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Geez onecaliberal Jan 2015 #1
You need to learn a little more about dying. easychoice Jan 2015 #2
that is what I was thinking.....if the ONLY life I had left was languishing in a bed.... VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #4
Respiratory distress is such a fun way to go. GeorgeGist Jan 2015 #5
Not if the patient is comatose Nt newfie11 Jan 2015 #34
The Dr. needs to learn a bit more about bedside manner treestar Jan 2015 #24
Thank you abakan Jan 2015 #27
"When I posted this I never thought I would have to defend myself or my friend." SMC22307 Jan 2015 #60
You are still wrong...But by all means keep beating that horse if it makes you feel any better. abakan Jan 2015 #64
I didn't get that impression at all. Mariana Jan 2015 #29
i agree. nt DesertFlower Jan 2015 #56
Is she in pain though? VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #3
No she is not in any pain. abakan Jan 2015 #6
How do you know that? VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #8
I don't think she is in pain because they have her on pain meds... abakan Jan 2015 #10
there you go....there IS pain..... VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #13
You definitely made a judgement on your friend and put pressure on her Divernan Jan 2015 #14
she had already had her conversation with him abakan Jan 2015 #19
I'm sorry, but enlightenment Jan 2015 #15
+1 n/t tammywammy Jan 2015 #18
No I stated abakan Jan 2015 #21
The point remains. enlightenment Jan 2015 #38
Your friend's mother isn't coming back, is she? Does she have any quality of life now? pnwmom Jan 2015 #50
"If all you want to do is ..." dumbcat Jan 2015 #31
The point I was trying to make is.. abakan Jan 2015 #40
so sorry honey elehhhhna Jan 2015 #51
I should add that I posted with all due compassion,respect and sympathy for your friend. easychoice Jan 2015 #7
I don't see anything wrong with what he said. tammywammy Jan 2015 #9
Then we will have to disagree. abakan Jan 2015 #12
You can't take your situation and apply it across the board. tammywammy Jan 2015 #16
I agree with you newfie11 Jan 2015 #37
Would YOU want to artificially draw out your own death like that? Divernan Jan 2015 #11
I have my advanced directive abakan Jan 2015 #17
If that doc IS a jerk, hospice can run interference for your friend. Divernan Jan 2015 #20
I've had the advanced directive in my will for a long time... CTyankee Jan 2015 #22
I have answered that question abakan Jan 2015 #25
Your friend should contact hospice mcar Jan 2015 #23
She is taking her home and hospice is coming to her house. abakan Jan 2015 #26
That's good mcar Jan 2015 #28
She'll also get help with things like bathing her mother Warpy Jan 2015 #35
My MIL was only on for a weekend mcar Jan 2015 #52
Yes, I had to fight to get my own mother on it. Warpy Jan 2015 #58
I have been in these situations, and the one thing they had in common TreasonousBastard Jan 2015 #30
Oh. While I was typing that you mentioned she is going to hospice at home... TreasonousBastard Jan 2015 #32
Yeah, he stepped on his tongue Warpy Jan 2015 #33
I would not presume to make her decisions abakan Jan 2015 #42
Do you know what you call the person who finished last in their medical school class? MohRokTah Jan 2015 #36
You have your opinion and the doctr had a different one. 99Forever Jan 2015 #39
this was never about points of view... abakan Jan 2015 #44
I have to say when My mother was in the hospital and all the senior doctors were talking about how hollysmom Jan 2015 #41
I understand, but the doctor is trying to help your friend's mom. Avalux Jan 2015 #43
A wonderful response to the OP KMOD Jan 2015 #55
That doctor lacks compassion. Ykcutnek Jan 2015 #45
Thank You for getting it. abakan Jan 2015 #46
What is the quality of life for the mother? LisaL Jan 2015 #54
Thank You for asking abakan Jan 2015 #59
Difficult decisions Fluothane Jan 2015 #47
Even if the doctor said exactly the words you quoted, Ms. Toad Jan 2015 #48
Thoughtful post. (n/t) SMC22307 Jan 2015 #61
As long as she is on a lot of pain medication and is comfortable is what should matter Ramses Jan 2015 #49
Sounds like the death is inevitable. LisaL Jan 2015 #53
when my husband was terminal (brain tumor) the DesertFlower Jan 2015 #57
Were you there at the time? Did you hear the doctor actually use those words? magical thyme Jan 2015 #62
I understand how difficult this is for your friend. Heidi Jan 2015 #63
Death is a funny thing AndreaCG Jan 2015 #65
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