Please send them! (Reply #31) - Democratic Underground

In the discussion thread: Dear DUers who have lost a child...I need your advice. [View all]

Fri Feb 8, 2013, 08:12 PM

31. Please send them!

You already recognize life is too short to harbor grudges, and it's so much nicer to be nice anyway. You might give her some comfort in her old age; we will all be there.
I also recommend you make copies so you can look at your friend and remember the good times, and the sparkle.

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80 replies	Author	Time	Post
Dear DUers who have lost a child...I need your advice. [View all]	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	OP
Don, send her the photos	Fresh_Start	Feb 2013	#1
If you are ready to let go, send the pictures.	Warpy	Feb 2013	#2
I don't think it's an 'either-or' type of thing	htuttle	Feb 2013	#3
Make copies.	enlightenment	Feb 2013	#4
I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend and what he went through.	polly7	Feb 2013	#5
I knew this post was gonna stir up some feelings.	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#13
You're a very good, kind person.	polly7	Feb 2013	#26
Since I can't hug you	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#34
Thank you so much, I hope you have a good weekend as well. nt.	polly7	Feb 2013	#68
Send them.	easttexaslefty	Feb 2013	#6
Hey East Texas	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#25
Since I can't hug you, I'm sending you a heart!	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#32
Thank you very much	easttexaslefty	Feb 2013	#63
I lost my son in 1988. If someone were to send me pictures of him	appleannie1	Feb 2013	#7
My best friend died in 1982	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#30
He was her son and my husband...	ScreamingMeemie	Feb 2013	#8
tears	Melinda	Feb 2013	#40
He was the best thing that ever happened in my life.	ScreamingMeemie	Feb 2013	#75
I will send them for sure.	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#45
Thank you DonR--that's so sweet of you.	ScreamingMeemie	Feb 2013	#76
...	SammyWinstonJack	Feb 2013	#51
SWJ--	ScreamingMeemie	Feb 2013	#77
Does his brother have children?	DURHAM D	Feb 2013	#9
I think if it were me I would make copies of the pictures you have of her son. Let	southernyankeebelle	Feb 2013	#10
This is very good advice. Forgiveness is so important, helps one to heal.	Mnemosyne	Feb 2013	#20
always forgive	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#27
I have a 'forgive' bumpersticker and hope it reminds others, as much as it does me, when seen.	Mnemosyne	Feb 2013	#39
I would have copies made so you can retain	arthritisR_US	Feb 2013	#11
IMO her apology to you justifies something from you;	elleng	Feb 2013	#12
Not only will she love the photos	malaise	Feb 2013	#14
thank you for the love you give don. here is the thing. you sending those pictures to the mom,	seabeyond	Feb 2013	#15
Best to just let it go. If her memories are good ones, they should suffice and if not,	flyover22	Feb 2013	#16
Not sure if I'm qualified to respond -	lynne	Feb 2013	#17
Send them...and something else. You write beautifully. Add either inscriptions of where	JanMichael	Feb 2013	#18
Send them to her. As the years go by one locks that pain	Autumn	Feb 2013	#19
Send the photos.	nessa	Feb 2013	#21
seven years old... oh, that is so sad	renate	Feb 2013	#59
Thank you for the hug.	nessa	Feb 2013	#60
Hello on this snowy day	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#64
You should send them	libodem	Feb 2013	#22
I buried a daughter 3 years ago....	Sekhmets Daughter	Feb 2013	#23
I'm so very sorry for your loss...good advice.	alittlelark	Feb 2013	#57
Very sorry to hear about your daughter	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#65
Thank you for your kind words...	Sekhmets Daughter	Feb 2013	#66
I am sorry for the loss of your friend.	Sissyk	Feb 2013	#24
I think the pictures will break their hearts, and they will love them. Why not give her a call first	robinlynne	Feb 2013	#28
I like that idea	marions ghost	Feb 2013	#73
I'm a mom. I'd want the photos, even if	Ilsa	Feb 2013	#29
Please send them!	babylonsister	Feb 2013	#31
Make digital copies and send her the photos you found	rustydog	Feb 2013	#33
Send her the pictures.	badhair77	Feb 2013	#35
Send them.	rug	Feb 2013	#36
Send the pics, Don...she will appreciate it very much. nt.	OldDem2012	Feb 2013	#37
I have a dear friend	mercuryblues	Feb 2013	#38
If I could make a small suggestion, write first and	Arkansas Granny	Feb 2013	#41
Put the photos in an envelope, then enclose them in another envelope with a cover letter.	Plaid Adder	Feb 2013	#42
Thank you so much for your story, Walter!	NealK	Feb 2013	#43
Send them.	Sadiedog	Feb 2013	#44
Welcome to DU Sadiedog	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#46
I think you are a kind and gentle soul.	Sadiedog	Feb 2013	#78
call her first. That will stop the shock. series of envelopes creates more	robinlynne	Feb 2013	#79
Please...	pipi_k	Feb 2013	#47
A hug and a valentine heart to you	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#49
Thank you	pipi_k	Feb 2013	#61
I absolutely concur...send them with your loving memories...	namaste2	Feb 2013	#48
21 is so young	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#67
I'd say send them. The pain is there, and this may well give some joy as well.	nolabear	Feb 2013	#50
Scan the photos so you have digital copies and mail them to your friend's mom.	Jenoch	Feb 2013	#52
Can't hug ya so here is a heart!	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#69
To answer your question(s).......	socialist_n_TN	Feb 2013	#53
She wrote to you and apologized. But even if she had not -- send the photos	Hekate	Feb 2013	#54
Grieving mom here...	astonamous	Feb 2013	#55
Hey there	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#70
Thank you for my heart, from my heart.	astonamous	Feb 2013	#72
Whatever you decide...	1983law	Feb 2013	#56
I lost my son to cystic fibrosis.	Th1onein	Feb 2013	#58
Thank you	DonRedwood	Feb 2013	#71
Don send the pictures...It will be good for both of you...	Tippy	Feb 2013	#62
Follow your heart....	SomethingFishy	Feb 2013	#74
Don, your ability and willingness to see the other person's point of view are beautiful gifts.	VOX	Feb 2013	#80

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