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169. Is Ms. Glass saying that being "exceptional" in the professional world
Fri Jan 31, 2014, 01:29 PM
Jan 2014

more valuable than being an "exceptional" person, no matter what the choice made- to have kids, to get married, to stay home with kids, to work after having kids, or any number of other choices that are possible?

Seems she is very narrow in her thinking.

Who says that everyone should be trying to be exceptional? pnwmom Jan 2014 #1
To my children, my wife IS pretty exceptional. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #4
Saying something is not exceptional is very different from saying something is not important. Squinch Jan 2014 #142
It depends on the definition of 'exceptional.' Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #146
Of course there are the semantics, but I think pnwmom's point is also an interesting one: Squinch Jan 2014 #149
History strongly suggests this blog poster will die and be forgotten. Barack_America Jan 2014 #10
over a long enough timeline arely staircase Jan 2014 #91
she's basically saying that career is more important hfojvt Jan 2014 #54
learning to read class language brisas2k Jan 2014 #129
I noticed that also. Lunacee_2013 Feb 2014 #252
Excellent point -- class snark. "Only MDs or PhDs count" anneboleyn Feb 2014 #255
exactly. magical thyme Jan 2014 #102
staying home cvoogt Jan 2014 #2
I will argue that staying home more than a few years is pretty unwise in this era... Adrahil Jan 2014 #118
True cvoogt Jan 2014 #137
I was a "stay at home" mom for our three daughters from 1985 through 1999. phylny Feb 2014 #260
Congratulations... Adrahil Feb 2014 #262
No need for congratulations, it's just my story. I do know & agree that there are lots of scenarios phylny Feb 2014 #268
Oh boy ... 1000words Jan 2014 #3
I hate being a stay at home mom. bravenak Jan 2014 #5
"Some women aren't into babies and weddings and homemaking. I'm not. I hate it." Jenoch Jan 2014 #9
Didn't get married. No wedding. Still resisting that one. bravenak Jan 2014 #19
Our oldest is autistic, non-verbal. 20 years old now. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #24
It's very hard. bravenak Jan 2014 #31
may I ask Skittles Jan 2014 #35
Pretty much non-verbal. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #37
whenever I look at childhood photos of me and my brothers Skittles Jan 2014 #41
Yeah, family photos are always a treat. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #49
I think here my brother made him look at the camera Skittles Jan 2014 #52
That is an insanely cute bunch. Squinch Jan 2014 #145
Good luck to to. Jenoch Jan 2014 #25
Thank you. bravenak Jan 2014 #32
Hey, it's not for everyone! calimary Jan 2014 #196
This is the best post I have read today. bravenak Jan 2014 #209
Thanks, elleng Jan 2014 #11
Your welcome. bravenak Jan 2014 #20
Don't feel guilty. Everyone has different strengths, different talents. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #21
I look forward to aquiring that patience like your wife. bravenak Jan 2014 #27
I like to think I'm responsible. She had to develop patience to not kill me Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #30
Good one! bravenak Jan 2014 #36
Why did you have children then? If I felt that way the solution is simple, don't have any children. sabrina 1 Jan 2014 #51
I love having children. I don't love feeling trapped at home. bravenak Jan 2014 #56
Thanks for being totally honest about your experiences, especialy in the face of such unsympatheitc bettyellen Jan 2014 #180
Judging without experience is for conservatives. bravenak Jan 2014 #213
very well said- and looking fwd to hearing about your next chapter! bettyellen Jan 2014 #217
Thank you, bettyellen. You spared me from having to say something myself Number23 Jan 2014 #243
you are welcome. I absolutely get why you hesitate to engage some here. bettyellen Jan 2014 #249
Hugs Stargazer09 Jan 2014 #189
Thank you. bravenak Jan 2014 #212
Do you say the same to men who don't want to be stay at home parents? gollygee Jan 2014 #87
Exactly. I feel like it's 1950 up in here, LOL. That is some regressive BS, right there. Simple is bettyellen Jan 2014 #183
Sabrina, you can have children and not be a stay at home mom... did you mean to ask this question? uponit7771 Jan 2014 #133
very sad to see that needs to be pointed out- and here of all places. Shameful. bettyellen Jan 2014 #191
We're all so different, brave.. built to Cha Jan 2014 #78
I will and I have been enjoying just being with my kids. bravenak Jan 2014 #81
It's such a huge responsibility! Cha Jan 2014 #82
Not for the faint of heart. bravenak Jan 2014 #83
You are wonderful. Your daughter is lucky to have you. Number23 Jan 2014 #244
Thank you. bravenak Jan 2014 #245
Honey, NObody knows what they're doing....... Amaril Jan 2014 #166
You made me laugh so hard!! bravenak Jan 2014 #170
I love this post. And as a mother of two myself, I couldn't agree more Number23 Jan 2014 #246
I'm a full time stay at home dad. davepc Jan 2014 #85
Right on. bravenak Jan 2014 #86
staying home isn't for everyone. ejpoeta Jan 2014 #98
You are so spot on. bravenak Jan 2014 #113
You do what you are supposed to, work, take care of yourself and the kids ejpoeta Feb 2014 #269
So don't be home! Adrahil Jan 2014 #120
I live in alaska. bravenak Jan 2014 #122
Good Luck! ... Adrahil Jan 2014 #123
Thank you!! bravenak Jan 2014 #127
The local fast food places Stargazer09 Jan 2014 #193
I wish you the best. bettyellen Jan 2014 #190
Thank you! bravenak Jan 2014 #205
Flexibity is key to feeling like you are treated as a human being. I have flextime situation right bettyellen Jan 2014 #207
The workday hours don't always work. bravenak Jan 2014 #210
Motherhood is not for every woman.. HipChick Jan 2014 #6
No, of course it isn't. But it's not a lesser choice for those who want to pursue it. nt Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #39
Of course its not ... etherealtruth Feb 2014 #265
An inferior lifestyle is a life spent not doing what you want. Barack_America Jan 2014 #7
I think that's a great way of putting it..."a life spent not doing what you want" Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #13
Yes and what drives these hyper-competitive types?..Why do they need to be "better" whathehell Jan 2014 #58
it is an unfortunate world view- the zero sum game. and as many Moms have that attitude as coworkers bettyellen Jan 2014 #211
It's most unfortunate..I'm an old hippie from the '60s and whathehell Feb 2014 #264
+ eleventy thousand. Squinch Jan 2014 #151
She's a fool. elleng Jan 2014 #8
A choice is a choice is a choice LadyHawkAZ Jan 2014 #12
That IS the whole point--thank you MissMillie Jan 2014 #105
Preach it, sister! Nuclear Unicorn Jan 2014 #241
There's so much wrong with that, it's hard to know where to begin frazzled Jan 2014 #14
Right on. mainer Jan 2014 #90
She's being too provocative. TheMathieu Jan 2014 #15
Agreed customerserviceguy Jan 2014 #88
Everybody criticizes her because she spoke against an accepted social trublu992 Jan 2014 #16
Good post 1000words Jan 2014 #46
live your life according to who you are and be kind enough not to judge someone who made liberal_at_heart Jan 2014 #48
Amen trublu992 JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #126
Of course live your life--but don't criticize how others live theirs frazzled Jan 2014 #132
It's based off a false premise. ZombieHorde Jan 2014 #17
Are there social anthropologist zombies? Rex Jan 2014 #22
Aren't all social anthroplogists zombies? nt ZombieHorde Jan 2014 #40
I think they approach discovering the human brain Rex Jan 2014 #42
Hehe. nt ZombieHorde Jan 2014 #45
I guess it depends on who's DNA is more important ? Corgigal Jan 2014 #18
Thoughtcatalog is about anything but kcr Jan 2014 #23
I hadn't heard of it until I came across this. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #26
It just seems to be nothing but deliberately provocative trolling kcr Jan 2014 #34
Oh, yeah, I remember that one! Warren DeMontague Jan 2014 #65
Yes. It hovers slightly below Delaware's Technical College newspaper. Luminous Animal Jan 2014 #43
Judging women for the choices they have made. geek tragedy Jan 2014 #28
she's wrong Skittles Jan 2014 #29
I think I need you to kick some life choice-trashing ass. nt Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #33
I hear it's trendy to have it all for young women now flamingdem Jan 2014 #38
Not here... HipChick Jan 2014 #44
why do we feel everyone HAS to want kids. ejpoeta Jan 2014 #107
I hope you are joking. Luminous Animal Jan 2014 #66
That sounds like my definition of hell... DeadLetterOffice Feb 2014 #254
Sounds like an judgmental person who doesn't know what it takes to raise a family. liberal_at_heart Jan 2014 #47
'The Hand That Rocks The Cradle Rules The World'! sabrina 1 Jan 2014 #50
"The most important job in the world is to raise the future generation. " defacto7 Jan 2014 #68
+1000!! And anyone who says it's not "work" to stay at home and raise a family SomethingFishy Jan 2014 #144
A follow-up post from Amy Glass (whoever she is) Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #53
She sounds like Abq_Sarah Jan 2014 #70
She sounds very 'childfree'. nt cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #77
I'm child free and would never spout the crap she is spouting. To me she just sounds Squinch Jan 2014 #154
Maybe I just meet the bad apples cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #156
And I have certainly been acquainted with groups that were very critical of Squinch Jan 2014 #160
I have met people who are very critical cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #163
It has never occurred to me to look for places on the net with a good child free presence, because Squinch Jan 2014 #165
Fair enough. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #171
Again, I don't know what "childfree ideas" are. I also don't see those women who Squinch Jan 2014 #176
Again, fair enough. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #184
And you assumed that all women who are child free think this way? Squinch Jan 2014 #187
It seems that I did. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #195
Seriously, I have no idea what you are talking about. "CFdom?" My not having children Squinch Jan 2014 #197
Well yes, that is the point. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #203
I'm familiar with one JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #227
Anyway, more importantly cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #208
Some need their 15 minutes of fame so badly ... Yo_Mama Jan 2014 #55
this eShirl Jan 2014 #69
You've nailed it perfectly RFKHumphreyObama Jan 2014 #234
Precisely! nt Union Scribe Feb 2014 #258
A lot of men romanticize fatherhood Aerows Jan 2014 #57
She's a troll. Just walk on by, stifling a yawn Warpy Jan 2014 #59
Warpy's giving us pearls, here. 1000words Jan 2014 #64
Oh sure you can be a cog in the corporate machine indie9197 Jan 2014 #60
So what she is saying laundry_queen Jan 2014 #61
She's trollin' like a boss. Warren DeMontague Jan 2014 #62
Sounds like an extremely naive young woman who has a lot to learn about life. last1standing Jan 2014 #63
When I was younger -- Nuclear Unicorn Jan 2014 #242
As a woman who decided not to have children, Le Taz Hot Jan 2014 #67
She may think she's a feminist, but look at what she's doing cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #71
She's also devaluing women's work BainsBane Jan 2014 #72
I mean, it sounds like she's totally internalized every cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #75
This moron took it a step further and doubled down in her latest post joeglow3 Jan 2014 #143
I just saw. Yikes. I take back what I said about her being a feminist. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #153
Fair enough. Poor choice of words. Sorry. joeglow3 Jan 2014 #155
Thank you so much for the apology! cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #158
This message was self-deleted by its author Agschmid Jan 2014 #192
First of all, I did NOT call another DU'er a moron joeglow3 Jan 2014 #199
I think that joeglow3 was HappyMe Jan 2014 #200
+100 JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #229
Great post. nt TBF Jan 2014 #94
She's an anti-feminist, actually. A defeatist. pnwmom Jan 2014 #73
I thought feminism was all about unlocking women from a forced path. Barack_America Jan 2014 #223
I know a family that worked very well for. pnwmom Jan 2014 #228
The problem is not staying at home, the problem is perpetual dependency. redgreenandblue Jan 2014 #74
I think this is fine... sendero Jan 2014 #76
I am stuck on the "exceptional" part. MadrasT Jan 2014 #79
Both of my sisters are wives and moms... a la izquierda Jan 2014 #80
Holier than thou... Lost_Count Jan 2014 #84
I was a mom, and then I got a career in later life mainer Jan 2014 #89
Personally I think she is full of herself TBF Jan 2014 #92
well, as a stay at home mom I suppose I am biased. ejpoeta Jan 2014 #93
I actually like laundry - TBF Jan 2014 #95
Yay, laundry! It's a stress reliever mainer Jan 2014 #96
we all have our things. I don't iron. Hate it. I don't mind doing laundry myself ejpoeta Jan 2014 #100
Yeah, it is a fucking shame that 3 billion years of evolution have made females into mothers. CBGLuthier Jan 2014 #97
This is the DUMBEST argument out there!!!!!! mstinamotorcity2 Jan 2014 #99
Being a father is more important to me than anything ... dawg Jan 2014 #101
And if she's never had kids, then how can she compare? mainer Jan 2014 #106
It's poorly worded JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #103
This person... deathrind Jan 2014 #104
Clueless Red Knight Jan 2014 #108
Well, at least she's not one of those people who act like their pets are the same as children alcibiades_mystery Jan 2014 #109
Unknown Feminist Blogger Amy Glass Amazingly Trolls Entire World with Anti-Mom Screed muriel_volestrangler Jan 2014 #110
Your question misses the point. LWolf Jan 2014 #111
This is beautiful JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #112
Yep. bravenak Jan 2014 #115
Excellent points in this post LadyHawkAZ Jan 2014 #164
THANK YOU LWOLF! She did specify YOUNG mothers, redqueen Jan 2014 #174
Is this another "Do as I say, or you're a sheep" blog? Dash87 Jan 2014 #114
Wow, does she ever sound like a jerk.... Adrahil Jan 2014 #116
As a man married to a successful woman and have made a family together I say Boom Sound 416 Jan 2014 #117
A lame attempt at self-justification at the expense of others. MineralMan Jan 2014 #119
Good grief! HappyMe Jan 2014 #121
I have been incredibly fortunate abelenkpe Jan 2014 #124
Whatever happened to respecting others' life decisions? Paladin Jan 2014 #125
+1 n/t KarenS Jan 2014 #128
Many stay at home mothers are ashamed because of people like Amy Glass LittleBlue Jan 2014 #130
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2014 #173
First you post an OP how black men are ashamed to be black in the AA forum, now women are? WOW. bettyellen Jan 2014 #216
I knew it! LittleBlue Jan 2014 #219
No one is defending your shame based crap- not even you. It's pretty transparent. bettyellen Jan 2014 #220
What are you still doing here? LittleBlue Jan 2014 #221
I have no idea WTF you are taking about, and I'm pretty sure that you don't either. Shame, that. bettyellen Jan 2014 #222
It's a shame you defend the author who is bashing mothers LittleBlue Jan 2014 #224
You were the one positing that young mothers (like black men- according to your OP) are ashamed.... bettyellen Jan 2014 #226
You ashamed, bro? LittleBlue Jan 2014 #230
you post about african american men, and now moms being ashamed.Happily your suggestion was rejected bettyellen Jan 2014 #231
You have misread that. Betty ellen was not defending the author. Squinch Jan 2014 #232
not at all, I was actually just commenting on this "shame" nonsense. because it seems like these bettyellen Jan 2014 #233
And it's a little incomprehensible how he read that as you defending the article, but Squinch Jan 2014 #235
it is just deflecting. bettyellen Jan 2014 #238
"Shame, my patooty." Squinch Jan 2014 #239
Can't say pipi_k Jan 2014 #131
I don't look down on anyone. lapislzi Jan 2014 #134
well, she makes the point that motherhood is an average decision La Lioness Priyanka Jan 2014 #135
Some women do not have the choice at all, in either direction. lapislzi Jan 2014 #138
yes, and I think it's an interesting thing to consider that for many women, their passage from bettyellen Jan 2014 #188
I'm a child free single woman over thirty. Sylvarose Jan 2014 #136
I would love to be a stay-at-home mom LibertyLover Jan 2014 #139
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2014 #140
If you choose to raise a child, then fine. That is certainly an important thing to do. But Squinch Jan 2014 #159
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2014 #168
It is nice that you put raising children at the top of the important job list. But others do not, Squinch Jan 2014 #175
welcome to DU! renate Jan 2014 #167
Childfree, so yeah...worked for me, not for everyone n/t PasadenaTrudy Jan 2014 #141
Astonishing quote from her post: mainer Jan 2014 #147
Amy Glass wrote just the month before that a wife/Mom shares the biggest burden of raising the kids Blue Diadem Jan 2014 #148
OK. I think "Amy Glass" doesn't exist, except as a publicity troll mainer Jan 2014 #150
Quite possible (probable) etherealtruth Jan 2014 #152
Yep. I'd bet money on it. Squinch Jan 2014 #161
Looks like we both might have been wrong. See Arugula Latte's post #225. She exists! Squinch Jan 2014 #236
I've done many things in my life Brainstormy Jan 2014 #157
Flame bait - not the OP, the author of the piece. kiva Jan 2014 #162
"How many posters on this thread have proceeded to diminish women who do not have children?" El_Johns Jan 2014 #177
Nah. There have been a couple. But only one or two, and as a Squinch Jan 2014 #179
Wow. Did your computer glitch and take you to another thread while you blinked? kcr Feb 2014 #256
Is Ms. Glass saying that being "exceptional" in the professional world cry baby Jan 2014 #169
No matter what, SOMEONE has to do the dishes! Every job is impoortant. That is why all should grahamhgreen Jan 2014 #172
Just a Different Version of Ann Coulter dem in texas Jan 2014 #178
Fuck up at your job, it can cause a problem. Fuck up when you raise a child, riqster Jan 2014 #181
Well that really depends on the job. nessa Jan 2014 #185
What a pompous ass! MoonRiver Jan 2014 #182
It's hard to say Stargazer09 Jan 2014 #186
If only Amy Glass's mother had believed as she does...n/t Comrade Grumpy Jan 2014 #194
I'd say that my mother managed to be a career woman Arkana Jan 2014 #198
A blogger who decries "word play"... Orsino Jan 2014 #201
She is right in some of her points, even if they are rudely stated. IdaBriggs Jan 2014 #202
I think it's a dangerous choice Demobrat Jan 2014 #204
Nothing in life is usually perfect and the right thing for everyone. This, is one of those RKP5637 Jan 2014 #206
EGADS! Some individual within a huge equality movement has some incorrect ideas! Stop equality! stevenleser Jan 2014 #214
Marie Curie, Elizabeth Gaskell, Indira Ghandi, Margaret Thatcher, Hillary Clinton, JK Rowling Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2014 #215
If women have to choose a career or children it's an unequal world abelenkpe Jan 2014 #218
I googled her and she looks rather young. Arugula Latte Jan 2014 #225
I'l respond on FB as I will use words I can't use here and will RiffRandell Jan 2014 #237
I agree with this article. Vashta Nerada Jan 2014 #240
What parts do you agree with? Common Sense Party Feb 2014 #259
I look down on people who look down on other's career choices. This includes parenthood. uppityperson Jan 2014 #247
This person apparently doesn't believe in to each her/his own. People are crazy in their judgments lonestarnot Jan 2014 #248
Working in the home is only "inferior" because it's unpaid. Waiting For Everyman Jan 2014 #250
Seconded! I still don't know how we ever came to some women believing this tripe about... Shandris Feb 2014 #253
I have no husband or children and don't really want them, but Lunacee_2013 Feb 2014 #251
This seems very much like a backlash against fundamentalism jmowreader Feb 2014 #257
I don't know who Amy Glass is and I don't give a shit what she thinks. nt Ilsa Feb 2014 #261
What snobbery. OnionPatch Feb 2014 #263
I understand her viewpoint leftyladyfrommo Feb 2014 #266
amy glass is nasty piece of work. elehhhhna Feb 2014 #267
The first sentence of the last paragraph you quoted is a non sequitur. Orsino Feb 2014 #270
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