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In reply to the discussion: Why the "My bad sex wasn't rape" editorial is so utterly, utterly vile. [View all]ljm2002
(10,751 posts)...you had to go to the trouble of creating an account here? Wow, now that is real suffering!
You perhaps did not read that the author of this "eloquent, well written deeply personal story" neglected to mention her own very relevant history of being sexually abused by her own father. Oh, but he was her "first lover", she says. She obviously has a better sense of nuance than us strident feminists, eh?
She states that she was not raped when she drunkenly agreed to a threesome with two 19-year-olds, even though she was only 15 and was drunk for the first time. Well, it is certainly her prerogative to decide how she views that occurrence. But she is arguing that others should make that same judgment, that it was just "bad sex". IOW, if another 15-year-old gets drunk for the first time and is taken advantage of by two 19-year-old boys, she should just STFU and live with it. That is what she is arguing: that if a young teenage girl has exercised bad judgment and a couple of older boys (men by law) decide to take advantage, that is her fault.
Excuse me but I find that attitude wrong on so many levels. I believe this author is very misguided and confused about the issue of rape, and the fact that Salon would publish this tripe is outrageous. It continues to muddy the waters rather than shedding light, and it continues to blame the victim.
Perhaps you should examine your own attitudes. You actually went to all the trouble to create an account here just so you could wag your finger at those of us who found the article offensive? Well excuse me while I