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HillWilliam

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Thu Mar 21, 2013, 02:08 PM Mar 2013

XPost from Pets: I need DU help. My heart is breaking. My partner passed the 28th of last month [View all]

Between us we have seven rescued dogs. With two of us, they had time, 24-hour supervision, abundant love, and care. My job is a 55-mile each way hike. That keeps me from home 12 hours a day. The eldest was his service dog to whom I give great credit for keeping my beloved alive so long. I owe her a loving and dignified retirement. The next, close in age to her (they're both just over 12) is a senior we took in when her original parents lost their home due to foreclosure. The middle child, Emmaline, is extremely devoted to me. These three I must keep.

The weight of grief and the responsibility of holding a job that's far away, trying to keep house, AND give them the love and devotion they're used to is proving to be too much. My first responsibility is to them.

It seems now the right thing to do for THEM is to find the right homes for the rest of them.

The youngest, Roxie, a BC/ACD mix, is a super-bright, super-sweet pup we had designs of training up to be his next service dog. She's extremely fun and funny, but needs more attention than I can give to bring her to her full potential. She has a super-bright future ahead in the right hands. She would have been the perfect new assistant for Rob. She has become buddies with her next-older "sib", Julie, a purebred BC we hoped would be Rob's new assistant. Julie is extremely bright, friendly, affectionate, and socialized, but her interests lie in companionship, not in assistance. These two need to stay together.

I've posted about Callalily before. She was extremely abused, malnourished, untrusting, scared, had little fur, and had many emotional problems when we rescued her. She has become loving, trusting, adores showing off and being petted, lives for the camera and praise. She has healed and needs little more than steady love and approval. She is SUCH a lady. I'm so proud of her accomplishments.

Ashley-Marie is my darling. She's a GSD/Lab/Collie? mix. She's extremely sensitive, loving, and tender. It would be ideal if she and Callalily can stay together. They're very close.

It has taken forever to write this. I'm sobbing profusely. Dear DU, I don't know where else to turn or what to do. My heart is broken. I've lost my beloved partner and in order to do right for our children it looks as if I'll have to lose most of them too.

BUT the ones I can bear to part with can ONLY go to well-qualified, homes on some conditions. They can't be passed again except back to me. They must continue to be "mostly indoor" dogs. They're used to sleeping inside and having continuous guidance. The yard must be fence or they can only be walked on a lead -- not just "turned out" to do their business. And I want updates on their health, lives, progress.

They're still my kids.

I always said I'd rather give up both kidneys and an eye than a dog. There comes a point when one person trying to do a job two people used to and can't, it's called "hoarding" and that's immoral. These kids deserve ever so much more than I alone can give them.

Please help if you can.



Update: I just got a call from Blue Ridge Border Collie Rescue. They might be able to help with the border collie and border collie mix.

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Whereabouts are you? I received a cat years ago from a Du'er who couldn't keep him hedgehog Mar 2013 #1
I'm messaging you, Dear One... OneGrassRoot Mar 2013 #2
Oh my. Helen Reddy Mar 2013 #3
I send you love and energy! peace13 Mar 2013 #4
Condolences on the loss of your loved one RainDog Mar 2013 #5
It is a hard time to make changes, hollysmom Mar 2013 #6
We made a home WAY out in the country HillWilliam Mar 2013 #20
BC Rescue dooner Mar 2013 #7
I got a call back from BC rescue on the BC and BC mix HillWilliam Mar 2013 #18
I'm going to try to word this in the right way ... but I probably won't ... Arugula Latte Mar 2013 #8
may you find loving homes close by for your furkids magical thyme Mar 2013 #9
I am SO SORRY for your loss. IdaBriggs Mar 2013 #10
Again, so sorry to hear this. UnrepentantLiberal Mar 2013 #11
The last thing you need to be dealing with right now. East Coast Pirate Mar 2013 #12
I am so sorry for your loss. FedUpWithIt All Mar 2013 #13
In my county they have foster care. It's for people who can't take care of their pets Cleita Mar 2013 #14
Yes, foster care is the best way to go for the dog. RebelOne Mar 2013 #22
so sorry to hear of your loss. unapatriciated Mar 2013 #15
I am sorry. RiffRandell Mar 2013 #16
So sorry. chatcat11 Mar 2013 #17
I wish I could help... progressoid Mar 2013 #19
Too sad Rider3 Mar 2013 #21
West Virginia No-Kill Animal Shelters Omaha Steve Mar 2013 #23
I love the people on DU. Duval Mar 2013 #24
Most do not come close to the blessed life you had with your partner and kids... busterbrown Mar 2013 #25
Heartbreaking... malokvale77 Mar 2013 #26
I'm in NC HillWilliam Mar 2013 #31
Sorry, I got the WV from Steve's shelter post. malokvale77 Mar 2013 #33
I think you should PM him and also put the word out on DU if he thinks it would work. glinda Mar 2013 #40
that's dreadfull , William mitchtv Mar 2013 #27
I am a dog lover...... chillfactor Mar 2013 #28
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear partner beveeheart Mar 2013 #29
North Carolina Rescue and Adoption DainBramaged Mar 2013 #30
My heartfelt condolences on the loss of your beloved, freckleface Mar 2013 #32
Replying to keep this thread boosted. malokvale77 Mar 2013 #34
Another kick. n/t Cleita Mar 2013 #35
Just wanted to extend my condolence on the life long demo Mar 2013 #36
Please contact The Biscuit Foundation supernova Mar 2013 #37
That's right in my area code HillWilliam Mar 2013 #38
... SammyWinstonJack Mar 2013 #39
Oh sweetie. My heart is really breaking big time for you. glinda Mar 2013 #41
I just got word my niece can't take Roxie HillWilliam Mar 2013 #46
(((HillWill))) supernova Mar 2013 #47
HillWilliam. Can you post any pictures of those needing adoption? glinda Mar 2013 #56
I'm so sorry! sabrina 1 Mar 2013 #42
i'm so sorry for your loss BrotherIvan Mar 2013 #43
kick UnrepentantLiberal Mar 2013 #44
Kicking Sedona Mar 2013 #45
Heartbreaking. tpsbmam Mar 2013 #48
I am so sorry to hear about your partner, hugs to you and best wishes. uppityperson Mar 2013 #49
I wish I was in WV now to help you... a la izquierda Mar 2013 #50
kicked for these furbabies needing a home. Duppers Mar 2013 #51
I'm so sorry, HillWilliam. You must just be going through excrutiating grief and sorrow Flaxbee Mar 2013 #52
kick Duppers Mar 2013 #53
So sorry . . . WoodyD Mar 2013 #54
So very sorry for your loss. GoneOffShore Mar 2013 #55
Any updates on your situation? glinda Mar 2013 #57
I got an email from the BC rescue HillWilliam Mar 2013 #58
This break is a gift. Is the BC Rescue glinda Mar 2013 #59
I am so very sorry for your loss Hekate Mar 2013 #60
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