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In reply to the discussion: More on my friend who lost her food stamps. [View all]leftyladyfrommo
(18,864 posts)I talked to her today about going to the food pantry. I told I would go with her. I got a phone number for her. She knows about the subsidized housing but she is the one that will have to check into that. Just trying to move all of your stuff to a new place is a pretty big challenge when you get older. You can't just pick it all up and throw it in a friend's truck like we used to do when I was younger.
I can't live her life for her. All I can do is make some suggestions. Then it's up to her to try and do some different things to make stuff better in her life.
But I really understand just how hard this all is.
People say that they will just work until they die. But you can't. Your health makes that impossible. She has feet and back problems from standing on her feet all of her life. She has meniers. We all have some kind of problems. I'm in really good health but I find it harder and harder to just stand up when I get out of a chair. My joints get stiff and it takes me a while to get everything moving again. It is a lot harder for me to see things clearly - even with new glasses. My hearing isn't very good any more and hearing aids are just so expensive. She and I both go to the dental school because it costs about 1/3 of going to a regular dentist. I also don't handle heat and cold as well as I used to. You just have to learn to deal with the changes that come
with aging because it just happens. Doesn't matter if you go to the gym all your life your joints still get stiff.
There is just no way I can compete with younger people. Just having more knowledge doesn't cut it. I'm just not fast enough, my memory isn't what it used to be and I just can't stand up under all the pressure. And I get confused a lot more easily than I used to. I have to take longer to just sort stuff out in my head.