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Response to pnwmom (Reply #40)

Sun Jun 24, 2012, 05:51 PM

43. Instead of assuming the worst about where I'm at, please try and understand.

 

There is no defense of this situation. I see an unspeakable
crime upon an innocent life, for which there is no good
explanation. Somehow the young mother had become
very ill; it's only a sick or starving creature who will do this
to its own offspring.

How does this happen? If we don't try to understand --
and with an effort at compassion even in the face of
an unforgivable crime -- there is less chance of breaking
the cycle of insanity.

Without help, and probably even with help, the abused
child will be an abuser, of herself or others. She will only
feel like *herself* when she is alone, starving, and locked
away in darkness. As horrible as it is, it's her most familiar
safe place, it's what she knows best. One way or another
she'll repeat it as an adult, if she survives to adulthood.

It's bleak and sad, but it happens all the time to so many,
in so many different ways. I wonder what somebody
had done to that young mother when she was a child.
And I wonder what somebody did to that somebody,
on and on -- all the somebodies, who re-enact what they
know best, damaging one generation after another.

My way of thinking isn't about excusing the crime, it's about
breaking the cycle.

Much of my life's work has been about understanding the
human psyche -- in particular, how one gets from utter
beauty and innocence at birth, to point B: for example,
a newborn baby with infinite promise grows in 29 years
into a creature who can torture her own offspring.

When does the damage begin? How can it be stopped?

Every human is born innocent. If you disagree with me
that's ok, but please don't distort my meaning, thank you!



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