HomeLatest ThreadsGreatest ThreadsForums & GroupsMy SubscriptionsMy Posts
DU Home » Latest Threads » Forums & Groups » Main » General Discussion (Forum) » The Constant Pain Of Bein... » Reply #54
In the discussion thread: The Constant Pain Of Being Ugly. [View all]

Response to mylye2222 (Original post)

Sat Apr 4, 2015, 04:27 AM

54. I don't know exactly what to say

I weigh more than 300 pounds and am bipolar and have been deeply depressed for more than a year. Yet my self esteem, oddly enough, is pretty good. I think a major reason is I have done stand up comedy for more than two decades. Occasionally I do "fat" jokes but not very many, they are rarely stereotypically self deprecating. They're often absurd too. Mostly I cover topics that any comic would. If someone is dumb enough to heckle me they get slammed and thoroughly embarrassed. (And my opening routine is unique and intimidating enough that hardly anyone dares to try to heckle me!) What do I care if they think I'm fat and ugly. I try to have the same reaction if someone says something on the street, though in NYC it seldom happens anymore. I got a lot more flak in my 20s than now that I'm almost 55. Can you train yourself, when people call you names, to say "What makes you think I give a rat's ass what a moron like you thinks of me?" Or an equivalent phrase in French? Some people will respond but I bet the vast majority will be stunned into silence. This will help your self esteem immensely and give you back your power. Also do they have anything like what in the US are called meetup groups? Where people who have a common interest get together for a few hours for a shared activity. There is a meetup group for virtually any interest. People are likely to be friendlier in one, or certainly unlikely to be hostile. Check the Internet to see what exists in France. One specific activity I recommend to bring you out of your shell is an improvisation class. I wouldn't start with that, but after a few months of going to groups give it a chance. It's fun and in beginning classes pretty much everyone is nervous they'll mess up so you won't be alone. A good instructor encourages you to just have fun. It'll take a lot of effort to overcome a lifetime of unhappiness but it can be done. If you're not in therapy consider that too. Hope these suggestions help. Best of luck.

Reply to this post

Back to OP Alert abuse Link to post in-thread

Always highlight: 10 newest replies | Replies posted after I mark a forum
Replies to this discussion thread
Arrow 59 replies Author Time Post
mylye2222 Apr 2015 OP
trumad Apr 2015 #1
wendylaroux Apr 2015 #2
cwydro Apr 2015 #33
Scuba Apr 2015 #48
F4lconF16 Apr 2015 #51
Erich Bloodaxe BSN Apr 2015 #3
H2O Man Apr 2015 #4
sinkingfeeling Apr 2015 #5
dissentient Apr 2015 #6
mopinko Apr 2015 #8
Bettie Apr 2015 #7
femmedem Apr 2015 #9
MBS Apr 2015 #22
cwydro Apr 2015 #34
hifiguy Apr 2015 #38
Egnever Apr 2015 #42
libodem Apr 2015 #10
riderinthestorm Apr 2015 #11
Quantess Apr 2015 #12
rhett o rick Apr 2015 #13
Depaysement Apr 2015 #14
My Good Babushka Apr 2015 #15
Arugula Latte Apr 2015 #16
NikolaC Apr 2015 #17
raging moderate Apr 2015 #18
safeinOhio Apr 2015 #19
DebJ Apr 2015 #20
mylye2222 Apr 2015 #23
RebelOne Apr 2015 #25
DebJ Apr 2015 #57
leftofcool Apr 2015 #21
closeupready Apr 2015 #24
uppityperson Apr 2015 #26
treestar Apr 2015 #27
malaise Apr 2015 #28
CoffeeCat Apr 2015 #29
awoke_in_2003 Apr 2015 #49
upaloopa Apr 2015 #30
LineReply .
Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2015 #31
cwydro Apr 2015 #35
mcar Apr 2015 #32
TexasMommaWithAHat Apr 2015 #36
Chathamization Apr 2015 #56
dawg Apr 2015 #37
steve2470 Apr 2015 #39
Jefferson23 Apr 2015 #40
Dont call me Shirley Apr 2015 #41
hifiguy Apr 2015 #45
Dont call me Shirley Apr 2015 #46
Boxerfan Apr 2015 #43
bemildred Apr 2015 #44
Qutzupalotl Apr 2015 #47
lumberjack_jeff Apr 2015 #50
raven mad Apr 2015 #52
WillyT Apr 2015 #53
LineNew Reply I don't know exactly what to say
AndreaCG Apr 2015 #54
pipi_k Apr 2015 #55
Liberal_in_LA Apr 2015 #58
Liberal_in_LA Apr 2015 #59
Please login to view edit histories.