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meeshrox

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59. I agree!

Tue Feb 5, 2013, 06:29 PM

Feb 2013

It seems that there is a tinge of jealousy when some ladies respond to me by saying that I'll change my mind some day. I think that some women are resentful that I realized I had the choice before I had any kids. It's as if they realized that when it was too late for them.

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To Conservatives: I do not want kids, so get over it!!!!! [View all] Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 OP

People don't have social support, enough income, or social safety net. Manifestor_of_Light Feb 2013 #1

The idea that women like me are going to hurt the economy in the future is... Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #4

You don't see a problem because Sekhmets Daughter Feb 2013 #41

I agree with LFR DaveJ Feb 2013 #65

Tell me more about these "frivolous" jobs.... Sekhmets Daughter Feb 2013 #70

We have so many unemployed because there are not enough jobs that are needed. DaveJ Feb 2013 #75

I am going to pretend I never asked. n/t Sekhmets Daughter Feb 2013 #76

What is, "Who wants to change old people's diapers?" FrodosPet Feb 2013 #111

That's a "frivolous" job? Sekhmets Daughter Feb 2013 #113

Oh, and how about after you've decided to have a child? A short pause and maddiemom Feb 2013 #96

I know... Sekhmets Daughter Feb 2013 #100

I agree with the OP, and I know about the points you make. Nevertheless, it is not my Dark n Stormy Knight Feb 2013 #101

I specifically said I was not telling her to have babies.... Sekhmets Daughter Feb 2013 #106

She already had noted that she had heard the arguments, yet you reiterated them and Dark n Stormy Knight Feb 2013 #115

And you can't see the distinction Sekhmets Daughter Feb 2013 #118

LOL. You're hilarious. Dark n Stormy Knight Feb 2013 #119

Post removed Post removed Feb 2013 #121

I'd read Millenials are nearly equal in # to Boomers KakistocracyHater Feb 2013 #152

It's not "women like you" jeff47 Feb 2013 #91

Nah, they'd just fall on their knees in public and demand that God Heal! HEAL! you . . . . hatrack Feb 2013 #142

China, South Korea and Japan are all having a much greater problem then the US davidpdx Feb 2013 #148

+1! yellerpup Feb 2013 #11

I have heard great reviews! Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #14

It answers all questions yellerpup Feb 2013 #19

Best answer award! Dark n Stormy Knight Feb 2013 #108

I always launched into a spiel about my four-legged furry children and how lucky I am & hlthe2b Feb 2013 #2

My dog used to borrow my damned car all the time. n/t A HERETIC I AM Feb 2013 #32

But did he wreck it? hlthe2b Feb 2013 #35

No, but the little fucker thought it was funny to dress up and drive around on holidays.... A HERETIC I AM Feb 2013 #46

heh heh... hlthe2b Feb 2013 #134

Cute davidpdx Feb 2013 #150

The late, great Mr. Beau Brummel (BB) was incredibly patient..... A HERETIC I AM Feb 2013 #155

Sorry to hear he's not around anymore davidpdx Feb 2013 #157

Will it wear hats? n/t A HERETIC I AM Feb 2013 #158

No, he misbehaves davidpdx Feb 2013 #160

Keep him A HERETIC I AM Feb 2013 #161

We have a full fledged teen. nadinbrzezinski Feb 2013 #77

aww, the purfect children...... hlthe2b Feb 2013 #133

As soon as I cook the steak nadinbrzezinski Feb 2013 #135

Dogs or Cats? davidpdx Feb 2013 #149

NO woman should be made to give the rest of this century to her child. stuntcat Feb 2013 #3

I am so sorry that your relatives are so awful to you about this. Squinch Feb 2013 #126

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Oh, boy. They sound like psychos. Squinch Feb 2013 #163

Our brains have evolved to the extent Cirque du So-What Feb 2013 #5

"Your right to not have children trumps my right to be a Grandma" HockeyMom Feb 2013 #6

I don't blame you; having children is expensive, Jamaal510 Feb 2013 #7

And now they are starting in on fear of non population. Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #10

Hang in there. I have always found that, if you scratch the surface with these people, Squinch Feb 2013 #38

or that you had theirs........... lastlib Feb 2013 #55

Or that anyone had theirs so they could get the hell out of it! Squinch Feb 2013 #57

I agree! meeshrox Feb 2013 #59

I remember one time: Squinch Feb 2013 #69

Wow, what can you say to that? meeshrox Feb 2013 #122

It kind of broke my heart for her. Because she was actually a well meaning person, and Squinch Feb 2013 #125

Bingo. I get static all the time from married co-workers for still being single Populist_Prole Feb 2013 #82

It gets clearer as you get older. Once your contemporaries start hitting the Squinch Feb 2013 #87

Or they become thoroughly broken of spirit Populist_Prole Feb 2013 #97

That always makes me feel badly for them. But it also seems to me that living a life without Squinch Feb 2013 #105

I am not a nice person pipi_k Feb 2013 #8

Good for you! hamsterjill Feb 2013 #9

My father is extremely upset with us over this... Earth_First Feb 2013 #12

I don't think you're at the end of your biological means. But certainly, if you don't want kids, Iris Feb 2013 #78

My mother was 35 when I was born, and 37 when my brother was born. Not even SWTORFanatic Feb 2013 #81

You're not "at the end". jeff47 Feb 2013 #94

Very responsible, good on ya. galileoreloaded Feb 2013 #137

I'm 64, damn near 65 yo madokie Feb 2013 #13

I love that "selfish" meme. Zoeisright Feb 2013 #15

Ironically, the last person to pull that old crap on me MineralMan Feb 2013 #16

If you see her again, Ilsa Feb 2013 #20

It would do no good at all. MineralMan Feb 2013 #24

But, properly cooked, some kids are OK. Fuddnik Feb 2013 #31

As W.C. Fields said: MineralMan Feb 2013 #39

I'm not as nice as you are. Warpy Feb 2013 #42

I'd like to meet this kid ProudToBeBlueInRhody Feb 2013 #52

You're pro-environment athena Feb 2013 #17

George Washington, "the Father of our country", had no children- LeftinOH Feb 2013 #18

With this new kick starting about the fear of not having enough workers in the future, Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #21

Washington wasn't fertile--Martha came to the marriage with two kids... Moonwalk Feb 2013 #71

Washington had smallpox as a young man, Brigid Feb 2013 #89

We decided on cats. Cheaper and easier to train. Tierra_y_Libertad Feb 2013 #22

Amen maddiemom Feb 2013 #99

I get that constantly... meeshrox Feb 2013 #23

I am 35 and have no plans on kids... a la izquierda Feb 2013 #25

I have two children but completely support your choice... hughee99 Feb 2013 #26

Odd part is that the running out of people thing seems to be the reason.. Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #29

Funny, on the one hand you have fundies talking about the need for more people hughee99 Feb 2013 #37

THAT's the rub here ProudToBeBlueInRhody Feb 2013 #53

Yup. You are understanding them correctly. Jamastiene Feb 2013 #132

More fundamentalist white people, that is - southern, if at all possible hatrack Feb 2013 #86

Their problem is not enough WAPS being born pstokely Feb 2013 #146

If we really needed more workers we could always make it easier to legally immigrate to here. eShirl Feb 2013 #27

That is what I thought, but then again right wing dumbness can't look at that.n/t Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #33

Hang in there. I'm 60 and still get questions like, "Why didn't you have children?" To which livetohike Feb 2013 #28

That's when I want to say, "Oh, they're in the backyard. winter is coming Feb 2013 #36

LOL....good one. Several of my friends have one child livetohike Feb 2013 #40

But, but, but amb123 Feb 2013 #30

What is bad is the intervention session that a couple of old ladies did. Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #45

You & me both! amb123 Feb 2013 #51

To which I would be tempted to answer, "Yep." And then smile broadly. Squinch Feb 2013 #128

I've never understood this. winter is coming Feb 2013 #34

I wish I knew. Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #61

Ironically enough, the people I've encountered like this appear to be crappy parents. n/t winter is coming Feb 2013 #85

Their doing the lords work by bulling someone into having babies pstokely Feb 2013 #147

I lack the maternal gene also, which is fortunate because I had monster endometriosis starting at catbyte Feb 2013 #43

As someone who always wanted kids, SheilaT Feb 2013 #44

Just tell them Ann Coulter is your role model DFW Feb 2013 #47

Good for you! RoccoR5955 Feb 2013 #48

Your life, your choice LibertyLover Feb 2013 #49

That's disgusting ProudToBeBlueInRhody Feb 2013 #56

A friend of mine is white, married to an Asian American. wildeyed Feb 2013 #102

My aunt gets that laundry_queen Feb 2013 #138

This is one (of many) aspect of the sexual revolution felix_numinous Feb 2013 #50

I Grew Up In The Same Era As You Did. We all wanted to be independent and free. Yavin4 Feb 2013 #66

I'm sure the stigma you speak of is worse for women than for men. bluestateguy Feb 2013 #54

I sometimes on the receiving end of the stigma of being single, some people are real A-holes Populist_Prole Feb 2013 #93

Like being talked down to like you are a child or a teenager bluestateguy Feb 2013 #103

Exactly Populist_Prole Feb 2013 #110

Not having kids is the responsible choice. Joe Shlabotnik Feb 2013 #58

Hurt the economy? Are these the same people who don't want illegal immigrants made citizens...? Moonwalk Feb 2013 #60

Yep, same ones. Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #79

I Suppose Those People Missed the International Reports about Overpopulation of the Earth? dballance Feb 2013 #62

They must have. Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #92

Conformity ProudToBeBlueInRhody Feb 2013 #63

If you change your mind you can have mine tularetom Feb 2013 #64

Message auto-removed Thundare Feb 2013 #67

You are making a wise decision. My daughter, 42, made the same one. When my plethoro Feb 2013 #68

Until they find a cure for death, why have a kid? DaveJ Feb 2013 #72

They ought to be happy about it.... Flying Squirrel Feb 2013 #73

It's really nobody's business. I don't criticize people for having zero kids, Nye Bevan Feb 2013 #74

I us to think that too. Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #84

I'd rather have this Kid. >> BlueJazz Feb 2013 #80

Thanks for the not-so-gentle OldHippieChick Feb 2013 #83

Because I have Turner's Syndrome, I couldn't have kids. Brigid Feb 2013 #88

Only people who want kids should have kids Taverner Feb 2013 #90

I know! Simple idea. Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #95

It's a choice, and not a choice that should be made lightly. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #98

That is what I always though. Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #104

I'm fortunate to live in a relatively secular, MYOB, liberal corner of the country, I guess. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #109

Don't they get it? FrodosPet Feb 2013 #107

Good for you! smirkymonkey Feb 2013 #112

all they care about is more white babies BainsBane Feb 2013 #114

Then I would be the lat person they want having kids. Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #120

More White Babies..for the "Revolution" ode2joi Feb 2013 #153

It's because they are racists at core. alarimer Feb 2013 #116

Pick one. Lady Freedom Returns Feb 2013 #123

There are a few reasons people do this davidn3600 Feb 2013 #117

These conservatives sceam about "freedom" and "liberty". Dawson Leery Feb 2013 #124

Yep. They're insistent that they be given the freedom and liberty to tell others what to do. Dark n Stormy Knight Feb 2013 #130

I say good for you LFR! truegrit44 Feb 2013 #127

Oh noes, the entire species DEPENDS on YOU having children. Jamastiene Feb 2013 #129

and also........ truegrit44 Feb 2013 #131

At 35 I don't blame you one bit. galileoreloaded Feb 2013 #136

I hate to say it laundry_queen Feb 2013 #139

Early in my marriage maryellen99 Feb 2013 #140

Add me to the list of unwomanly, inhuman economy-wrecking harlots REP Feb 2013 #141

I do not want children either. JesterCS Feb 2013 #143

What a great post and thread mike dub Feb 2013 #144

I agree with you! Nobody's damn business! DearHeart Feb 2013 #145

I agree with you and I think men should be just as thoughtful as to whether they want children davidpdx Feb 2013 #151

I feel bad for you LittleBlue Feb 2013 #154

No kids at 43 gaspee Feb 2013 #156

I'm just happy mine was born early madville Feb 2013 #159

Knew since I was 16 NightOwwl Feb 2013 #164