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LOL. bemildred May 2013 #1
A serious graphic look at the issue ("passes", harassment) from another angle: Bernardo de La Paz May 2013 #133
I look at it a simpler way: bemildred May 2013 #134
+10.000 smirkymonkey May 2013 #2
and one... nt uriel1972 May 2013 #117
have always believed that KT2000 May 2013 #3
I said this to my Dad once when he was ranting about SharonAnn May 2013 #31
Very true. LuvNewcastle May 2013 #4
Profound. You've hit the nail on the head. Rozlee May 2013 #125
Home Truths, Ma'am The Magistrate May 2013 #5
K&R! sheshe2 May 2013 #6
This is it, EXACTLY!! annabanana May 2013 #7
Rarely is anything stated as perfectly as this! n/t Sekhmets Daughter May 2013 #8
Yep cliffordu May 2013 #9
How many times must this be explained redqueen May 2013 #10
Exactly! FrodosPet May 2013 #68
Dude, I hope you are just being sarcastic dawg May 2013 #138
I wish I was being sarcastic FrodosPet May 2013 #142
Yeah, that's exactly what it says. Sheldon Cooper May 2013 #139
K&R! TeamPooka May 2013 #11
Just perfect. n/t 2theleft May 2013 #12
That is just part of the equation Rain Mcloud May 2013 #13
Question matt819 May 2013 #14
"Homohatred" Behind the Aegis May 2013 #16
I think they do fear them, only because they know the secret. nolabear May 2013 #21
homomisia. plantwomyn May 2013 #127
Overly simplistic, and not all that useful. Behind the Aegis May 2013 #15
But they hate lesbians too, so I'm not sure that's the full explanation. Nye Bevan May 2013 #17
That's interesting, because in my experience, I've observed that one of the most common men's Zorra May 2013 #35
But it's often two women with one guy rather than strictly two women mythology May 2013 #44
Most every woman can rapidly and easily orchestrate a casual sexual encounter with a man 24/7, Zorra May 2013 #137
Not to the same extent, if at all. And if they do, it's because those women aren't Honeycombe8 May 2013 #51
But lesbians don't scare them n/t eridani May 2013 #53
Oh, no: Straight men LOVE lesbians. That's the double standard. lindysalsagal May 2013 #64
I remember them referring to "Ellen Degenerate" when she came out (nt) Nye Bevan May 2013 #121
Indeed. But, from my POV, it is only Zorra May 2013 #136
I stand corrected. n/t. lindysalsagal May 2013 #144
A gender specific defintion of a general word The2ndWheel May 2013 #18
Wish I thought of that. marble falls May 2013 #19
That is a recurrent joke. dipsydoodle May 2013 #20
K&R Jamastiene May 2013 #22
This message was self-deleted by its author YoungDemCA May 2013 #23
Wait a minute. lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #30
This article IS homophobia, starting with its title, and including its "point". Occulus May 2013 #24
It doesn't seem to do much to explain female homophobes Major Nikon May 2013 #26
And repeatedly perpetuates gay male stereotypes from the POV of HETEROSEXUALS Occulus May 2013 #27
To whom was he attempting to make a point? plantwomyn May 2013 #126
+1. HiPointDem May 2013 #28
It bothers me too. lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #29
That's one reason, yes. Occulus May 2013 #32
Thank you. I better understand where you're coming from. n/t lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #33
Well said. The teacher in the article is a bigot pushing vicious myths. The teacher is also someone Bluenorthwest May 2013 #34
Thank you, I very much agree. nt. sibelian May 2013 #36
I knew something wasn't quite right about the OP. You made it clear, thank you. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #38
+1,000 alcibiades_mystery May 2013 #39
As a reaction to offal Half-Century Man May 2013 #46
Great post! DemocratsForProgress May 2013 #65
Thank you so much for contributing to the thread. nt RedCappedBandit May 2013 #105
A very good post---please consider a GD thread? nt msanthrope May 2013 #122
Well said and 100% correct. n/t cherokeeprogressive May 2013 #42
I'm asking you to post it for the education of DU. freshwest May 2013 #109
The author, Andrew Sullivan, is a gay man. A thoughtful homosexual man who writes. nt Bernardo de La Paz May 2013 #124
I have been aware of him for a very long time. Occulus May 2013 #131
Then apply your own reasoning: Bernardo de La Paz May 2013 #132
Agreed. This is so laden with politics LittleBlue May 2013 #130
K & R !!! WillyT May 2013 #25
I'm a hetero man who has been hit on by Gay men many, many times. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #37
Same here, some of them are my friends. Rex May 2013 #40
I think there are a whole host of presuppositions in this article that are- at best- just wrong Warren DeMontague May 2013 #41
You make a good point. Are all come-ons threatening? Of course not, nor should they be. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #43
Occulus did a very good job of laying out the problems from a Gay Male perspective upthread. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #45
Gay perspective? Half-Century Man May 2013 #47
I'm not sure where you're getting "we" from. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #48
As in general humanity Half-Century Man May 2013 #50
Andrew Sullivan is also gay BainsBane May 2013 #54
That's probably why he said "A Gay Perspective", not "The". nt Bonobo May 2013 #55
Indeed, on both counts. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #56
How is that even relevant? Behind the Aegis May 2013 #66
It's relevant because it's on his blog BainsBane May 2013 #67
It isn't because Occulus was reacting to the blurb as a gay man. Behind the Aegis May 2013 #70
Why is it homophobic swill? BainsBane May 2013 #71
What the fuck is a "straight" shirt?! Behind the Aegis May 2013 #74
I have long wondered why some things are called phobias BainsBane May 2013 #76
The lanuguage is sometimes created for the need. Behind the Aegis May 2013 #81
"Unsolicited advice" BainsBane May 2013 #82
So answering your post is badgering? How convenient. Behind the Aegis May 2013 #83
expecting me to defend another person's writing BainsBane May 2013 #92
I didn't expect you to defend his writing. Behind the Aegis May 2013 #94
Read the posts above BainsBane May 2013 #97
I am not Occulus. Behind the Aegis May 2013 #99
as for "jumping in this thread" BainsBane May 2013 #100
Word salad. Behind the Aegis May 2013 #101
You wrote BainsBane May 2013 #103
No more games. It takes two to play and this has become quite tedious. Behind the Aegis May 2013 #104
that you consider it is a game is clearly the problem BainsBane May 2013 #113
This message was self-deleted by its author Behind the Aegis May 2013 #115
he's also an asshole warmonger. so you could say this is the asshole warmonger gay persons HiPointDem May 2013 #116
I was hit on Berlin Expat May 2013 #118
I second that. Big deal. bemildred May 2013 #141
There's a problem with this arguement. Locut0s May 2013 #49
"Can I buy you a cup of coffee" = "shooting someone" Bonobo May 2013 #52
Did you really just say that? nomorenomore08 May 2013 #57
Au contraire Bonobo May 2013 #58
But they're not talking about "trying to meet someone" or "a polite self-introduction." nomorenomore08 May 2013 #59
Yes, it would be. Bonobo May 2013 #60
If you're that concerned, you should read the second blog post ("How to Hit on Women"). nomorenomore08 May 2013 #61
I'm not "worried". Bonobo May 2013 #62
Okay, fair enough. Your reaction just seemed like a bit much, is all. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #77
Why fucking worry about it? BainsBane May 2013 #69
It has nothing to do with me. Bonobo May 2013 #72
the problem is BainsBane May 2013 #75
No, that is your projection. Bonobo May 2013 #78
I'm sure I am projecting BainsBane May 2013 #79
Ridiculous mischaracterization R US. Bonobo May 2013 #80
What I want to know is, why do some read "some men are rapists" as "*all* men are rapists"? nomorenomore08 May 2013 #85
I don't. nt Bonobo May 2013 #86
interesting question BainsBane May 2013 #89
Ah! This is the point in the show where you imply Bonobo May 2013 #90
reply #68 includes all straight men in this group sigmasix May 2013 #120
Post #68 is a sarcastic response to another post. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #140
Everyone "projects" in some way. Seems to be an inherent feature of the human psyche. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #84
I do not dispute those facts. Bonobo May 2013 #88
All right. I guess I'll have to take your word for it. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #91
If you are really interested... Bonobo May 2013 #93
First of all, that post is rather vague. Second, it doesn't refer expressly to you. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #107
Plausible deniability. Bonobo May 2013 #108
Okay. You've made your point. I still think you're overreacting. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #110
wtf is your problem Whisp May 2013 #111
BB is the one the came and basically said to me: Bonobo May 2013 #112
In any case, what's a little irritation compared to Bonobo May 2013 #114
I find this post out-of-line and sexist. Would you tolerate your marital status msanthrope May 2013 #123
Thank you. Incredibly myopic and self-centered view of sexism on display. nt Bonobo May 2013 #129
I never thought about it that way before. lindysalsagal May 2013 #63
. blkmusclmachine May 2013 #73
The one point I will concede, is that highly homophobic men do tend to treat women poorly. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #87
That isn't really surprising. Behind the Aegis May 2013 #95
Very true. Some manage to deal reasonably well with human variation, others don't. nomorenomore08 May 2013 #96
Amen to that! Behind the Aegis May 2013 #98
Some people Berlin Expat May 2013 #119
This is funny and scary at the same time. bravenak May 2013 #102
Perceptive, but limited. caseymoz May 2013 #106
No, I think it is the fear that other men LittleBlue May 2013 #128
So it's wrong to talk to someone that you might be sexually interested in? Hippo_Tron May 2013 #135
"As a woman, you learn to live with that from the time you are fourteen ..." Arugula Latte May 2013 #143
Egregious!!! TW1780 Aug 2015 #145
Welcome to DU. I think you missed the point of that article. It was not saying rape=homosexality, bu uppityperson Aug 2015 #146
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