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duffyduff

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98. Every single day is a struggle

Sat Mar 2, 2013, 11:15 PM

Mar 2013

I am sick of years of nickel and diming myself to death.

Buying a pair of shoes is a major purchase.

I am getting sick of it.

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Unmarried are invisible, forgotten [View all] Redfairen Feb 2013 OP

K/R (nt) NYC_SKP Feb 2013 #1

I still think we're coming out ahead Rochester Feb 2013 #2

yup Skittles Feb 2013 #3

Amen to that! n/t LadyHawkAZ Feb 2013 #8

Not if you find yourself unemployed in your fifties duffyduff Feb 2013 #18

Can I join you in the same boat? Boomerproud Mar 2013 #89

Every single day is a struggle duffyduff Mar 2013 #98

I'm unemployed, in my 50s and never been married Tempest Mar 2013 #101

You can only speak for yourself. I can tell you it is extremely difficult duffyduff Mar 2013 #108

Just missing the constant aggravation was a big deal for me Warpy Feb 2013 #28

not really if you are male hfojvt Feb 2013 #62

YES. We need justice for George Clooney! (nt) Nye Bevan Feb 2013 #4

When I still worked in offices as opposed to working from home TlalocW Feb 2013 #5

Haha! lovemydog Feb 2013 #50

As someone once told me - "Better to be single, than to wish you were." They were right. nt Mnemosyne Feb 2013 #6

Never heard that one before. Iggo Feb 2013 #7

I hadn't heard it before either, but it was like a lightbulb going off when I did. Mnemosyne Feb 2013 #9

We say JustAnotherGen Feb 2013 #53

That is a good one! I love being single, most of the time. I am very easy going and grew very tired Mnemosyne Feb 2013 #55

I loved it JustAnotherGen Feb 2013 #57

That is, indeed, very, very true! liberalhistorian Feb 2013 #13

I married the jerks, learned it the hard way. Of course, being raised by R's that believed women Mnemosyne Feb 2013 #22

I was single until my marriage at almost 43 liberalhistorian Feb 2013 #10

Amen to that... elzenmahn Feb 2013 #17

And amen to you--diPaulo's books are excellent. spooky3 Feb 2013 #71

ROFL snooper2 Feb 2013 #11

Hardy-har-har. Go ahead and joke about it, liberalhistorian Feb 2013 #15

okay... snooper2 Feb 2013 #16

Bring it up all you want... elzenmahn Feb 2013 #19

"Unmarried are invisible, forgotten" snooper2 Feb 2013 #21

You can take your singles night... elzenmahn Feb 2013 #24

no, I'm getting it, I'm starting to feel the plight.. snooper2 Feb 2013 #25

Yes, I was single until I was 27. I thought it was awful LeftInTX Feb 2013 #27

try being a 55 yr old woman! BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2013 #34

55 year old fitman Feb 2013 #38

actually, I have done that--on the dating site BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2013 #46

59, always single, and prefer it that way magical thyme Feb 2013 #44

.... BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2013 #47

I know so many fitman Feb 2013 #58

I found there's a YMCA right near me BlancheSplanchnik Mar 2013 #72

Hello ~ fitman In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #73

Often the "decent guys" are decent enough, but BORING Lydia Leftcoast Mar 2013 #87

I find this to be true as well. alarimer Mar 2013 #97

So basically the majority of men are boring, and the majority of women Proles Mar 2013 #100

Plenty of boring women, especially the ones who can talk only about their kids Lydia Leftcoast Mar 2013 #112

Of course, fair enough. Proles Mar 2013 #115

I escaped three times from guys who resembled my pathological family dynamics. amandabeech Mar 2013 #75

I don't even try, I just left that behind treestar Mar 2013 #82

I have to laugh at guys like you Tempest Mar 2013 #102

LOL - You don't know the town I lived in LeftInTX Mar 2013 #110

My single years sucked also fitman Feb 2013 #36

I think they are referring more to older or lifetime singles treestar Mar 2013 #81

Some of the examples in the OP are not terribly useful. AtheistCrusader Feb 2013 #30

A few of my coworkers get to leave work early to attend school functions, sports games Apophis Mar 2013 #94

ROFL again snooper2 Mar 2013 #96

I don't ever get my holiday requests off. Apophis Mar 2013 #111

now I know why you are single... snooper2 Mar 2013 #113

You know, you're laughing at people complaining about this, Occulus Mar 2013 #116

There's a difference between equal rights for all.. snooper2 Mar 2013 #117

With that said Shankapotomus Feb 2013 #12

I'd have divorced, then remarried lovemydog Feb 2013 #52

Don't sell yourself short Shankapotomus Feb 2013 #56

Things are splendid now that lovemydog Feb 2013 #59

The psychologist and professor liberalhistorian Feb 2013 #14

A highly recommended read... elzenmahn Feb 2013 #26

As a liberal Christian, I can say you're generally liberalhistorian Feb 2013 #41

Good point treestar Mar 2013 #79

This is a big one, I think. KitSileya Mar 2013 #114

They didn't forget. What do you think the IRS is for? TheKentuckian Feb 2013 #20

Many of these violations are illegal and can result in lawsuits. Behind the Aegis Feb 2013 #23

Ok, it's not just me then. AtheistCrusader Feb 2013 #32

Bah. If they were all that important, they might find someone to love them. Bucky Feb 2013 #29

You tell 'em, Wanda!! Bucky Feb 2013 #31

The next frontier! MADem Feb 2013 #33

I hadn't realized that, not being from a military background or family, liberalhistorian Feb 2013 #39

Military people get paid less, too, if they are single. Family allowances are not insignificant, MADem Feb 2013 #64

The same is true in the corporate world. Staph Feb 2013 #65

Many companies fitman Mar 2013 #76

Married but childless. zanana1 Feb 2013 #35

You actually think it's different for single, childless people? GoCubsGo Feb 2013 #49

My wife and I have no kids fitman Mar 2013 #77

There is a huge theKed Feb 2013 #37

My favorite greeting upon entering a restaurant is namaste2 Feb 2013 #40

What sort of greeting would you recommend to help the host/ess Sheldon Cooper Feb 2013 #42

Hi Sheldon. namaste2 Feb 2013 #69

I hear ya! Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #74

I preempt that by walking up to the hostess and saying Lydia Leftcoast Mar 2013 #86

Hi Lydia~ namaste2 Mar 2013 #90

LOL, good for you! liberalhistorian Feb 2013 #43

I guess I can't figure out namaste2 Feb 2013 #70

Worse than "just One" I was seated at a big round table doc03 Mar 2013 #103

Interesting framing here as gay couples ARE unmarried, headlines about possible changes to the Bluenorthwest Feb 2013 #45

Don't forget those who are without dependent children Puzzledtraveller Feb 2013 #48

So there isn't enough animosity to go around? SomethingFishy Feb 2013 #51

Nope JustAnotherGen Feb 2013 #54

No one said it is the "fault of married people" treestar Mar 2013 #84

Right, no animosity in this thread... SomethingFishy Mar 2013 #88

Not to pick nits but -- Nuclear Unicorn Feb 2013 #60

Singles also die earlier nachosgrande Feb 2013 #61

It's not because of the "lifestyle" duffyduff Mar 2013 #99

Bella DePaolo's blog JustAnotherGen Feb 2013 #63

Thanks for posting that, it needs liberalhistorian Feb 2013 #66

Yes, I enjoyed reading it too lovemydog Feb 2013 #67

My own personal experience with singles' ministries Lydia Leftcoast Mar 2013 #85

Another thing treestar Mar 2013 #80

I Agree! JustAnotherGen Mar 2013 #93

Single and Childless. smirkymonkey Feb 2013 #68

Cheerfully child-free here too Larkspur Mar 2013 #83

I am single and childless. I am single because I am highly selective. bluestate10 Mar 2013 #91

I am also highly selective. smirkymonkey Mar 2013 #92

Single for most of my life. Richer for it when I was. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #78

"Being single only had one drawback: lack of two warm arms to hold me" Tempest Mar 2013 #105

I have no family. no brothers or sisters. So you see where that leaves me. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #109

The government doesn't care. The president has said time and time again he stands up for hard RB TexLa Mar 2013 #95

You are, of course, assuming he is using the narrow traditional family definition Tempest Mar 2013 #104

No one lives in my house with me. RB TexLa Mar 2013 #106

The IRS sure doesn't think you are invisible. I get doc03 Mar 2013 #107