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In reply to the discussion: My mom and dad passed away on Nov. 8 and Nov. 11, 2013. [View all]Hamlette
(15,411 posts)I "made plans" for Thanksgiving the year my mom died (Dad had died 9 years earlier) and Christmas, birthdays, mother's day. Refusing to be alone, or thinking leaving town would help (not really). And like you, there are days that I'm not expecting to be laid low, like Valentine's Day. I remember my mom always bought us girls a gift (supposedly from Dad).
It never goes away. My Dad had been ill for years when he died but Mom was the last of her generation and she went so quickly. I still think of her everyday but have trained myself to put it out of my mind if I think I"m going to try. Not sure that's the healthiest way but it's my way. Took a full year before I went a day without crying. Yet still holidays are hard.
I've thought about how awful it would be if my son or husband died but I never thought about my parents dying. Don't know why.
Big hole.
Sorry for your loss. How is it they died so closely together? Were the causes related or was it just chance?