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Bennyboy

(10,440 posts)
86. Okay, I am going to say it ( the huge ELEPHANT in the room)
Tue May 28, 2013, 02:54 PM
May 2013

To the people that are protesting, petitioning and defending the 18 year old (and to the 18 year old herself) in this case,

It seems almost as if gay sex is somehow better than heterosexual sex. Not as bad, dirty, nasty or what have you as it would with hetero couples, man and man, even....Even the above examples of Woman on minor male instances. To me it seems, the fact that it is gay sex (between two women...) somehow elevates it from an illegal act to one worthy of cause celebre.

riendsI know alla bout this, I had pretty much the exact thing with my usually younger girlfriends, and the threat broke us up. The parents did not like me and they used the law to keep me away from their daughter (18-16).

So it happens and happens to most of us. if you are a male in my age, "jailbait" was a descriptor. The problem is the parents of the kid that is younger. if they don't like it, then no matter if you are gay, striped, man, woman and any combination thereof, they can fuck your life over.

the law is the law, for everyone. (I think the law sucks personally but there is no chance of that ever changing)

so sex with 14 year olds is ok now? [View all] backwoodsbob May 2013 OP
Apparently you can't see the difference davidn3600 May 2013 #1
Then where do you draw the line? Motown_Johnny May 2013 #10
In my state we draw the line at forty-eight months age difference pokerfan May 2013 #45
Umm...that seems backward. tosh May 2013 #87
How so? pokerfan May 2013 #89
Yes, seemed backward to me as well. Fla Dem May 2013 #94
Ah, yes...that makes sense to me now. tosh May 2013 #97
No, I wasn't the one who posted it. I read it the same as you. Fla Dem May 2013 #99
This sounds like good common sense JimDandy May 2013 #101
Each state decides. elleng May 2013 #56
this is a great example of "rape culture" galileoreloaded May 2013 #43
He's just upset because he didn't get any in high school. n/t Ian David May 2013 #53
I like the new "peer group" meme folks have been floating snooper2 May 2013 #75
I did zipplewrath May 2013 #82
You were in a cult? snooper2 May 2013 #85
Ha! zipplewrath May 2013 #96
This message was self-deleted by its author JimDandy May 2013 #102
Current friends zipplewrath May 2013 #103
This message was self-deleted by its author JimDandy May 2013 #105
so should a 15 year old be charged for having sex with a 14 year old. cali May 2013 #2
this discussion is about an 18y.o. having sex with a 14 y.o. leftyohiolib May 2013 #12
no it's not. duh. unless you think anyone is a teacher at 18 cali May 2013 #23
well idk to what you are refering cause the 18 year old this refer's to is an 18 yo student leftyohiolib May 2013 #37
The problem is with the OP not you or Cali. OP made this about 50 year old men having sex with boys stevenleser May 2013 #92
I agree with you. we can do it May 2013 #46
you knoew why... Niceguy1 May 2013 #3
why can't you discuss it openly? fishwax May 2013 #58
might offend the delicate flowers Niceguy1 May 2013 #64
How often are high-school lovers tarred and feathered? LanternWaste May 2013 #79
South Carolina. Figures. blkmusclmachine May 2013 #4
Oh I'm sorry...the SC person doesn't approve of rape...figures backwoodsbob May 2013 #16
SC has one of the lowest ages of consent in the US, and the law in SC would be better for Kate in FL Bluenorthwest May 2013 #60
I wrote that law?...really? backwoodsbob May 2013 #63
Texas...figures backwoodsbob May 2013 #33
Why don't we stop RudynJack May 2013 #5
there is a cut off it varies with each state- i think it's called age of consent - leftyohiolib May 2013 #9
So what Roman Polanski did is just fine as far as you are concerned? (nt) Nye Bevan May 2013 #14
I said no such thing RudynJack May 2013 #15
There are certainly quite a few adults who believe that "age of consent" laws are unnecessary Nye Bevan May 2013 #17
so Roman Polanski drugging a young girl backwoodsbob May 2013 #20
Drugging somebody falls into the category of "Actual rape" dairydog91 May 2013 #30
so you dont have a problem with backwoodsbob May 2013 #31
Most "children" aren't interested in consenting to sex. Hence "rape". dairydog91 May 2013 #36
Why are you insisting RudynJack May 2013 #40
exactly - FREE WARREN JEFFS!!!!!! DrDan May 2013 #26
Creepy post. ForgoTheConsequence May 2013 #27
What's creepy about it? RudynJack May 2013 #41
You mean only punish people for forcing somebody else to have sex? Blasphemy! dairydog91 May 2013 #32
If it's not black and white, it's he\she said he\she said loyalsister May 2013 #52
There is harm in statutory rape BainsBane May 2013 #83
yup...18 yr old is an adult madrchsod May 2013 #6
not when it comes to drinking he isn't dsc May 2013 #18
if this was an 18 yo man with and 14 girl we wouldnt be having this conversation leftyohiolib May 2013 #7
Or a 18 Year old Catholic? Savannahmann May 2013 #8
Very true. NaturalHigh May 2013 #11
Actually, a large majority of DUers say that it's *not* OK. Nye Bevan May 2013 #13
None of those are high school romances. Ms. Toad May 2013 #19
My solution: No eighteen year olds in high school. hunter May 2013 #21
I agree...it is about the same-sex relationship. n/t cynatnite May 2013 #25
...and this thread... Iggo May 2013 #22
You are seriously comparing those predators to this? cynatnite May 2013 #24
The OP seems to love to write posts rife with logical fallacies. Straw man, False Dichotomy, etc. stevenleser May 2013 #90
I think it's possible... TDale313 May 2013 #28
really? backwoodsbob May 2013 #29
Nope! In_The_Wind May 2013 #34
If they are in the same peer group, attend the same classes, and play on the same teams... ScreamingMeemie May 2013 #35
Attend the same classes? Jenoch May 2013 #54
What "same classes" do 14 and 18 yr olds attend? uppityperson May 2013 #76
Depends upon the school. GreenStormCloud May 2013 #95
True, band would have varied ages. Language 1 might also. Thanks for answering and being polite. uppityperson May 2013 #100
I doubt I'd start petitions... Sancho May 2013 #38
Jerry Lee Lewis Crepuscular May 2013 #39
I don't think it's "ok." I just don't think high school seniors should be lifetime sex offenders nomorenomore08 May 2013 #42
If this was an opposite sex couple doing the SAME THING this would not be an issue. we can do it May 2013 #44
question backwoodsbob May 2013 #47
Did you even read my response? we can do it May 2013 #57
Pissed off parents plus the law would make an issue out of it. JVS May 2013 #65
Opposite sex cases like this get prosecuted all the time, there's just no publicity. El Fuego May 2013 #81
A very small percentage of times this happens ends up in prosecution. Most parents do not prosecute. stevenleser May 2013 #91
How about I ask my brother? Brigid May 2013 #48
then you should be good backwoodsbob May 2013 #49
??? Brigid May 2013 #50
As a member of DU etherealtruth May 2013 #51
+1 MichiganVote May 2013 #55
Agree 100% n/t ChazII May 2013 #59
+++++++++++++++++++++++ uppityperson May 2013 #77
+1 BainsBane May 2013 #84
This is a digusting, homophobic post. we can do it May 2013 #61
How is the op " disgusting, homophobic"? uppityperson May 2013 #80
Arguing about this is totally pointless, imo. Dash87 May 2013 #62
No it's not okay. bravenak May 2013 #66
It should be illegal in treestar May 2013 #67
no sex until you're 18? burnodo May 2013 #68
As it is now maybe treestar May 2013 #71
So long as no one was forced I find it hard to care... Demo_Chris May 2013 #69
It certainly isn't OK for people in their 30s to have sex with 14-year-olds gollygee May 2013 #70
Maybe kids in high school should be allowed to date each other, even freshman and seniors. Jennicut May 2013 #72
That would be the common sense solution. El Fuego May 2013 #73
o deer H2O Man May 2013 #74
Major difference between a TEACHER HockeyMom May 2013 #78
Okay, I am going to say it ( the huge ELEPHANT in the room) Bennyboy May 2013 #86
This OP violates the second commandment of this previous OP, namely, No Straw Man Posts stevenleser May 2013 #88
There is so much stupid bullshit flying around about this. enki23 May 2013 #93
The speed limit is 65...but we're generally allowed to go 70 or 75. Atman May 2013 #104
This was a high school infatuation. Fla Dem May 2013 #98
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