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In reply to the discussion: Men's Porn Use Linked to Unhappy Relationships [View all]riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)17. Why does everyone believe women are the ones "hunting for evidence" of porn use?
We don't have "his" or "hers" computers here, we have a laptop and a desktop that we share interchangeably. Similarly we have used each other's phones to get numbers or text messages from each other.
Furthermore, I pay the bills. If a weird charge came up, I'd ask him about it. If it were porn, I'd know. If our internet usage suddenly went up, I'd similarly know.
So if my husband were into porn, yeah, I'd definitely discover it but it wouldn't be evidence that I was on the hunt. Lastly, if you have to "hide" the porn on a personal device so your partner or spouse doesn't know then the problem resides with YOU and not the partner if they come across it.
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Or more rationally, unhappy relationships are more likely to result in porn use.
TheWraith
Jun 2012
#3
"a relationship"? That would depend upon which one. I would guess that the number of
patrice
Jun 2012
#4
Who gets to define "negative" and "positive"? & Since we are talking about RELATIONSHIP here
patrice
Jun 2012
#8
Why does everyone believe women are the ones "hunting for evidence" of porn use?
riderinthestorm
Jun 2012
#17
I voted "mostly neutral" because its communication and expectations that matter, not porn.
Warren DeMontague
Jun 2012
#33