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In reply to the discussion: A man keeps giving small presents to my 5-year-old daughter, and it's freaking me out. [View all]yellowcanine
(35,698 posts)42. Ok fine but please don't generalize about grandparents. They are no more inattentive than parents
as a group. If fact my observation is that many grandparents are more protective, not less, than the parents simply because they have more life experience concerning what can go wrong. Of course there are the exceptions - grandparents who undermine the boundaries which parents have set. But I do believe they are the exception.
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A man keeps giving small presents to my 5-year-old daughter, and it's freaking me out. [View all]
Liberal_in_LA
Jun 2012
OP
It's not appropriate for him to give her gifts. Tell him and others that it's a rule: no presents!
SharonAnn
Jun 2012
#123
You need a woman to accompany to you to the bookstore - a reverse of that sharia stuff
Liberal_in_LA
Jun 2012
#3
You can buy gifts for your nieces--this old guy is NO RELATION to the little girl.
MADem
Jun 2012
#7
I would bet good money that's what was going on with the old guy kicked out
Honeycombe8
Jun 2012
#72
The old guy in the bookstore was sitting on the floor in the children's area, talking on the phone.
redqueen
Jun 2012
#107
No--I think it reeks of reality. There are a lot of perverts out there. Twenty years ago it
MADem
Jun 2012
#104
" If your gut feeds you racism and sexism, that's on you." That's an . . . interesting spn
4th law of robotics
Jun 2012
#131
Fact: the terms "date rape" and "acquaintance rape" didn't exist about 40 years ago.
raccoon
Jun 2012
#141
There are more cases of workplace discrimination based on race/gender today in the 50s.
4th law of robotics
Jun 2012
#116
I never said we should strive to go back in time. Reading skills are important. nt
Honeycombe8
Jun 2012
#126
No, you just made the absurd claim that because there are more cases now that means
4th law of robotics
Jun 2012
#130
I would be very concerned and would be having conversation with your parents about this. Better
teddy51
Jun 2012
#4
I think those parents should trust their gut. When I go with mine, I'm never wrong. When I ignore
MADem
Jun 2012
#5
that particular issue - this women has genuine reasons to restrict access to her daughter
RainDog
Jun 2012
#11
Ok fine but please don't generalize about grandparents. They are no more inattentive than parents
yellowcanine
Jun 2012
#42
Just a couple of years ago, my granddaughters' ballet recital featured them dancing to
CTyankee
Jun 2012
#52
I find it odd that the gifts are not for both children. That also sends alarms for me. I disagree
IndyJones
Jun 2012
#20
I've known 2-year-olds who would put anything and everything in their mouths
Art_from_Ark
Jun 2012
#32
If the parents ever let the kid out of their sight, they are not doing their job.
xfundy
Jun 2012
#23
You're absolutely correct. I wouldn't give a child a gift without first asking the parents.
IndyJones
Jun 2012
#28
"Not precisely the crown jewels." No but gifts a 5 year old would appreciate more than jewels.
yellowcanine
Jun 2012
#43
A "public letter that tries and convicts?" It's an anonymous letter to an advice columnist.
MADem
Jun 2012
#54
Is the reason she and her hubby are "totally creeped out" because of the gifts? Or is it
Happyhippychick
Jun 2012
#30
I disagree with Prudence's response on this one. The parents should listen to their instincts.
yardwork
Jun 2012
#35
It is simply not appropriate to give gifts to minor children in these cases.
SharonAnn
Jun 2012
#122
I had a discussion with an ex boyfriend about helping a child in distress, say a lost child.
Quantess
Jun 2012
#61
that show "what would you do" put a lost child on the street, crying to people "I'm lost"
Liberal_in_LA
Jun 2012
#78
He is a super nice guy, and very helpful in general. More considerate than most!
Quantess
Jun 2012
#80
its a sad world when any and all acts of kindness is looked upon as sinister and insidious
Sea-Dog
Jun 2012
#65
Why would you single out one of the many gifts the neighbor brought/bought the child?
Honeycombe8
Jun 2012
#87
Your critique of my parenting abilities as detrimental is noted...and rejected...
eek MD
Jun 2012
#140
If this person were a woman it would be a story about the nice woman
4th law of robotics
Jun 2012
#110
Not necessarily wrong. Especially since the gifts are things like feathers and rocks.
alphafemale
Jun 2012
#102
holy shit...one paragraph off a little known advice column and a mob jury gets formed
tjwash
Jun 2012
#103
Tell your parent under no circumstances are your girls allowed to be alone with the neighbors. That
Pisces
Jun 2012
#105
the fact something is given to on exclusively, alone, would have me saying, knock it the fuck off
seabeyond
Jun 2012
#120
He only gives balloons to one child in particular, at the expense of all others...?
LanternWaste
Jun 2012
#148