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In reply to the discussion: Even though I've been obese, I'm not sure what counts as "fat shaming"... [View all]LWolf
(46,179 posts)You don't understand. Let me try to explain. As a middle-ages woman with constant weight issues, in a world that values female youth and slenderness, it's not going to matter what I wear. I'm going to be judged. I know it going in. I know how I look to others.
Fat shaming is why, no matter where my weight is, I NEVER dress up. I NEVER want to attract attention. I dress to avoid attention.
I do not wear anything tight or revealing. Ever. To be honest, I don't know if I would if I were still young and thin. I'm not really a fan of the modern must-be-clingy-and-skin-tight "fashion" anyway. But in a world where I'm judged on what I look like, I generally do my best to slide under the radar.
I'm not obese. I'm not thin. I fluctuate between healthy and overweight. I have a metabolic disorder; thyroid deficiency and type II diabetes. To maintain a healthy weight, I have to limit myself to about 800 calories a day, with NEVER any sugar or complex carbs. Break that rule, and the weight piles on.
Well, it's hard to maintain that forever, so my weight fluctuates. And once the rule is broken, it's really hard facing getting back to the always-hungry life. It would help if I got more exercise, but knee, ankle, and allergy-caused wheezing limits that. So while I do exercise, it's not enough to make a weight difference.