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villager

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14. My Ex didn't get any treatment for her own "bipolarity" until after our marriage collapsed.

Reply to Anansi1171 (Reply #9)

Tue Nov 25, 2014, 04:56 PM

Nov 2014

Years later, our sons nearly grown, she's a lot easier to get along with.

As for your situation though, know that I've been there, and know exactly what you're going through. (Well, except that, not being black, that didn't become an "additional factor" for me in whether to call the police...!)

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Men still hidden as victims of violence in the home [View all] grahamhgreen Nov 2014 OP

Fear of looking weak or "unmanly" prevents many men from seeking help. dawg Nov 2014 #1

Yeah. Once when my ex-wife left bruises and bite marks on my body, I thought about reporting villager Nov 2014 #3

Sorry you had to go through all of that. dawg Nov 2014 #7

Been there with the bruises and bite marks! Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #13

Man, I just replied to your post downthread! villager Nov 2014 #16

Thank you, Brother. Im stuggling to type this. Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #17

Take care, and travel well. villager Nov 2014 #19

I have a good friend, single not surprisingly, Seeking Serenity Nov 2014 #4

You've hit on something that I really think about a lot. dawg Nov 2014 #6

I'm gonna be honest here Seeking Serenity Nov 2014 #8

That's how these attitudes get changed - one person, or couple, at a time. dawg Nov 2014 #12

A lot of women seem to struggle with this davidn3600 Nov 2014 #10

A lot about the gender role breakdown is still a one-way street... villager Nov 2014 #11

It does take a little effort to get that point across davidn3600 Nov 2014 #20

DV is wrong, no matter the genders of those involved. uppityperson Nov 2014 #2

I have an uncle and a male cousin who are both married to abusive spouses. Ykcutnek Nov 2014 #5

Thanks for posting. I am a male victim of a wife with... Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #9

My Ex didn't get any treatment for her own "bipolarity" until after our marriage collapsed. villager Nov 2014 #14

Thanks Villager!-nt Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #15

Yep: "Patriarchy doesn’t just punish women." cyberswede Nov 2014 #18

Sadly, all too common. Behind the Aegis Nov 2014 #21

For some reason, BtA, I'd always hoped GL relationships could at least get past the "usual" villager Dec 2014 #22