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LittleBlue

(10,362 posts)
31. Those terms are turned into slurs
Tue Feb 12, 2013, 08:17 PM
Feb 2013

often when referring to gay couples. I have homophobic family members that mock gays with those terms. "Oh look, he's there with his husband" *eyeroll*. I've never seen it used in a negative way toward straight couples.

They can still be called husband and wife, the AP is just saying they want to make sure the terms are cool with the couples before using it. That's the practice I use in real life when referring to gay couples. I use "spouse" for gay couples.

I'm not entirely dismissing your concern, but I can see a reason for the AP's policy.

What utter bullshit. Sheldon Cooper Feb 2013 #1
what double standard? The AP uses whatever terms the COUPLE USED. I know & lived with gay couples KittyWampus Feb 2013 #5
I did not express an opinion... DonViejo Feb 2013 #6
I apologize KittyWampus Feb 2013 #10
Accepted. Thanks! ;-) eom DonViejo Feb 2013 #15
Yes, "really". Sheldon Cooper Feb 2013 #19
Not just "gay couple" -- but had they MARRIED Lex Feb 2013 #23
Eh. Some gay men may not want to be known as a 'wife'. randome Feb 2013 #2
You're joking, I hope... DonViejo Feb 2013 #9
No, not joking. Just didn't think it through completely. randome Feb 2013 #25
What? Lex Feb 2013 #12
they wouldn't dsc Feb 2013 #28
I side with whatever their stated preference is. Puzzledtraveller Feb 2013 #36
A question. kiva Feb 2013 #3
See post #9 n/t DonViejo Feb 2013 #11
What the actual fuck? Lex Feb 2013 #14
Other people don't find it quite that simple: kiva Feb 2013 #26
I'm sure there are straight people who don't like the terms applied to them either. Lex Feb 2013 #29
Then don't respond by saying "What the actual fuck?" kiva Feb 2013 #34
AP creates style rules for consistency. It isn't really about "banning." gollygee Feb 2013 #4
+1 Blue_Tires Feb 2013 #30
What's wrong with this? LittleBlue Feb 2013 #7
Why not treated ALL married couples the same? Lex Feb 2013 #8
The could just use "spouse" for every married person, irrespective of sex or sexual orientation n/t markpkessinger Feb 2013 #17
Husband and wife are sex-specific LittleBlue Feb 2013 #21
Yes. Exactly so. So men are husbands and women are wives. Regardless Lex Feb 2013 #27
Those terms are turned into slurs LittleBlue Feb 2013 #31
Did you follow the link to read the entire article... DonViejo Feb 2013 #18
Good policy. The same-sex couples I frogmarch Feb 2013 #13
Are they married? Lex Feb 2013 #16
Two of the three couples are married, and frogmarch Feb 2013 #20
If they are a married person, there's no reason Lex Feb 2013 #24
None of those involved frogmarch Feb 2013 #33
So maybe they should adopt the rule for straight couples then Lex Feb 2013 #35
So, is it your opinion frogmarch Feb 2013 #37
It is my opinion that straight people try to make gay marriage an "odd" thing Lex Feb 2013 #38
It wouldn't be a separate, special societal rule. It frogmarch Feb 2013 #39
I disagree with "separate but equal" rules for gay marriage Lex Feb 2013 #40
Wait.... they got married, but don't like the terms "husband" and "wife"? Nye Bevan Feb 2013 #41
well I have frequently heard my married same sex friends refer to their wives or husbands cali Feb 2013 #22
Me too, I only know one married gay couple,both men, sufrommich Feb 2013 #32
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