It's good to get a man's perspective too, and wonderful to hear that you were so supportive and non-judgmental.

This is one of the things that bothers me most about religion. It leaves so many people feeling guilt and/or shame (whether directly through their own beliefs, or family/social pressure and shaming) even when the things people do are necessary, brave and wise. Our society is very good at shaming...not so good at understanding and seeing more than their own beliefs and views. We are still a misogynist and sexually repressed culture.

Knowing you are ready to be a good parent in all ways is so much better than having to learn to be one by accident. I wonder how many women would be in better places today if they hadn't gotten pregnant too soon, and been too afraid to terminate it.