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Wounded Bear

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14. Probably the only 'problem' I had with your post myself...

Fri Dec 20, 2013, 02:55 PM

Dec 2013

I'm truly sorry you were treated that way. Shit like that hurts.

OTOH, I can't go along with saying your friend needs to 'control' his wife and SIL's behavior. That's asking too much of anyone. Is there no way you could still friend him and unfriend the relatives?

I suppose that if he defends their actions, there's not much you can do, but to dismiss a lifelong friend for somebody else's actions could be considered unfair. Assuming your description of what transpired is accurate, I suspect your friend will need you soon, during his impending divorce. The way you said it is revealing. I would say that there is already some 'controlling' going on in your friend's marriage, and it ain't being done by him.

Best wishes to you, though. It's always hard when long term relationships end.

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I ended a life long friendship today because ..... [View all] Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 OP

Did you really end a friendship.... daleanime Dec 2013 #1

Yes they called me everything except a child of god. Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 #3

I hoping that I misread that... daleanime Dec 2013 #12

No you didn't Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 #13

........ daleanime Dec 2013 #17

I honestly think you're overreacting. This is a lifelong friend. pnwmom Dec 2013 #26

Maybe Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 #30

How would they monitor it if you private message him? n/t pnwmom Dec 2013 #32

Depends Sherman A1 Dec 2013 #56

There was nothing else you could have done and I am sorry you had to lose a friend in the DeschutesRiver Dec 2013 #36

It might convince your friend to educate those bigots. alfredo Dec 2013 #42

I can see why you are upset, if the women called you names, you should be. bluestate10 Dec 2013 #59

Did you really just use the phrase "control his wife" on DU? Lizzie Poppet Dec 2013 #11

Yes I did.... daleanime Dec 2013 #15

Just messing with you... Lizzie Poppet Dec 2013 #18

Oops! Missed the smiley. daleanime Dec 2013 #23

Ok maybe its the painkillers. I am in the hospital, just had surgery I am confused. What happened? Katashi_itto Dec 2013 #33

Check the OP... daleanime Dec 2013 #35

Thamks..yeah I'm preety fuzzy summury helped Katashi_itto Dec 2013 #52

That was a terrible way to be treated get the red out Dec 2013 #2

"Get his family in line and set them straight"????? TransitJohn Dec 2013 #4

Why would I waste my time dealing with Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 #6

Probably the only 'problem' I had with your post myself... Wounded Bear Dec 2013 #14

Thank you Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 #19

What they say on his page is his responsibility too. alfredo Dec 2013 #43

Why would you have to deal with them at all? pnwmom Dec 2013 #29

I've never unfriended a lifelong friend on Facebook NoOneMan Dec 2013 #5

Totally agree with you Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 #7

The wife and sister should mind their own damn business Beacool Dec 2013 #8

I hope so Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 #9

They must think their brother/husband is so weak he can't alfredo Dec 2013 #45

your choice Egnever Dec 2013 #10

Not really Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 #16

If I was the husband I'd see their actions as an insult. alfredo Dec 2013 #46

R#6&K for, some lives take more courage to live than others & some friends have less than others nt UTUSN Dec 2013 #20

If you ended it over that, probably wasn't a strong friendship to begin with joeglow3 Dec 2013 #21

That's your opinion and I appreciate you comments Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 #22

I can count on one hand the number of rock solid, life long friendships I have joeglow3 Dec 2013 #24

I wish I could Joe Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 #25

Sins of the father joeglow3 Dec 2013 #31

You are holding your friend responsible for things others said? jberryhill Dec 2013 #27

we have a right to stand up for ourselves against bigots. he should have deleted those comments from La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2013 #28

Thanks Coolest Ranger Dec 2013 #34

i completely understand and my guess is that those questioning your motives La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2013 #38

I dunno, my circle of friends don't share personal shit that riles up spouses on Facebook. aikoaiko Dec 2013 #37

I think putting personal stuff on Facebook or other public forums is a BAD, BAD idea. nt bluestate10 Dec 2013 #60

My thoughts exactly. nt awoke_in_2003 Dec 2013 #67

Sorry for your loss. Captain Stern Dec 2013 #39

I'm sure this is hurting your friend. As a wife, I can tell you, we're not easily controlled. loudsue Dec 2013 #40

If the fellow was not able to talk to his family and... ReRe Dec 2013 #41

SMH Mr Dixon Dec 2013 #44

If the wives had to approve... meaculpa2011 Dec 2013 #47

My daughter did something similar a few months back azurnoir Dec 2013 #48

Over React Much? Stainless Dec 2013 #49

It looks like the wife and sister are very insecure. liberalmuse Dec 2013 #50

I can see dumping the wife and sister Kelvin Mace Dec 2013 #51

Few and far between are the friends who love us through thick and thin... Veilex Dec 2013 #53

I think you handled this entirely the wrong way. vlyons Dec 2013 #54

^^^ Best response of this thread. Flatulo Dec 2013 #57

Your friend could use you, eh? Sounds like he may need the sanity. toby jo Dec 2013 #55

The sister and wife are idiots, but if you recounted everything that happened, you allowed bluestate10 Dec 2013 #58

Am I understanding this....? Demo_Chris Dec 2013 #61

It seems that this is your opportunity BlueToTheBone Dec 2013 #62

tl:dr for you all... Lancero Dec 2013 #63

Why do men always think they can control other people? Warpy Dec 2013 #64

"Un friend" seems like a dumb term to me panader0 Dec 2013 #65

how did I know facebook would be involved? Skittles Dec 2013 #66

Shouldn't he be in trouble with his wife for asking? BKH70041 Dec 2013 #68

Um, let me get this straight... pipi_k Dec 2013 #69

Sounds to me like you hit a nerve with these women. Festivito Dec 2013 #70