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Raine1967

(11,589 posts)
6. This sounds like more than politics.
Sun Mar 17, 2013, 05:37 PM
Mar 2013

Altho it does appear that it's a trigger.

You paragraph about the wedding reminds me a bit of the relationship I have with my sister. I wish I could say it doesn't bother me -- but it does.

I hope you can find a resolution, if you do, tell me how it happened?

That's too bad :( shenmue Mar 2013 #1
Please mend with your things up fitman Mar 2013 #16
Why Should She Try to Mend Things With Her Sister? dballance Mar 2013 #150
I agree. I am estranged from my family I have no regrets. I plan on pissing on my fathers grave Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #193
I'm sorry you are fighting with your sister over politics. nt ZombieHorde Mar 2013 #2
+1 on that. nt TheBlackAdder Mar 2013 #9
I think that's a sad thing, I can understand the arguments over weddings and stuff like that Autumn Mar 2013 #3
I hope your and the rest of your family remain close, and i hope one day your sister & you can peacebird Mar 2013 #4
I all would say... snooper2 Mar 2013 #5
This sounds like more than politics. Raine1967 Mar 2013 #6
Well, you've surely heard of Irish Alzheimer's Warpy Mar 2013 #7
Here's to Irish tempers coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #90
hello Aerows Mar 2013 #200
Such an unfortunate situation etherealtruth Mar 2013 #8
True believers never change, just adapt. Try asking why she believes that CK_John Mar 2013 #10
Life's too short to suffer stupid people. Some of the great myths of our dominant culture is that Egalitarian Thug Mar 2013 #11
Unfortunately, I must agree with you, Egalitarian Thug. Awknid Mar 2013 #92
I don't have to worry about this sister coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #103
Teabagger brother and wife same way sigmasix Mar 2013 #159
same here... chillfactor Mar 2013 #114
+1. Family is who you chose, not who you have a misfortune (sometimes) to share DNA with. idwiyo Mar 2013 #111
I hate to hear that. My family is mainly rightwingnuts. Honeycombe8 Mar 2013 #12
Avoid discussing politics with her LeftInTX Mar 2013 #13
You're justified in disowning your sister. It's high time for zero-tolerance for right-wingnuttery. ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #14
Agree 100%! LeftofObama Mar 2013 #19
Thank you! coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #27
My brother was an idiot in a different way. He couldn't stay out of other peoples' houses ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #34
I could never understand some of my friends who keep moaning about their various relatives idwiyo Mar 2013 #109
You are blood. Doesn't mean you can't disagree, nor does it mean you accept abuse. davsand Mar 2013 #15
I'm sorry, but "they're blood" is not an excuse for premeditated stupidity. And, with all due ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #29
I agree. I lost 4 of 5 sisters because I am not a racist, bigoted asshole that watches Fux snooze. Mnemosyne Mar 2013 #84
My very closest family members are no blood relation to me at all. And that's just fine with me. eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #85
+ 100 coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #93
Same here. I call them my framily! Mnemosyne Mar 2013 #101
When you are old and need help you won't feel comfortable asking them. dkf Mar 2013 #107
When I need help she wouldn't have been there for me anyway coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #113
They wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire, I am a "liberal". They are spoiled, entitled brats with Mnemosyne Mar 2013 #124
I'm really sorry you had to go through all that coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #129
I am 5 - 15 years older than them, it was my mother's second marriage. I am still in shock at how Mnemosyne Mar 2013 #136
Bullshit. I have friends that ask me to lend them a hand, before they would ask their family. Ikonoklast Mar 2013 #183
On a political level I totally get what you are saying. On a personal level I disagree. davsand Mar 2013 #89
blood may well be keroro gunsou Mar 2013 #172
That's a tough situation mokawanis Mar 2013 #17
public financing is NOT involuntary hfojvt Mar 2013 #18
Thanks for the info n/t coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #23
Let things cool off, but don't cut off contact Freddie Mar 2013 #20
Contact already cut off, too late coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #24
You did the right thing. Don't let anyone guilt-trip you. The idiocy must end. eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #30
If it feels right to you, it is right. easttexaslefty Mar 2013 #82
Yes! You did the right thing. murray hill farm Mar 2013 #179
I understand completely. truebluegreen Mar 2013 #21
Family, friends that you can't choose... RedCappedBandit Mar 2013 #22
Life is too short to suffer fools gladly. avebury Mar 2013 #25
I'm sorry. That is really sad. liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #26
It is sad. And sadly necessary. Yes, over politics because it is politics that determines ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #33
I can't do that liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #41
Luckily I don't have to deal with whether or not to disown a family member because, ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #55
Your sister's opinions aside ... former9thward Mar 2013 #28
Don't put words in my mouth coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #66
Words in your mouth? former9thward Mar 2013 #72
this is where you put words in my mouth coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #121
Sorry not me. Wrong sex organs. former9thward Mar 2013 #122
Good for you. n/t Dawgs Mar 2013 #31
That's too bad.... onpatrol98 Mar 2013 #32
Good for you! Who needs family and/or friends? They're WAAAY overrated... cherokeeprogressive Mar 2013 #35
In my case it was the wingnuts who did the disowning Generic Brad Mar 2013 #40
Being called moneychanger and a baby killer aren't the same as unquestioning support of politicians. cherokeeprogressive Mar 2013 #50
First off - sorry for your loss Generic Brad Mar 2013 #91
I see your point. n/t cherokeeprogressive Mar 2013 #174
You didn't notice that this is a lifelong pattern with her sister? tavalon Mar 2013 #153
My brother was a practicing alcoholic for several years dsc Mar 2013 #36
I'm so sorry to hear that... pipi_k Mar 2013 #38
we have been trying dsc Mar 2013 #39
Glad to hear it... pipi_k Mar 2013 #53
My thoughts... pipi_k Mar 2013 #37
I'm sure at some point we'll talk coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #68
I hope pipi_k Mar 2013 #176
I hope so too coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #185
Sorry that you are having Sissyk Mar 2013 #42
I'm not sure I'll speak to her again and it doesn't bother me at all. Leslie Valley Mar 2013 #43
Very perceptive, Leslie. And holding onto anger solves nothing but eats away KittyWampus Mar 2013 #45
I think many people believe pipi_k Mar 2013 #56
It doesn't bother me that I won't see her coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #49
Holding Grudges is very VERY bad for your health. Let it go. Don't ignore the reality but LET IT GO. KittyWampus Mar 2013 #44
I will let it go but I can't talk to her coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #46
Can you just agree to not talk politics? Beaverhausen Mar 2013 #67
It's not just the politics really coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #69
No she won't stop with that hatred coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #98
Do you get along otherwise? BellaLuna Mar 2013 #47
I've tolerated her for a long time because of her children coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #54
She's beyond just the 'agree to disagree' thing then BellaLuna Mar 2013 #61
You should Facebook friend your sister's children. pnwmom Mar 2013 #162
My niece & nephew coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #163
I wonder if she's an active alcoholic? nt raccoon Mar 2013 #184
could be coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #186
I''ve never found any good coming from relationships w/toxic persons. Divernan Mar 2013 #48
For those of you with the sentiment that we shouldn't let politics get between blood relations... ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #51
I'm just not that kind of person liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #59
Well there ya go... pipi_k Mar 2013 #63
yeah, I try to avoid thinking I KNOW anything. liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #64
There is a distinct line between what I believe and what they believe. And that line ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #70
That's it right there -- well said coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #74
Once it gets that stupid, it's not about Obama anymore. It's about reality and principle. eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #78
or racism coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #88
Take a break from her treestar Mar 2013 #52
Bush spent an entire YEAR of his 8 years on vacation. Initech Mar 2013 #57
He did. coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #134
I heard a term for it the other day - "Obama Derangement Syndrome". Initech Mar 2013 #135
LOL coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #140
there is only one way to survive this hollysmom Mar 2013 #58
Politics is a lot more important than family - you did the right thing. egduj Mar 2013 #60
To cut off family for such ultimately meaningless reasons is sad. MrSlayer Mar 2013 #62
Very good point---we fight each other instead of the real enemy. Curmudgeoness Mar 2013 #73
They ARE the real enemy. eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #83
I don't think so....they are puppets. Curmudgeoness Mar 2013 #87
I seldom talk politics with friends and relatives. Buzz Clik Mar 2013 #65
I stopped talking to couple family members along time ago after I gave them a warning about idwiyo Mar 2013 #71
Amen to that! Fuck 'em! eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #81
Errrrr, I don't think you'd want to do THAT to THEM. Trust me. :) idwiyo Mar 2013 #108
Life is too short for gratuitous anger, pointless aggravation and unmitigated bullshit hatrack Mar 2013 #75
We haven't really interacted but I knew I liked you =) eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #80
I barely talk to my sister. Only when I can't avoid it pink-o Mar 2013 #76
This particular sister coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #97
Yup. I hear you. I wanted my mother to live forever. pink-o Mar 2013 #100
I like it! n/t coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #104
same here...when my mother died AND my father.... chillfactor Mar 2013 #119
I have to say that "family first" angle only works if BOTH sides agree to steer clear of politics Populist_Prole Mar 2013 #77
I'm surprised calling her a racist didn't cause Bay Boy Mar 2013 #79
Sometimes the shoe just fits too well... nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #96
I didn't call her a racist coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #105
I understand. zentrum Mar 2013 #86
You should try to set some ground rules Marrah_G Mar 2013 #94
Family isn't the same once you lose respect for someone. hay rick Mar 2013 #95
You made the right choice. lbrtbell Mar 2013 #99
Absolutely. dogknob Mar 2013 #126
My suggestion is papa3times Mar 2013 #102
It's very sad that because of politics it comes to something like this. My extended family are repub Raine Mar 2013 #106
There it is again! And I'll say it again... It is POLITICS that drives our future! Acting as if ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #194
! patrice Mar 2013 #110
Thoughts? MadHound Mar 2013 #112
Life is too short coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #117
Family is too precious to let politics tear it asunder. MadHound Mar 2013 #118
It's really done. coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #123
That is so sad, I'm sorry. MadHound Mar 2013 #125
If I saw it as my error or my loss I wouldn't have done it coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #130
Perhaps you should ask yourself why you're not close to your sister. MadHound Mar 2013 #133
My niece will be okay coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #138
Again, politics isn't important enough to come between family. WTH??? Are we supposed to allow ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #195
I hope things get better between you and your sister... SummerSnow Mar 2013 #115
I hate when that happens, *yet* will draw the line every time!1 n/t UTUSN Mar 2013 #116
My thoughts are that it's stupid for any family members to distance themselves over politics. Beacool Mar 2013 #120
You might very well rue the day. She's blood. WinkyDink Mar 2013 #127
It's up to you, of course, Le Taz Hot Mar 2013 #128
answer was pretty popular with ME coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #132
Very wise in my opinion. Thanks. Nt erinlough Mar 2013 #147
A minor detail, just for accuracy BlueStreak Mar 2013 #131
Yes I'm aware of that. coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #141
I know the feeling. I just hope doors aren't permanently closed unnecessarily. BlueStreak Mar 2013 #145
The are shut tight for now coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #165
I have the same problem in my family with my younger brother Samantha Mar 2013 #137
I totally understand your feelings.. virgdem Mar 2013 #139
I lost my friend of over 20 years after Ilsa Mar 2013 #142
Thanks Ilsa coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #144
I had to do the same with my Ilsa Mar 2013 #160
The election was a tipping point in Stargazer09 Mar 2013 #189
The friend complained about Ilsa Mar 2013 #198
Hugs Stargazer09 Mar 2013 #221
Another tiny email exchange coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #143
Sounds like she has somehow gotten sucked into Fox News' alternate reality Proud Liberal Dem Mar 2013 #146
bad move Skittles Mar 2013 #148
Yes! pipi_k Mar 2013 #175
my aunt asked if I was calling her a racist and I flat-out said YES Skittles Mar 2013 #210
Fox news turned my mom, sister, brother, uncle abelenkpe Mar 2013 #149
I hope she eventually comes to her senses. Iggo Mar 2013 #151
Just from the short story and your point of view tavalon Mar 2013 #152
Don't get bookfaced. xfundy Mar 2013 #154
It must be nice to live in a family with such piddly problems! LeftyMom Mar 2013 #155
First of all, I am sorry to hear that things have escalated to the point you two aren't talking davidpdx Mar 2013 #156
I don't think she planned her wedding deliberately coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #164
Ah, I see davidpdx Mar 2013 #169
This is terrible. SamReynolds Mar 2013 #157
I feel so lucky to not have any RWers in my family, Jamaal510 Mar 2013 #158
Q: What's Irish Alzheimer's? A: When ye forget everything but the grudges. Hekate Mar 2013 #161
My sister and I stopped talking years and years ago lunatica Mar 2013 #166
You two need to forget technology and use the phone. IdaBriggs Mar 2013 #167
Another victory for the right wing. Turbineguy Mar 2013 #168
Well... sibelian Mar 2013 #170
My thoughts? LWolf Mar 2013 #171
SMH Mr Dixon Mar 2013 #173
I understand, but it's too much. Smarmie Doofus Mar 2013 #177
not a problem RedstDem Mar 2013 #178
I have never engaged in that kind of petty squabble with any member of my family slackmaster Mar 2013 #180
I had a similar situation with my sister and brother... Javaman Mar 2013 #181
You did what you had to do. Ganja Ninja Mar 2013 #182
I understand you completely. peace13 Mar 2013 #187
thanks Kim coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #191
We started meditation last October... peace13 Mar 2013 #196
much appreciated coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #197
You do what you have to.. fadedrose Mar 2013 #188
Not sure of the origin of this....native american, I think. murray hill farm Mar 2013 #190
thank you - hopefully she gets over her coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #192
I don't talk politics with my older sister. Aerows Mar 2013 #199
I feel like I need a break from my sister, period coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #201
Distance can be a good thing Aerows Mar 2013 #202
Thanks Aerows coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #203
To be frank, I think it's a damn stupid reason to cut off a family member. AngryOldDem Mar 2013 #204
I feel it's temporary and I'm taking a much needed break coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #207
Yeah, sometimes it's good and wise to just take a break. AngryOldDem Mar 2013 #227
Am I invited? H2O Man Mar 2013 #205
Of course silly coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #209
This is going to sound hard, but you should both grow up. badtoworse Mar 2013 #206
see reply 207 coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #208
I wish you luck in rebuilding a relationship badtoworse Mar 2013 #211
this sister though, is not precious to me right now coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #212
That is unfortunate. badtoworse Mar 2013 #213
I hope so too coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #214
Face Palm Time Me. Mar 2013 #215
Thanks me! coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #218
Old Friend Has A Nice Ring To It Me. Mar 2013 #222
We are old friends. Going back to 2004 coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #223
You only get one family. TroglodyteScholar Mar 2013 #216
not just politics coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #219
Why be around people who make you miserable? SunSeeker Mar 2013 #217
thanks for the validation! coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #220
Yes indeed. SunSeeker Mar 2013 #225
we got ourselves one very annoyed pig coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #228
Sounds you don't like 'er. People should have to be around other people that they lonestarnot Mar 2013 #224
I have gone through the same situation with my sister. I cannot be around her side of the family Lint Head Mar 2013 #226
I agree coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #229
Stay away from her and go your own way and stay close to sane members of your bluestate10 Mar 2013 #230
willful ignorance of the facts coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #231
From what you wrote and from what I've read of your past posts, I think... BlueJazz Mar 2013 #232
I don't know if anyone will see this since this thread is so old . . . . coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #233
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