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In reply to the discussion: This is important: steps to take if you cannot figure out a stranger's gender [View all]justgamma
(3,665 posts)19. Ok, here's the thing
I was unloading a truck, driver and I had been talking for a while. Couldn't figure out whether man or woman. Couldn't read name on bill.
Horrors for me. He just had to ask for restroom. What to do? Gave him directions to both. He came back and said "I'm a man!" Because then he knew, I couldn't tell. I felt so bad.
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This is important: steps to take if you cannot figure out a stranger's gender [View all]
Recursion
Jun 2014
OP
There is pithiness with distilled wisdom or pithy with vulgar obscenity & little wisdom.
Bernardo de La Paz
Jun 2014
#49
not at all. you're to ignore that their gender is not blatant or knowable to you, and treat them as
bettyellen
Jun 2014
#39
The challenge in customer service is that we're strictly to address them as sir or ma'am, Mr. or Ms.
DesertDiamond
Jun 2014
#42
Well, bosses should be advised if it is a problem, and then you folllow their guidelines.
bettyellen
Jun 2014
#90
I think the idea is to interact with persons of ambiguous gender without needing to
djean111
Jun 2014
#40
Good - get a job in which you will be fired unless you use "Mr.", "Ms.", "sir" or "ma'am"
jberryhill
Jun 2014
#63
I took "mind your own fucking business" to mean "you probably do not need to know
djean111
Jun 2014
#64
Or, maybe you could get guidance from your manager if it's actually a problem?
bettyellen
Jun 2014
#89
only then does it become relevant -- if you're looking for sexual compatibility
unblock
Jun 2014
#10
But I was really curios....Had a customer at an auto garage I never could tell....
Boxerfan
Jun 2014
#8
Because my interest in a sexual relationship depends on their gender. You really think that's weird?
thesquanderer
Jun 2014
#61
Sometimes you want to address someone with something more respectful than "Hey You!"
IronLionZion
Jun 2014
#37
You say- "Hi, I'm XX!" and proceed accordingly. Let's not pretend it's an actual problem, LOL.
bettyellen
Jun 2014
#41
That's pretty much what I said above. You can get around it a lot more easily in personal
DesertDiamond
Jun 2014
#46