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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]adigal
(7,581 posts)92. Please don't misunderstand me...your drinking in no way gave him permission to rape you
I agree with the person who posted after me. We can't really help you. I think you should call a rape hotline or counselor. If you don't want to do that, you really should find a good counselor/therapist, because this was very traumatic and you should get some help in dealing with it. And remember, the counselor cannot force you to report this if you don't want to do so.
Take good care of yourself and get help,
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He totally crossed the line. In fact he sprinted past it. Drunk and asleep means no consent could be
peacebird
Apr 2012
#2
Ditto. He knew exactly what he was doing. Don't fall for his "explanations."
Honeycombe8
Apr 2012
#36
My answer is no more flippant than telling someone not to go walk around in a high crime area
Gman
Apr 2012
#85
So, basically you're saying is "don't get drunk around men, because it's not their
ScreamingMeemie
Apr 2012
#104
Now I have no clue what you are talking about either, other than it has nothing to
Warren Stupidity
Apr 2012
#25
yes, it sounded like this thread. "here" i think, referred to du. i get you dont
seabeyond
Apr 2012
#30
Oh so "here" doesn't mean this thread and "posters" doesn't mean anyone posting in this thread.
Warren Stupidity
Apr 2012
#44
It seems to be okay to rape someone if you're drunk and the female is drunk...
liberalmuse
Apr 2012
#15
You're absolutely not an idiot and you didn't do anything wrong. He's a rapist,
petronius
Apr 2012
#28
You were not an idiot, you drew the line early on perfectly clear when you stated no sexual contact.
polly7
Apr 2012
#31
Just a bit of info, MM. For those of us not doing a "view all" the only thing I saw was...
madinmaryland
Apr 2012
#35
you're allowed to get as drunk as you want. That doesn't mean rape is allowed.
provis99
Apr 2012
#39
and i aplogise if my tone was a little cold, there was a lot of material there to get through
bart95
Apr 2012
#56
Why is it difficult to get it that having sex with an unconscious person is non consensual
lunatica
Apr 2012
#46
As soon as he admitted he did not have your consent. There is your line. nt
Snake Alchemist
Apr 2012
#47
Please don't misunderstand me...your drinking in no way gave him permission to rape you
adigal
Apr 2012
#92
The line is where you want it to be. You have a legal case against him.
redgreenandblue
Apr 2012
#98
I know you're asking an intellectual discussion question here, but on a personal level...
aikoaiko
Apr 2012
#100
He is calling and texting because you caught him in a criminal act and you could file charges.
Xedniw
Apr 2012
#103
I would define that as sexual assault. Totally unacceptable what that guy did.
DutchLiberal
Apr 2012
#106