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In reply to the discussion: Okay, no spanking. I get that but what's this dad suppose to do? [View all]pnwmom
(108,955 posts)Validating her concerns. This is different than "reasoning." She wants to feel heard -- hence, the screaming.
Here's something you could try. When she screams, face her and whisper back. She might want to know what you are saying, and might even stop screaming long enough to listen.
If she does, then VALIDATE her. Say you understand how much she wants to have dinner the way she always does. Repeat that you realize how important it is for her. Say you are sorry that it just won't work out tonight. ACKNOWLEDGE HER FEELINGS without giving in.
Better yet -- do the validating as soon as she first expresses negative feelings. Don't wait for her to take it to the next level.
Now, while everything is calm, try reading some parenting books for suggestions. Almost every parent has dealt with an out-of-control child, but different things work for different kids. You need to find the tools that work for you.
Hitting isn't acceptable. But holding is. And even picking her up and taking her to her room. Or if you can't do that, then hold her in place right where she is until she calms down. I know it would be easier (and faster) just to hit her, but being a good parent isn't always easy.