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TheProphetess

(1,760 posts)
80. I'm heartbroken
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 09:26 AM
Aug 2013

Haven't logged on in years, but I met Shawn here then became friends on Facebook. He was so freaking smart, hilariously funny, and incredibly generous and kind.

One of the first times he really reached out to me was when my very premature son was about a week old and getting ready for a major surgery. I was falling apart and his words were so loving and heartfelt that I felt comforted in his reminder that many people were pulling for us. He allowed me to say the frightening things I had in my head that I couldn't say to family members for fear of upsetting them more.

He continued to follow my son's growth these past 2 years and always sent messages of love and support. He even sent a few gifts for my son and signed the cards "Uncle Dookus". That guy had a heart of gold. He told me once that he had never wanted kids but that my little miracle made him think about reconsidering that decision. He always brightened my day and I truly will miss him immensely.

I can't wrap my head around the fact that I won't get to read his hilarious status updates anymore. He was one of a kind and I loved him very much.

Very Sorry To Hear That, Ma'am The Magistrate Aug 2013 #1
Oh no. closeupready Aug 2013 #2
RIP - nt Ohio Joe Aug 2013 #3
While I was never lucky enough to meet him in person, I felt like I knew Dookus as as friend Rowdyboy Aug 2013 #4
RIP Cali_Democrat Aug 2013 #5
I remember him all... Cooley Hurd Aug 2013 #6
(((((((Dookus))))))) WillyT Aug 2013 #7
RIP Dookus alittlelark Aug 2013 #8
So sorry to hear this. hrmjustin Aug 2013 #9
I so hate reading this. Solly Mack Aug 2013 #10
Thank you. He did. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #13
Oh, damn. :( Solly Mack Aug 2013 #16
Wow. sendero Aug 2013 #129
Oh my. Thanks for that. senseandsensibility Aug 2013 #186
Dookus underpants Aug 2013 #11
. one_voice Aug 2013 #12
I am so sorry for your loss, PeaceNikki. Lars39 Aug 2013 #14
Thank you. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #17
He was a DU original. RIP. Gormy Cuss Aug 2013 #15
Yup. nt RiffRandell Aug 2013 #24
He was a great person Susang Aug 2013 #18
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #19
A fitting response, susang Richardo Aug 2013 #165
I remember him. I'm so sorry for your & his family's loss... Hekate Aug 2013 #20
I fell in love with this ritual when I saw it Hydra Aug 2013 #21
Fuck. REP Aug 2013 #22
he lived in the same house the whole time I knew him PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #31
Here's the skunk thread REP Aug 2013 #46
For Shawn IntravenousDemilo Aug 2013 #77
We weren't extremely close but he pm'd me when he knew RiffRandell Aug 2013 #23
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #30
i remember him, sad to hear this JI7 Aug 2013 #25
Ah Shit! HangOnKids Aug 2013 #26
Safe Passage, Shawn enigmatic Aug 2013 #27
I have a funny thread memory to share Orrex Aug 2013 #28
thanks for that. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #29
That's a great thread memory. Fran Kubelik Aug 2013 #58
lotta old names in that thread hfojvt Aug 2013 #88
He will be missed. Bat Boy Aug 2013 #32
indeed. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #36
Such a lovely tribute for a good guy..gone too soon SoCalDem Aug 2013 #33
I am very, very sad to hear that. Bonobo Aug 2013 #34
He spoke well of you. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #35
My heart is broken with you. Bonobo Aug 2013 #45
I remember Dookus. I remember MonkeyFunk. terrya Aug 2013 #37
He was very much looking forward to meeting you and the others as well. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #38
terrya! Richardo Aug 2013 #163
Richardo! terrya Aug 2013 #177
His name was Dookus. rug Aug 2013 #39
He was combative and opinionated Fenris Aug 2013 #40
aw, you... PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #42
Oh man... hunter Aug 2013 #69
... Richardo Aug 2013 #162
To Shawn. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2013 #41
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #43
Back atcha. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2013 #48
... Richardo Aug 2013 #143
Hi Richardo! greatauntoftriplets Aug 2013 #144
We have lost way too many good DUers over the years. QC Aug 2013 #44
Cross easy, Dookus. You'll be missed. nolabear Aug 2013 #47
Checking in for the first time in a very long while to say goodbye. RandomKoolzip Aug 2013 #49
I almost forgot what your name here was. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #50
Yeah, me too. Took me hours to remember my password. RandomKoolzip Aug 2013 #51
He did...and no one was faster on the draw with a smart, and many times hysterical mtnester Aug 2013 #73
Nice tribute, RKZ Richardo Aug 2013 #161
My first login to DU in years, to pay my respects to one of our best. asthmaticeog Aug 2013 #52
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #53
... Fran Kubelik Aug 2013 #56
... Richardo Aug 2013 #160
... Richardo Aug 2013 #159
Well hey there. asthmaticeog Aug 2013 #175
you'll be seeing me soon Richardo Aug 2013 #176
Still waiting... PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #178
blocked during the day Richardo Aug 2013 #181
Ah, gotcha now!! PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #182
It's been so long since I logged into DU, I couldn't even remember my screen name Fran Kubelik Aug 2013 #54
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #61
He was a funny and big hearted person who had a huge presence. You could not get away with shit...he mtnester Aug 2013 #55
you got it. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #65
I am so sad about this. MuseRider Aug 2013 #57
This saddens me. flvegan Aug 2013 #59
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #63
Wow. Fran Kubelik Aug 2013 #67
Brilliantly stated. Thank you for sharing. Beware the BeastMan Aug 2013 #99
Nicely said, flvegan Richardo Aug 2013 #158
The lounge was never the same without him nobodyspecial Aug 2013 #60
Dookus LWolf Aug 2013 #62
yes. tucker passed a couple years ago. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #64
I remember LWolf Aug 2013 #66
A complicated and smart and loving human being FamilyCircus Aug 2013 #68
Don't post much anymore but needed to check in johnnie Aug 2013 #70
This message was self-deleted by its author CreekDog Aug 2013 #71
RIP Monkeyfunk CreekDog Aug 2013 #72
Thank you all for sharing kind words and memories of him PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #74
Safe passage to Shawn. Call Me Wesley Aug 2013 #75
... Richardo Aug 2013 #157
Well, well, Call Me Wesley Aug 2013 #171
A toast to Dookus/MonkeyFunk! Heidi Aug 2013 #76
... Richardo Aug 2013 #156
!!! Heidi Aug 2013 #184
dang, I liked that guy :-( ucrdem Aug 2013 #78
He was a good friend to us EstimatedProphet Aug 2013 #79
... Richardo Aug 2013 #155
I'm heartbroken TheProphetess Aug 2013 #80
As always, you put it much better than I could. EstimatedProphet Aug 2013 #82
I don't know TheProphetess Aug 2013 #83
As far as I'm concerned... Bat Boy Aug 2013 #125
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #84
... Richardo Aug 2013 #153
I remember him as MonkeyFunk. sufrommich Aug 2013 #81
He touched so many lives prolesunited Aug 2013 #85
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #92
During the heat of the primary wars, there were many casualties. cbayer Aug 2013 #86
This was it. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #94
OMG, you found it! cbayer Aug 2013 #97
i will miss him too La Lioness Priyanka Aug 2013 #87
I know.... PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #96
... Richardo Aug 2013 #154
.. La Lioness Priyanka Aug 2013 #172
I mostly remember him for this hfojvt Aug 2013 #89
I can't hope to add anything dolo amber Aug 2013 #90
I linked his family here and also wrote my own personal 'eulogy' and sent it. Here's a snip PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #91
Awesome dolo amber Aug 2013 #100
... Richardo Aug 2013 #152
I just had to rejoin to pay my respects... Beware the BeastMan Aug 2013 #93
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #95
Love seeing these names. Bat Boy Aug 2013 #126
Cross gently Puglover Aug 2013 #98
RIP Dookus, What a wonderful tribute to see DUers who have not been here in a long Autumn Aug 2013 #101
Indeed, Autumn. I am still waiting for a few others to show their ugly mugs. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #112
So many good ones. And arwalden Autumn Aug 2013 #114
Ah, yes. Screaming Lord Byron days. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #115
"Maddy" remained a close and good FB, and IRL friend to Shawn mtnester Aug 2013 #127
Maddy, I miss her Autumn Aug 2013 #135
I know. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #136
Post removed Post removed Aug 2013 #102
Shawn was an amazing guy and the first person I ever spoke to on the phone after meeting them online HEyHEY Aug 2013 #103
And he even forgave you for having him thrown in the tank. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #105
Yup HEyHEY Aug 2013 #109
I used 2 of his stories in my letter to his family. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #110
Dookus tigereye Aug 2013 #116
yay, you! PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #121
... Richardo Aug 2013 #151
hey old friend! tigereye Aug 2013 #185
That was some all-time hilarity Richardo Aug 2013 #150
Farewell. Call Me Wesley Aug 2013 #104
I think he would have appreciated that. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #106
Batmonkeyfunk! Call Me Wesley Aug 2013 #108
Damn. Raven Aug 2013 #107
A DU original. Thanks, yet sorry, for the post. pinto Aug 2013 #111
thank you. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #113
r.i.p. Blue_Tires Aug 2013 #117
Felt like a punch in the gut when I read PeaceNikki's PM saying "Dookus is gone". Pommie Dinko Cirtbag Aug 2013 #118
And I am so glad that you did, CPD. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #119
I'll try to keep that in mind. Pommie Dinko Cirtbag Aug 2013 #120
Great to see ya here, Pommie. ;) Call Me Wesley Aug 2013 #122
Thanks, Mall We Cesley. Pommie Dinko Cirtbag Aug 2013 #123
... Richardo Aug 2013 #149
Crap, I didn't even see that. trotsky Aug 2013 #173
Nice to see you! Avalux Sep 2013 #195
so sad to lose long time friends and DUers Kali Aug 2013 #124
R.I.P. Shawn malaise Aug 2013 #128
It is good to see the old timers stop in to pay respects - reminds me of the DU of old mtnester Aug 2013 #130
I like when his brother said, "I did you a solid and deleted your browser history". PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #131
Yep - freaking hilarious...as he would want it to be :) mtnester Aug 2013 #132
I wish I could make it to the wake. Stupid time and space. :( PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #133
Ha! That was me. Beware the BeastMan Aug 2013 #134
Goodbye, Daddy Richardo Aug 2013 #137
He would have laughed at that. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #138
I know I did every time I saw it Richardo Aug 2013 #139
... Beware the BeastMan Aug 2013 #140
... Richardo Aug 2013 #142
LOL, despite the sad occasion. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2013 #145
Message auto-removed Name removed Aug 2013 #168
True! greatauntoftriplets Aug 2013 #170
Message auto-removed Name removed Aug 2013 #166
Oh hell to the yes!!! ronnykmarshall Aug 2013 #189
Fair winds and following seas, Dookus. yewberry Aug 2013 #141
Fuck the Amish. Bunny Aug 2013 #146
omg, I'd not seen that one. thanks. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #147
!!! Richardo Aug 2013 #148
The time he told me I won the internet because of a joke I posted is one of my proudest moments. Richardo Aug 2013 #164
A great compliment TheProphetess Aug 2013 #174
Thank you for letting us know. LiberalAndProud Aug 2013 #167
Thank you so much. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #169
Thank you for letting everyone know JanMichael Aug 2013 #179
I hadn't read that thread until today. Good stuff. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #180
Goodspeed, Dookus. Sock Puppet Aug 2013 #183
What a beautiful thread of remembrance and goodwill. It's a shame auntAgonist Aug 2013 #187
RIP Shawn ronnykmarshall Aug 2013 #188
thanks for checking in, rkm PeaceNikki Sep 2013 #190
I didn't see this until now (9/2); I'm so sad to hear this. MonkeyFunk was Flaxbee Sep 2013 #191
Thank you. PeaceNikki Sep 2013 #197
A sad loss JohnnyLib2 Sep 2013 #192
(((()))) Arctic Dave Sep 2013 #193
I knew him as Dookus way back when... Avalux Sep 2013 #194
Zesty, indeed. Sharp words that could cut like knives or be as comforting as a hug. PeaceNikki Sep 2013 #198
Damn. denbot Sep 2013 #196
know that name somewhere PatrynXX Sep 2013 #199
I certainly remember Dookus from way back in the day... villager Sep 2013 #200
Just saw it and wanted to share my shock and best wishes for those that were close. grantcart Sep 2013 #201
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