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FlaGranny

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38. Cancer

Reply to Douglas Carpenter (Original post)

Fri Apr 24, 2015, 07:55 AM

Apr 2015

Douglas, it is NOT completely out of your hands. Never, ever give up. My mother was diagnosed with lung cancer and was given about 3 months to live. She lived another 20 years.

Giving up is the worst thing to do. Be proactive, get second opinions, live the healthiest lifestyle you can manage, exercise. Live your life, find things to laugh at.

Being diagnosed with cancer is a shock, but don't use it as an excuse to not live your live to its fullest.

Best wishes to you.

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diagnosed with stage 2 Esophageal Cancer [View all] Douglas Carpenter Apr 2015 OP

I'm so sorry BainsBane Apr 2015 #1

That sucks, Douglas. beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #2

I am sorry for you SamKnause Apr 2015 #3

Shit! This is just not fair! Ken Burch Apr 2015 #4

So sorry to hear this, Douglas muriel_volestrangler Apr 2015 #5

ALL MY TRIALS bemildred Apr 2015 #6

This post does not seem like you. merrily Apr 2015 #14

Thank you voteearlyvoteoften Apr 2015 #137

My Sister in law was diagnosed with stage 4 squamis cell lung cancer. appleannie1 Apr 2015 #7

i hope douglas reads this post. and thank you for sharing with all of us, a reminder doctors seabeyond Apr 2015 #60

Lymphoma Roy Rolling Apr 2015 #104

Both these: Don't just give up. But also plan ahead. And all healing wishes to you. villager Apr 2015 #126

it may be treatable. barbtries Apr 2015 #8

Please, see another doctor. Ilsa Apr 2015 #9

... shenmue Apr 2015 #10

Please don't give up. Unknown Beatle Apr 2015 #11

I hate that this is happening to you, Douglas... Violet_Crumble Apr 2015 #12

I am sorry etherealtruth Apr 2015 #13

I don't know much about this. I hope someone else can help. Meanwhile, all I can do is say merrily Apr 2015 #15

Please don't give up. madamvlb Apr 2015 #16

Mayo Duppers Apr 2015 #17

Agreed. Mayo, Cleveland Clinic, Mass General, etc. MannyGoldstein Apr 2015 #75

M. D. Anderson, Houston, is excellent. okasha Apr 2015 #133

Easy for me to say but . . . Depaysement Apr 2015 #18

so sorry, douglas. I hope you have many more years than what you were told cali Apr 2015 #19

"...to face the likelihood of death" < I am sitting next to a little memorial my wife made jtuck004 Apr 2015 #20

This is very saddening to hear! RKP5637 Apr 2015 #21

i am so sorry to hear this please don't give up yet azurnoir Apr 2015 #22

Sorry to hear this, Douglas. Enthusiast Apr 2015 #23

Wishing you strength and serenity in the days to come. Surya Gayatri Apr 2015 #24

I don't wish to give you false hope, but... MrMickeysMom Apr 2015 #25

Get a second opinion. There are so many new treatments BreakfastClub Apr 2015 #26

You sound a kind sort of a soul. Why don't you Joe Chi Minh Apr 2015 #27

I'm sorry Douglas. I wonder if your doctor can refer you to a social worker who could help? RedCappedBandit Apr 2015 #28

Best wishes. Fight it as much as you can. joshcryer Apr 2015 #29

You're not being a downer. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Apr 2015 #30

Hard news to spin positively but malaise Apr 2015 #31

You're not a downer. I spiraled when I got my diagnoses and I still Solly Mack Apr 2015 #32

Sorry what you are going through Douglas, but you may want to consider a second or third opinion still_one Apr 2015 #33

I'm sorry, too. Warren DeMontague Apr 2015 #34

I'm so sorry. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #35

I'm sorry to hear this, Douglas. octoberlib Apr 2015 #36

Make an appointment with an oncologist. kaiden Apr 2015 #37

+100. n/t Jefferson23 Apr 2015 #43

Cancer FlaGranny Apr 2015 #38

Mayo, Johns Hopkins, NIH sorefeet Apr 2015 #39

Hey Doug, sorry to hear about this. Warren Stupidity Apr 2015 #40

... tenderfoot Apr 2015 #41

Dear Douglas, you are a thoughtful highly intelligent fellow, let your ASD help you Jefferson23 Apr 2015 #42

I am so sorry you are going through this. As a cancer survivor (so far), may Nay Apr 2015 #44

Have a sibling who is clear two years after operation for that elfin Apr 2015 #45

my brother is in remission...same diagnosis spanone Apr 2015 #46

My wife was diagnosed with Stage 2B Squamous Cell Esophageal Cancer over 9 years ago. teamster633 Apr 2015 #47

D*mn it, cancer sucks........ a kennedy Apr 2015 #48

Go see an oncologist sharp_stick Apr 2015 #49

I'm really sorry, and I hope it immediately goes into remission forever. Zorra Apr 2015 #50

You need to find an oncologist stat. Has your doctor referred you to an oncologist? greatlaurel Apr 2015 #51

Douglas, my uncle had esophageal cancer & lived about 20 years after his diagnosis. whathehell Apr 2015 #52

Don't apologize - you aren't a downer JustAnotherGen Apr 2015 #53

There is no positive spin, that's a step too far... Tom Rinaldo Apr 2015 #54

Oh man ismnotwasm Apr 2015 #55

Catch your breath. Grieve a bit. Then get yourself to an oncologist! riderinthestorm Apr 2015 #56

I have no suggestions for you, but man that really sucks denbot Apr 2015 #57

right way? douglas, seabeyond Apr 2015 #58

Thoughts & prayers. think Apr 2015 #59

I strongly urge you to go to the best treatment center you can TBA Apr 2015 #61

agree with others here- get a second opinion mopinko Apr 2015 #62

I am very sorry Oilwellian Apr 2015 #63

What is it about gastroenterologists? TexasMommaWithAHat Apr 2015 #64

What a great reply! CountAllVotes Apr 2015 #112

You're welcome. I have many stories TexasMommaWithAHat Apr 2015 #114

I'm sorry to hear this... deutsey Apr 2015 #65

Very sad news Greybnk48 Apr 2015 #66

Wow, I am so sorry. You sure have had your share of woes. I hope you will OregonBlue Apr 2015 #67

We're here for you. myrna minx Apr 2015 #68

I honestly believe there is s certain trust and strength in sharing Sheepshank Apr 2015 #69

Hi Douglas...I'm so sorry you're faced with this diagnosis. BUT.... Avalux Apr 2015 #70

Just remember, as my oncologist told me, "You are not a number!" woodsprite Apr 2015 #71

my advice? Read This Thread. Over and Over. BlancheSplanchnik Apr 2015 #72

So very sorry, but seek a second opinion on the prognosis. Best of luck! n/t Bossy Monkey Apr 2015 #73

I'm so very sorry to hear this. Damn, that's unfair. Just get a second opinion, though... Hekate Apr 2015 #74

I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis. greatauntoftriplets Apr 2015 #76

So sorry about your diagnosis.. Hoppy Apr 2015 #77

Dont know what to say. I dont even know you and I still just dont have words. NoJusticeNoPeace Apr 2015 #78

My heart is with you. MannyGoldstein Apr 2015 #79

That is a beautiful and generous post, Manny. I am sure he'll appreciate it. n/t Jefferson23 Apr 2015 #108

Thanks, but it's only a few minutes of emails and phone calls MannyGoldstein Apr 2015 #121

You're stuck with it, sorry..you're a mensch, Manny. n/t Jefferson23 Apr 2015 #122

I cannot imagine your experience. LiberalAndProud Apr 2015 #80

I am going to pile on here awoke_in_2003 Apr 2015 #81

Douglas, I am so sorry. sabrina 1 Apr 2015 #82

Sorry to hear. ONE IMPORTANT NOTE. As I understand it, Oncologists cannot discuss any treatment GoneFishin Apr 2015 #83

Enjoy every day you open your eyes..... N_E_1 for Tennis Apr 2015 #84

I am new here but, this thread has really touched my heart. I will be praying for you. Hiraeth Apr 2015 #85

The diagnosis is a downer brer cat Apr 2015 #86

Very sad news. Don't give up. Get a second opinion. Hugs and positive energy LoisB Apr 2015 #87

Damn... I'm Very Sorry... WillyT Apr 2015 #88

Look after yourself, Douglas sibelian Apr 2015 #89

My best to you. nm rhett o rick Apr 2015 #90

So sorry to hear that Douglas. cui bono Apr 2015 #91

Don't you worry about being a downer. Curmudgeoness Apr 2015 #92

Dr. Oliver Sacks was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer. Here's what he had to say about it. Electric Monk Apr 2015 #93

Please explore cannabis oil combined with... SHRED Apr 2015 #94

You've gotten the news so many of us fear the most: cancer. lexington filly Apr 2015 #95

U are in no way a downer.. busterbrown Apr 2015 #96

Thank you cp Apr 2015 #97

You're not a downer. hifiguy Apr 2015 #98

I would DEFINITELY get a second and even third opinion. . . BigDemVoter Apr 2015 #99

stage 2 and even stage 3 include surgery in their treatment, magical thyme Apr 2015 #100

I agree with your post! TexasMommaWithAHat Apr 2015 #115

Keep up hope Douglas. We are all here supporting you with uplift and healing energy. Dont call me Shirley Apr 2015 #101

My cousin was dx'd with the same thing CountAllVotes Apr 2015 #102

I am very sorry to read this. Thespian2 Apr 2015 #103

I am so sorry Liberal_in_LA Apr 2015 #105

Dear Douglas MissDeeds Apr 2015 #106

PLEASE READ swilton Apr 2015 #107

Great information. Arugula Latte Apr 2015 #119

I am so sorry you are going through this. hrmjustin Apr 2015 #109

I`m sorry for what you`re going through democrank Apr 2015 #110

I would do some serious research into cannabis oil. Voice for Peace Apr 2015 #111

I'm so sorry marym625 Apr 2015 #113

As a longtime fan of your posts... CrawlingChaos Apr 2015 #116

so very sorry to hear this, douglas. but, before you do anything else--get a second opinion. niyad Apr 2015 #117

(((Douglas))) Arugula Latte Apr 2015 #118

You need an oncologist, stat. And you will be in my thoughts. nt msanthrope Apr 2015 #120

Praying for you..... LovingA2andMI Apr 2015 #123

I have two relatives who got that diagnosis. MADem Apr 2015 #124

I'm so sorry. historylovr Apr 2015 #125

My friend's husband had a similar diagnosis dflprincess Apr 2015 #127

sorry to hear shaayecanaan Apr 2015 #128

Douglas please see an oncologist and a oncology surgeon - you have real options, all is not lost Justice Apr 2015 #129

I am so sorry, Douglas. You will be in my thoughts. NRaleighLiberal Apr 2015 #130

Keep fighting. No one has all the answers when it comes to cancer. /nt MatthewStLouis Apr 2015 #131

Horrible news, I am sorry to hear it. Moostache Apr 2015 #132

Hang in there brentspeak Apr 2015 #134

(((Douglas))) blondie58 Apr 2015 #135

Just know that you're not alone Cali_Democrat Apr 2015 #136

someone is always here on DU for you, Douglas Carpenter Skittles Apr 2015 #138

I had surgery for same about 20 years ago. AtomicKitten Apr 2015 #139

Cancer is NOT a death sentence emsimon33 Apr 2015 #140

No words, just don't give up. NYC_SKP Apr 2015 #141

Message auto-removed Name removed Apr 2015 #142

I am terribly sorry to hear this BUT please don't give up LeftishBrit Apr 2015 #143

ASAP, read "It's Not About the Bike." You will be inspired. proverbialwisdom Apr 2015 #144

.... madfloridian Apr 2015 #145

Cancer diagnosis Not a Fan Apr 2015 #146

Hugs. midnight Apr 2015 #147

In case someone hasn't read this yet. n/t Jefferson23 May 2015 #148