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redqueen

(115,085 posts)
396. I've been accused of doing that.
Mon Mar 25, 2013, 03:42 PM
Mar 2013

For posting stuff like this:

http://radtransfem.wordpress.com/2012/01/10/under-duress-agency-power-and-consent-part-one-no/

http://radtransfem.wordpress.com/2012/01/23/under-duress-agency-power-and-consent-part-two-yes/

Everything I post about consent leads to MORE considerate treatment of the intricacies of human interaction, yet that same comment you made about not belonging at this site was directed at me, for those kinds of links.

Really makes one think.

what bothers me most about that article is the implication of the title La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #1
I tried to express that, or something like ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #12
Me, too. I cont'd to participate for a while, to no avail. nt Honeycombe8 Mar 2013 #172
Same here. Warpy Mar 2013 #191
She is being a good little girl just like her father taught her to be. You know, always protect the LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #17
ugh. sorry to hear that. i do agree with you that it's a good girl syndrome La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #21
Yup.... LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #24
Telling on your perp chervilant Mar 2013 #211
Thank you, and a hug right back! LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #231
if it's "normal and right" what's wrong with "telling"? elehhhhna Mar 2013 #130
Lol well he is a homeless alcoholic at this point so, fail in general too.... LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #133
Yes. That false assumption renders it pointless... bettyellen Mar 2013 #53
I agree with you. DURHAM D Mar 2013 #59
She's only been published widely 3x: writing about her "boobs" , Dad as a lover bettyellen Mar 2013 #109
Yes, bettyellen, you've got it: attention and approval from men Hekate Mar 2013 #150
I don't see how it can be anything but intentional. redqueen Mar 2013 #58
the worst is that it helps rapists justify their behavior BainsBane Mar 2013 #205
Good questions. redqueen Mar 2013 #210
we watch a lot of people validate the rape culture and sexism for their own personal reasons. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #213
DING DING DING! Redqueen, you're our grand prize winner! rocktivity Mar 2013 #249
Not to mention she describes her experiences with her father raping her as a 4 year old as LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #2
I am so sorry for your pain. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #5
Thank you. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #6
Me too, LL. redqueen Mar 2013 #7
Thank you. It's hard watching the increasing woman hatred sometimes. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #8
Just so freaking tired sometimes. seabeyond Mar 2013 #14
The way I dealt with it lunatica Mar 2013 #79
Thank you. redqueen Mar 2013 #87
Yes! Thank you. I am sorry it happened to you too. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #88
Hugs lunatica Mar 2013 #96
:) LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #98
And really hard to get rid of when it's such an instinctive reflex/reaction loudsue Mar 2013 #157
It's a learned reaction lunatica Mar 2013 #166
Shame is the hardest. It affects every single aspect of my life Hekate Mar 2013 #237
Yes, I understand very well the dynamics you are talking about. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #238
The adult me figuratively hugged her close and let her cry seabeyond Mar 2013 #91
... Whisp Mar 2013 #94
We both thank you! lunatica Mar 2013 #103
My heart breaks for the six year old you. myrna minx Mar 2013 #320
Regarding chronic disease Hekate Mar 2013 #152
I'm sorry you have suffered with all of this! LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #163
This made me cry. My heart goes sufrommich Mar 2013 #159
I want better for those coming after us. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #164
I didn't see that BainsBane Mar 2013 #232
Oh, Liberal Loner, thank myrna minx Mar 2013 #297
Thank you so much. Oh I hope it helps. Been feeling like we are losing the fight lately. Think LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #298
It's an uphill challange to be sure. The sheer contempt we face even here myrna minx Mar 2013 #300
Thank you. The struggle continues.... LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #301
I agree with you. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #3
Thank you. redqueen Mar 2013 #64
. theKed Mar 2013 #4
Jury results justiceischeap Mar 2013 #22
thank you jury 6. this is jsut another way for men to work at derailing these conversations. seabeyond Mar 2013 #29
I agree. justiceischeap Mar 2013 #33
yup. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #36
Oh, be my guest. theKed Mar 2013 #38
remdi95 niyad Mar 2013 #68
huh? theKed Mar 2013 #111
What is your problem? BainsBane Mar 2013 #206
That's clearly the take-away from this theKed Mar 2013 #207
You responded to a series of posts where women BainsBane Mar 2013 #209
You sure theKed Mar 2013 #212
Not even close BainsBane Mar 2013 #215
"Pass by without being rude" theKed Mar 2013 #222
if you hadn't entered this thread BainsBane Mar 2013 #250
Why are you here? theKed Mar 2013 #251
I am a Democrat who opposes rape, rape apology, and BainsBane Mar 2013 #256
I feel compelled to continue participating theKed Mar 2013 #257
victimize you? BainsBane Mar 2013 #260
I'm sure I'll be just fine. theKed Mar 2013 #262
Victimize you? Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #279
why don't you shove off mercuryblues Mar 2013 #254
who? theKed Mar 2013 #255
the mercuryblues Mar 2013 #258
Who's mocking rape victims? theKed Mar 2013 #259
yes you are mercuryblues Mar 2013 #263
Oh, please. theKed Mar 2013 #264
But you mercuryblues Mar 2013 #266
Not particularly theKed Mar 2013 #267
Not him BainsBane Mar 2013 #261
I'll mercuryblues Mar 2013 #265
Man, i wish I was on TV theKed Mar 2013 #271
LOL theKed Mar 2013 #270
Victimizing you BainsBane Mar 2013 #272
I'm not sure what I'm being called out for, exactly. theKed Mar 2013 #274
This thread is the opposite of flamebait. DURHAM D Mar 2013 #341
+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #350
You twice posted your little popcorn taunt BainsBane Mar 2013 #362
Post removed Post removed Mar 2013 #37
Vanity post? Are you fucking kidding? redqueen Mar 2013 #48
I'm glad you did the OP. Lady Freedom Returns Mar 2013 #165
Thank you. redqueen Mar 2013 #173
NO. Just those jurors in particular. Lots disagree with it. nt Lex Mar 2013 #50
No, only four other despicable people agreed with your despicable Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #65
Lol great post. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #67
don't worry, adding two words to the ToS is on it's way! Whisp Mar 2013 #104
Heh. Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #107
MENZ ONLEEZ sign needed LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #110
It's always Save the Wiener week here. n/t Whisp Mar 2013 #120
Is Anthony back now? (Sorry, had to crack a joke.) LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #125
Nice mischaracterization theKed Mar 2013 #112
I have served on my share of DU juries... ljm2002 Mar 2013 #71
Vanity post? jeff47 Mar 2013 #73
bullies be bullying. feckoff, please elehhhhna Mar 2013 #131
You are awesome!!! LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #135
Vanity post? well, aren't you special Hekate Mar 2013 #154
What the hell is your problem? Normally I'm not one to jump on people but WTF? nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #193
I'm sorry theKed Mar 2013 #195
Apparently the OP was, earlier in life. And is now trying to deal with that. nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #199
I'm definitely not taking that bait theKed Mar 2013 #201
women, how dare they speak in public BainsBane Mar 2013 #219
What the fuck is your malfunction? theKed Mar 2013 #220
Man hating Floyd_Gondolli Mar 2013 #268
Could you please provide three examples of "man hating" in this thread. DURHAM D Mar 2013 #342
How dare women talk about rape BainsBane Mar 2013 #214
When people talk about guns theKed Mar 2013 #218
Please, take that up with Skinner BainsBane Mar 2013 #221
You're welcome to speak your mind theKed Mar 2013 #223
You do know this 'won't someone shut those wimminz up!' shit has been addressed in ATA. redqueen Mar 2013 #225
Why do you assume the post is about awful "menfolk"? BainsBane Mar 2013 #230
I think I have this right... DURHAM D Mar 2013 #226
I think you've managed theKed Mar 2013 #227
Could you post a list of "those topics"? DURHAM D Mar 2013 #228
That isn't your decision BainsBane Mar 2013 #233
. theKed Mar 2013 #236
i think durham said it exactly right. reading you absurdity on how du should run, by such a newbie seabeyond Mar 2013 #289
Why should rape and sexual assault be sent to the feminist forums. NCTraveler Mar 2013 #357
This message was self-deleted by its author myrna minx Mar 2013 #295
Brilliant post! Goes right to the root of the problem and exposes it. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #234
right, because the post talking about how it's okay BainsBane Mar 2013 #208
I'm sure you'll find theKed Mar 2013 #299
This message was self-deleted by its author myrna minx Mar 2013 #294
+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #302
Wow LittleBlue Mar 2013 #115
+1 LTR Mar 2013 #153
When someone publishes a column BainsBane Mar 2013 #216
But people are picking her apart, rather than the article LTR Mar 2013 #239
no. they are picking apart her offensively hurtful and problematic article justifying, excusing rape seabeyond Mar 2013 #290
Believe me, if I wanted to insult you personally... LTR Mar 2013 #332
no. you did personally insult. and you try to take it further. but, lack ownership. seabeyond Mar 2013 #376
Sounds like you're taking more offense than I am LTR Mar 2013 #409
you cannot actually argue what is being said on here so your defense of the author fails seabeyond Mar 2013 #412
"You need therapy" - in a thread about rape. redqueen Mar 2013 #415
+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #417
No, people are picking apart what she publishes. And "narcissists"? redqueen Mar 2013 #334
you must have mercuryblues Mar 2013 #288
...what happened in Steubenville, with Natalia on “Girls,” and with me... all rape is ridiculous. seabeyond Mar 2013 #9
Troublesome is putting it so very lightly... redqueen Mar 2013 #26
yes. and the hyperbole from duers accusing others of outrage with all the trash seabeyond Mar 2013 #31
Oh not just entertained, LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #34
yes. i get it. SOME men get off on the pain that it causes. it is after all how they define their seabeyond Mar 2013 #49
+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #61
I have been reading a bit about that too. Whisp Mar 2013 #128
yes you were. the porn lovers do not like to acknowledge that seabeyond Mar 2013 #132
Your words zappaman Mar 2013 #224
don't you have better things for you to do, like stalk nadin? Whisp Mar 2013 #273
Aw.....you okay? zappaman Mar 2013 #330
like you saying that there is no such thing as kiddie porn? Whisp Mar 2013 #336
Nope. zappaman Mar 2013 #344
nope deux. Whisp Mar 2013 #347
Yes, change what you said. zappaman Mar 2013 #349
thats not bullshit, but Im wondering how You know what every porn watcher thinks. Whisp Mar 2013 #351
Where's your link? zappaman Mar 2013 #353
well at least you got yourself another obsession Whisp Mar 2013 #355
LOL! zappaman Mar 2013 #356
you probably think you are very good and clever about this. Whisp Mar 2013 #359
Clever? zappaman Mar 2013 #363
You seem to be the one suggesting you know what every porn watcher thinks... EOTE Mar 2013 #375
Your words were already posted. EOTE Mar 2013 #373
trying to conflate adult porn with underage shit is like trying to conflate adult sex w/child abuse Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #352
The sheer level of sadism in some people just astonishes me. nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #197
I'm the one who posted it XemaSab Mar 2013 #10
I didn't assume you agreed with it... but I do disagree with you about women's (or girls') redqueen Mar 2013 #13
that she was drunk and underage BainsBane Mar 2013 #217
The age of consent is 16 in several states XemaSab Mar 2013 #246
and 12 year olds are raped BainsBane Mar 2013 #247
Perhaps the author was writing about herself, rather than to your specifications cthulu2016 Mar 2013 #11
perhaps reading comprehension means little and agenda takes precedent. seabeyond Mar 2013 #19
Yep. These kinds of attacks do damage to those of us that care about rape as an issue. Generation_Why Mar 2013 #35
another derail. tell women how if they speak out, you, a man, will no longer be able to support her seabeyond Mar 2013 #52
Oh really? This "attack" does damage how? redqueen Mar 2013 #54
no, she wasn't just writing about herself.. La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #39
Perhaps if you read it, you'd note she talked about more than herself jeff47 Mar 2013 #75
+1000 LittleBlue Mar 2013 #119
you have yet to miss a thread that you cant dismiss women. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #121
+1 LTR Mar 2013 #240
Thanks rq MadrasT Mar 2013 #15
Me too, MadrasT. +1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #20
* MadrasT Mar 2013 #27
I'd like to say it was my pleasure... but it really wasn't. At all. redqueen Mar 2013 #28
this is just another of the insults on du. being told that we are to continually address and educate seabeyond Mar 2013 #32
Which is just another example of why rape culture and the patriarchy are so successful... redqueen Mar 2013 #92
Thank you. Succinctly said. loudsue Mar 2013 #89
+++++++ Whisp Mar 2013 #122
That's what I call a crystal clear testament. nt Hekate Mar 2013 #244
Yep. myrna minx Mar 2013 #304
Excellent analysis rusty fender Mar 2013 #16
Thank you. redqueen Mar 2013 #66
That "first lover" line actually made me nauseous nt Hekate Mar 2013 #243
Some people choose to express themselves in a way that's not suitable to other's agendas... Generation_Why Mar 2013 #18
the point you and others miss. she is directing it to society, to women, to girls and to rapists... seabeyond Mar 2013 #23
+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #25
Spot on. DURHAM D Mar 2013 #44
about the same amount of courage that clarence thomas has on issues La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #45
+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #46
Truth! Very telling she admits to problems seeking attention and approval bettyellen Mar 2013 #86
Boom. Starry Messenger Mar 2013 #155
It takes a lot of confusion... ljm2002 Mar 2013 #85
Like publishing an account from Hedda Nussbaum about LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #95
Just curious. In the 60s and 70s, "free love" was the ideal. How many people here McCamy Taylor Mar 2013 #30
Agreeing to sex that wasn't all that fun is not rape. Wanna know what rape is? LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #41
Why are you asking this question? Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #81
not to mention 60s ad 70s did not even have a word for date rape. was just the way it was. seabeyond Mar 2013 #97
Yeah, date rape is more of a 90s thing, I think. Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #105
And you were born female... LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #113
Powerful! LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #100
It's up to you. jeff47 Mar 2013 #90
I don't see it that quite that way. Nothing is free, and that 'free love' had a price to pay Whisp Mar 2013 #168
I wouldn't be as hard on her as you are being. Nye Bevan Mar 2013 #40
This message was self-deleted by its author LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #42
That could be a place to start but DURHAM D Mar 2013 #51
it really is not even about her. it is about those on du that refuse to think maybe there may be an seabeyond Mar 2013 #56
I think it's analogous to a battered wife blaming herself. Nye Bevan Mar 2013 #72
I don't know, Nye. redqueen Mar 2013 #99
If she was only discussing her situation, I'd agree jeff47 Mar 2013 #93
If some guy had written this stuff, I would be disgusted, would utterly condemn him, Nye Bevan Mar 2013 #106
She's welcome to rationalize her own life all she wants. jeff47 Mar 2013 #108
Isn't that what everyone in this thread is doing? And if they aren't doing that, then why is it patrice Mar 2013 #283
She's not telling her story jeff47 Mar 2013 #305
k and r--thank you, redqueen I did not have the strength to get through that mess. niyad Mar 2013 #43
It wasn't easy. redqueen Mar 2013 #55
I agree, thank you RQ. I know it wasn't easy. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #69
Thanks redqueen. I finished the other thread, got called away before I could respond riderinthestorm Mar 2013 #47
Yes, her catapulting that propaganda to make a buck... redqueen Mar 2013 #57
Thanks for this OP rq DURHAM D Mar 2013 #77
LOL... thank you... redqueen Mar 2013 #83
your willingness to stick your hand in the meat grinder once again. seabeyond Mar 2013 #101
+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #70
I agree, Redqueen and the entire piece sadly reminds me... hlthe2b Mar 2013 #60
It is far, far worse. Because in rape culture, their voices are amplified exponentially. redqueen Mar 2013 #74
thanks for not giving up and just keep plugging away, redqueen. Whisp Mar 2013 #62
Thanks, Whisp. redqueen Mar 2013 #76
Thank you. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #84
Thanks for taking the time to do this... ljm2002 Mar 2013 #63
+++ DURHAM D Mar 2013 #80
Yes, it's easy to see that she might have been just writing shit to get clicks. redqueen Mar 2013 #82
K&R Thank you for taking the time to do this very unpleasant task. n/t Egalitarian Thug Mar 2013 #78
Thank you. redqueen Mar 2013 #102
Now that a day has passed, I feel even more grateful to you. Egalitarian Thug Mar 2013 #285
I agree 100%. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #287
Thank you again.. redqueen Mar 2013 #317
MRA? progressoid Mar 2013 #114
Men's Rights Activist redqueen Mar 2013 #117
Ugh. progressoid Mar 2013 #123
That is shocking. "Don't be THAT girl." Hekate Mar 2013 #245
That's appalling. I'm speechless. myrna minx Mar 2013 #323
What makes me ill is knowing there are people here who agree with it. redqueen Mar 2013 #339
Wonderful OP,redqueen. sufrommich Mar 2013 #116
Thank you, sufrommich. redqueen Mar 2013 #118
Thanks for doing this OP lunatica Mar 2013 #124
Thank you. redqueen Mar 2013 #174
nitpicking and cherry picking, eh? hfojvt Mar 2013 #126
sexual awesomeness and wallet. see, not hard. and rather useless. not to mention the damage it seabeyond Mar 2013 #139
success in terms of money, career and power La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #140
Go start a thread about that and find out. redqueen Mar 2013 #175
I think it very brave of you to take this on, at so many levels. timdog44 Mar 2013 #127
Thank you. And you are so very, very right.. redqueen Mar 2013 #178
So let me get this straight Rajesh Mar 2013 #129
You seem to have completely misunderstood the entire subject. undeterred Mar 2013 #136
OMG you poor thing... ljm2002 Mar 2013 #141
It is safe to assume DURHAM D Mar 2013 #170
reading comprehension is your friend. to go to all that bother and frame your issue so poorly seabeyond Mar 2013 #142
Well bless yer li'l heart. n/t MadrasT Mar 2013 #143
its not her personal story when she extrapolates from herself to others La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #145
Did you even read redqueen's OP? She explicitly does NOT say that riderinthestorm Mar 2013 #146
Wow. Really? Apophis Mar 2013 #149
OMG you poor thing! Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #158
lol! Whisp Mar 2013 #328
Very well put LTR Mar 2013 #242
more insults? not an ability to actually address what you disagree with. just lazy insults? seabeyond Mar 2013 #291
Okay, so you take offense at me using terms like "hotheads" LTR Mar 2013 #331
You get a grip MoclipsHumptulips Mar 2013 #377
lol. now i am a stalker. you good. i do not think there is a post, without personal attack. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #379
+1 patrice Mar 2013 #280
post 248 seabeyond Mar 2013 #292
Wow. Really? That guy didn't even understand the OP, and said "shame on you"... redqueen Mar 2013 #333
Wow. Way to miss the point completely. Zoeisright Mar 2013 #405
This thread has had the effect of lansing a boil for me. loudsue Mar 2013 #134
... undeterred Mar 2013 #137
((((Gentle hugs)))) LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #138
Thank you. loudsue Mar 2013 #156
It is a tearful thread. sufrommich Mar 2013 #160
I'm glad it helped. redqueen Mar 2013 #182
I cried too lunatica Mar 2013 #204
Me too. myrna minx Mar 2013 #296
Excellent! Her article reminds me of the BS tblue37 Mar 2013 #144
Yeah, that's where we're used to hearing such victim-blaming stuff. redqueen Mar 2013 #184
Redqueen Hekate Mar 2013 #147
Thank you, Hekate. redqueen Mar 2013 #185
I agree. Apophis Mar 2013 #148
Thank you. nt redqueen Mar 2013 #186
Agreed. And who are the fuckers at Salon that thought it was a good idea to post this on their site Evoman Mar 2013 #151
the same kind of fuckers that are defending Poppy Harlow and CNN Whisp Mar 2013 #169
Thanks. I wrote to Salon and expressed my disgust. redqueen Mar 2013 #188
Agree on all points but the slander of the BDSM community riqster Mar 2013 #161
I wondered about that part too BainsBane Mar 2013 #179
i believe there is research that states it is a real issue, a community outcry there is an issue. seabeyond Mar 2013 #181
I suppose it's possible that predators are drawn BainsBane Mar 2013 #183
that would have been the point in the article and how important it was to police the community and seabeyond Mar 2013 #187
I was referring to various reports from people in the scene. redqueen Mar 2013 #189
The most obvious response to that... opiate69 Mar 2013 #192
If you are going to say "even more often", you should have proper citations to prove it riqster Mar 2013 #252
Saw that thread, horrible. Rex Mar 2013 #162
I hope the confused listen to you on this point BainsBane Mar 2013 #180
I just will never buy what is being sold. Rex Mar 2013 #390
Oh I think people understand just fine. redqueen Mar 2013 #190
Anyone here on DU that is trying to blur the lines Rex Mar 2013 #386
I've been accused of doing that. redqueen Mar 2013 #396
That is so wrong. Rex Mar 2013 #401
+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #402
If you have to explain how bad sex wasn't rape, it probably was... Kalidurga Mar 2013 #167
When sexual molestation/abuse/RAPE is involved in a child's history... redqueen Mar 2013 #194
I shouldn't be surprised... Kalidurga Mar 2013 #203
Thank you. I was flamed for stating that the OP wasn't responsible... Honeycombe8 Mar 2013 #171
Thank you, I'm glad you find it helpful. redqueen Mar 2013 #196
Sexual counseling from someone whose lost her virginity at age 4 via her own father rocktivity Mar 2013 #176
It's heartbreaking, really. nt redqueen Mar 2013 #198
The girl in Steubenville didn't initially understand she was raped BainsBane Mar 2013 #177
She didn't even remember... redqueen Mar 2013 #200
Yeah, it's the idea that what the other person (usually female) wants doesn't matter. nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #202
It's an enormous problem. redqueen Mar 2013 #229
Yes. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #235
"No one is out there telling women that they have to feel that they were raped" is a horrible line. Igel Mar 2013 #241
My friend Jennifer told me a story when we were both 13. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #248
Thank you, LL. redqueen Mar 2013 #313
:) LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #314
God, you just keep on keeping me on the verge of tears. Evoman Mar 2013 #403
Thank you. That stuff doesn't hurt me anymore. Hearing people support rape or LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #404
As usual, you have given me a great deal to think about Demo_Chris Mar 2013 #253
Thanks. redqueen Mar 2013 #307
Why is this thread being run over and over on DU? ladjf Mar 2013 #269
Over and over? redqueen Mar 2013 #308
well, redq. i saw a thread that cheered the article. and i see a thread that challenges it. seabeyond Mar 2013 #318
Yeah, some people complain about any discussions about rape, though... redqueen Mar 2013 #319
Or they tell us to take the discussion to some man-free zone and be good little LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #322
ah, i was told just this morning, again, it is my "tone". lol. 'pose to be nicer. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #325
LOL it never changes, does it? Been fighting all my life..... LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #326
Thank you for your comments. DURHAM D Mar 2013 #335
Thank you. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #338
I believe the "over and over" LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #324
Yeah... what I don't get is how posts calling out rapists, or rape culture, or sexual harassment redqueen Mar 2013 #340
Maybe there is a reason for that...was just watching a crime show and heard LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #343
I think that cop was projecting. If he wasn't, I don't want to know. redqueen Mar 2013 #346
Like I said, it really stunned me. But it got me thinking... LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #348
I can't even think about it. redqueen Mar 2013 #370
It's really hard to think about, I totally agree. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #374
It's not true!! Tien1985 Mar 2013 #407
I'm glad to hear that! It really shocked and upset me... LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #410
it's as though those making the charge of male bashing BainsBane Mar 2013 #408
That's what I'm trying to figure out. That's why I wondered if they might LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #411
Who knows BainsBane Mar 2013 #416
I agree with you about the age disparity. pnwmom Mar 2013 #275
Where are you seeing presumption? Are you responding to my OP redqueen Mar 2013 #309
I'm responding to your OP but asking a more general question. pnwmom Mar 2013 #364
The article was reasonable, while you're foaming at the mouth. MrModerate Mar 2013 #276
I agree with the article and I think it is being mischaracterized here. patrice Mar 2013 #277
I'm not sure her father raping her at four could be called "a sexually bad experience." LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #278
Was that in the article? I don't suppose it matters that it wasn't if it's true, so I'll edit the patrice Mar 2013 #281
Oh, no, it was another article she wrote, one of three she has had published. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #282
Thank you for the information. No doubt about it, childhood experiences, especially of patrice Mar 2013 #284
I had a great Uncle who spent time in a German POW camp LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #286
LiberalLoner, Sissyk Mar 2013 #316
Thank you. I've been there and find it triggering. I'm also a bit suspicious LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #321
I'm sorry you feel that way about the new group. Sissyk Mar 2013 #327
Thank you! I know you didn't. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #329
at a time when so many are questioning whether raping a gilr that is unconscious is really rape, you seabeyond Mar 2013 #293
Thank you, sea. nt redqueen Mar 2013 #310
Would you ever dare to say that people who claim to be mugged ought not to be taken at their word redqueen Mar 2013 #337
Well written take down of the article. I'm impressed. nt el_bryanto Mar 2013 #303
Thank you. redqueen Mar 2013 #311
Well done, as usual, redqueen. Zorra Mar 2013 #306
Thanks, Zorra. redqueen Mar 2013 #312
+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #315
What is your view on sex while drunk? joeglow3 Mar 2013 #345
If a woman or man does not say "yes" it is rape. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #354
THAT is clear joeglow3 Mar 2013 #358
I would even go one step further, KitSileya Mar 2013 #360
Thank you, and thank you for this great post! LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #367
Thank you. redqueen Mar 2013 #393
Yes. That is the definition of consent. Exactly. MadrasT Mar 2013 #406
Message auto-removed RedAngellion Mar 2013 #361
A sliding scale of rape? myrna minx Mar 2013 #365
Yep. Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #366
Yep, I hope whoever alerted first checked the TOS. nt sufrommich Mar 2013 #387
Popcorn Boy.... Whisp Mar 2013 #388
With "real rape" on one end, Ms. Toad Mar 2013 #380
It's so hurtful. I can't fathom the jollies that some of these folks get out myrna minx Mar 2013 #398
They came to provoke...here's their engraved tombstone Kurovski Mar 2013 #420
I understand some about the sliding scale. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #372
A jury voted 3-3 to let this vile,trollish bullshit sufrommich Mar 2013 #384
Do you have the jury results? n/t Ms. Toad Mar 2013 #385
No,someone must have alerted before me. All I sufrommich Mar 2013 #389
Same here. n/t Ms. Toad Mar 2013 #392
PPR'd. nt geek tragedy Mar 2013 #394
I hope the troll took his jury friends with him. nt sufrommich Mar 2013 #395
Results here: arcane1 Mar 2013 #397
Juror # 2. Puke. sufrommich Mar 2013 #400
She is a young woman in a lot of pain... NCTraveler Mar 2013 #368
I personally don't feel anything but empathy for her. LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #369
It was not my intent to attack her. redqueen Mar 2013 #399
Whenever I read something you write..... NCTraveler Mar 2013 #413
I think she is being victimized by these people over and over again. seabeyond Mar 2013 #414
+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #418
Can not see the Forrest 4Q2u2 Mar 2013 #371
I had the same revulsion for what I call the good girl role, making sure not to LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #381
It's only less than 50 replies to the OP... redqueen Mar 2013 #382
And thank you for showing so clearly why her essay brought up that LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #383
Thank you redqueen MoclipsHumptulips Mar 2013 #378
Thank you... redqueen Mar 2013 #419
So much bad logic...so little time Taverner Mar 2013 #391
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