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[LeftyMom]

41. It seems like you're a little unclear on a few basic concepts here.

First: Gender identity and orientation are separate. The former is how your acquaintance views herself (I'm using that pronoun since you've indicated that's how she identifies) and the latter is who she finds romantically or sexually attractive. The two are unrelated. If she identifies as female and has sex with men she's not gay.

Second: Your aquaintance's genitals aren't your business. Many trans people don't to surgery at all or only do top surgery (including the vast majority of trans men) for reasons related to the enormous expense, functionality, preserving their fertility or a simple lack of desire to do so.

Third: It sounds like your acquaintance may have been overcompensating prior to her transition and possibly had a substance abuse issue that resulted in the barfights and other acting out? These things don't mean she's not trans. They don't mean she's not female either: women do physical shit and get in fights too.

Fourth: There is existing language to describe fetishized crossdressing. That's transvestitism. It's typically a part time recreational activity, yes. Transsexuality is a full-time gender identity, not a sexualized behavior. It's an entirely different phenomenon.

Fifth: Greer's ideas about excluding biological women are troublesome. Many women have hormonal conditions (PCOS being the most common) that result in hormone profiles close to those of biological men. Many women have had surgeries that remove indicators of female biology. A small percentage of women have intersex conditions that mean they're not genetically XX, and often they don't know until they try to conceive and can't. A biological definition of womanhood is reductive and excludes a hell of a lot of women, no matter how you draw that line, even if you set trans people aside entirely.