I can totally understand this. When my husband finally got a job, we did think about asking the church if they knew a poor family who would want to eat with us to "give back".

We ourselves would not have wanted the humiliation of eating with another family at Thanksgiving. Instead, we donated to that church food pantry every item on a Thanksgiving menu, so those poor families could still retain their dignity, eating alone as a family.

Horrible, for that poor old man.