774 Sep 2017 #56

I can't... NurseJackie Sep 2017 #18

Hey Jackie... sheshe2 Sep 2017 #20

Haunted. Yes... that's a perfect description. NurseJackie Sep 2017 #23

Are Diapers and Depends HockeyMom Sep 2017 #19

The very old and the very young... sheshe2 Sep 2017 #21

Extremely good point as they have had elderly people Doreen Sep 2017 #36

The child's dress is zentrum Sep 2017 #22

Yes, a variation on the "you made me do it" defense. guillaumeb Sep 2017 #26

Than you. nt sheshe2 Sep 2017 #27

It's all wrong, brer cat Sep 2017 #29

Which means that 6 year old suffered the trauma on her own. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #33

You'd be surprised Lotusflower70 Sep 2017 #54

The tiny pink sundress... MontanaMama Sep 2017 #32

Hug... sheshe2 Sep 2017 #34

Thank you she. MontanaMama Sep 2017 #43

Yes it does, MM. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #44

K&R LeftInTX Sep 2017 #35

I'll never forget this saying, mountain grammy Sep 2017 #40

That is chilling. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #41

That saying is terrifyingly true for too many women. herding cats Sep 2017 #46

I think it's terrifyingly true for all women. mountain grammy Sep 2017 #47

.... this... BlancheSplanchnik Sep 2017 #71

Good questions, every one. mountain grammy Sep 2017 #77

That is very powerful. R B Garr Sep 2017 #42

It is, RB. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #45

Thank you for posting GeoWilliam750 Sep 2017 #50

I thank you for commenting, Geo. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #75

K & R JHan Sep 2017 #52

The other horrible thing that is sometimes said Sucha NastyWoman Sep 2017 #53

tRump said that about one of his accusers... sheshe2 Sep 2017 #73

I wonder if he owns a mirror? Sucha NastyWoman Sep 2017 #85

Rape myths suck Lotusflower70 Sep 2017 #55

I am so sorry for what you went through, Lotusflower. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #61

Thank you Lotusflower70 Sep 2017 #64

Kick. NurseJackie Sep 2017 #57

Any nuns' habits or combat gear? n/t sarge43 Sep 2017 #59

Hi, sarge. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #79

If not in fact, then in spirit. sarge43 Sep 2017 #81

They are there in spirit. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #82

You are a voice for Women, sheshe. BlancheSplanchnik Sep 2017 #72

Not going to happen, Blanche. sheshe2 Sep 2017 #80

that's TRUE!!!! BlancheSplanchnik Sep 2017 #86

Yes!!!! sheshe2 Sep 2017 #87

So glad you shared this. MLAA Sep 2017 #76

have it half way together heaven05 Sep 2017 #89

Thanks, heaven... full equality for all sheshe2 Sep 2017 #91

+1 Man_Bear_Pig Sep 2017 #90