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62. Correlation is not causation

Wed Jan 30, 2013, 09:34 PM

Jan 2013

It's perfectly possible that the correlation noted here arises because households in which men do more of the housework are busier households overall, and therefore both spouses have less time, and sex takes a backseat.

Most men with working women end up doing more chores when there are young children in the household, for example, which takes up more of the woman's time at home. And anyone who's ever had young kids knows that it cuts into the sex life and time.

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Married men who do more housework get less sex [View all] Redfairen Jan 2013 OP

Uh-oh. Seeking Serenity Jan 2013 #1

move over and pass me a beer, please.... mike_c Jan 2013 #4

Madagasgar Penquins 4Q2u2 Jan 2013 #40

lol. I was sitting here pondering exactly how to reply.... robinlynne Jan 2013 #5

Uh Oh is right HarveyDarkey Jan 2013 #17

Maybe because they realize how tired you get trying to work 2 jobs? loudsue Jan 2013 #2

I call shenanigans on that study n/t blogslut Jan 2013 #3

GMTA - sounds like BS we can do it Jan 2013 #24

because you don't like it? cthulu2016 Jan 2013 #38

I would like to see the actual study blogslut Jan 2013 #39

The headline language "get more sex" is a sexist giveaway. JDPriestly Jan 2013 #146

The data is nearly 20 years old mythology Jan 2013 #111

Perhaps the causal relationship ... surrealAmerican Jan 2013 #6

In the casual relationships, I'd guess it would be the opposite Thor_MN Jan 2013 #143

I've done a study and I can confirm that supposition. bluedigger Jan 2013 #160

Perhaps men empathetic enough to join in housework chores as a group may also be more honest? Uncle Joe Jan 2013 #7

With their wives? Or in general? jberryhill Jan 2013 #8

I think Berserker Jan 2013 #42

Jury results on your post... zappaman Jan 2013 #50

Thanks for letting us know about this frivolous alert tabasco Jan 2013 #84

There was a time when this would never have been allowed Le Taz Hot Jan 2013 #102

Right you are, Taz Hekate Jan 2013 #114

Thank god. DU =/= North Korea LittleBlue Jan 2013 #116

The hand wringing brigade is at it again Katashi_itto Jan 2013 #149

Actually, Le Taz Hot Jan 2013 #151

Ahhh an attempt at a "biting comment" ..zzzzzz Katashi_itto Jan 2013 #194

Par for the course Scootaloo Jan 2013 #141

"I think in general" Scootaloo Jan 2013 #142

Uh huh. Aerows Jan 2013 #9

Does this mean wives typically prefer their man to be a macho, macho man? indepat Jan 2013 #10

More sex doesn't necessarily mean a good lover wryter2000 Jan 2013 #18

The macho man who doesn't do housework will invariably report that he has more sex than Nay Jan 2013 #54

Oh, yeah! So true. narnian60 Jan 2013 #55

Total B.S. A caring man with no preconceived ideas of "his" role vs. "hers" is de facto CTyankee Jan 2013 #11

I think you've hit on the secret. The study is accurate. FBaggins Jan 2013 #177

yep. great reply. absolutely right. my sons in law are stellar examples.... CTyankee Jan 2013 #178

Yeah, and it's possible that an asshole who doesn't help around the house Evoman Jan 2013 #12

You. Are. Correct. n/t mia Jan 2013 #75

Wow.. bama_blue_dot Jan 2013 #94

Tell me about it. sadbear Jan 2013 #13

Well, duh Bok_Tukalo Jan 2013 #14

Trashing....3....2...1....Bye-Bye!! nt. OldDem2012 Jan 2013 #15

You'd think it would be the opposite. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #16

Reminds me of a joke: A man gets a visit from God. "You've been good so I'll... BlueJazz Jan 2013 #22

Haha! MrSlayer Jan 2013 #31

I believe it is. Nothing kills desire like resentment. smirkymonkey Jan 2013 #44

Hmmm, why would you score extra points for doing what needs to be done to run a household? Sadiedog Jan 2013 #58

Going above and beyond the call of duty deserves a reward. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #66

Yeah, what is that? Le Taz Hot Jan 2013 #152

OK, now, see, Le Taz Hot Jan 2013 #106

So, working at a job doesn't count for anything? MrSlayer Jan 2013 #121

You didn't just say this: Le Taz Hot Jan 2013 #123

wow. right? liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #125

Everyone is different. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #129

didn't say you had to care liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #131

Exactly. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #134

I do think it is neanderthal thinking but like I said I'm not married to you liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #137

Fair enough. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #139

okay that made me smile. You have a good day too. Hope I did not offend and if I did I apologize. liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #140

Nah, it's cool. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #144

It is a traditional scenerio, yes. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #126

sex as a reward? liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #128

Yeah. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #133

I guess for me it's just not directly relatable, maybe indirectly liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #136

Haha! Well it's not like that exactly. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #147

"Sometimes both people have to work." Le Taz Hot Jan 2013 #130

Many women work all fucking day AND the have to do all the damn housework. alarimer Jan 2013 #173

I know. Read down. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #175

Thankfully, I find the opposite true. I'd hate to resent cooking. TheKentuckian Jan 2013 #19

If anyone finds the text of the complete study report, please link or post it. maggiesfarmer Jan 2013 #20

. Go Vols Jan 2013 #26

thanks! I gave it 10 minutes of overview, mostly focused on the data section.... maggiesfarmer Jan 2013 #48

What the hell is a "masuline task"? Texasgal Jan 2013 #21

Well, you know, like paying the bills! Rex Jan 2013 #29

LOL, my mom always paid the bills. n/t winter is coming Jan 2013 #59

This seems all akin to, our charts say 'women should stay in the kitchen' dogma. Rex Jan 2013 #95

I'm pretty skeptical about any statistics that rely on people winter is coming Jan 2013 #162

I agree, too subjective. Rex Feb 2013 #195

Typo. Masculine "tusk" TheCowsCameHome Jan 2013 #43

Yard work, digging up the garden, cleaning the storm gutters, painting. bluestate10 Jan 2013 #46

Something like... Union Scribe Jan 2013 #167

heh! Texasgal Jan 2013 #184

If both do the same quantity of work, maybe One_Life_To_Give Jan 2013 #23

Scientific poll on what women think of their ass: Fire Walk With Me Jan 2013 #25

Is this from The Onion? Rex Jan 2013 #27

I'll take this with a grain of salt. Romulus Quirinus Jan 2013 #28

Um... bluestateguy Jan 2013 #30

lol Sheldon Cooper Jan 2013 #32

oh boy name not needed Jan 2013 #33

... "get less sex" ... at home ... RKP5637 Jan 2013 #34

Too busy cleaning to have an affair NoOneMan Jan 2013 #35

What if both spouses are men? alphafemale Jan 2013 #36

That does it, this is the last time I wash dishes or vacuum liberal N proud Jan 2013 #37

Clearly, then, the answer is to avoid marriage. Z_I_Peevey Jan 2013 #41

I would question the study LiberalFighter Jan 2013 #45

So??? Vattel Jan 2013 #47

despite my snarky answer above... mike_c Jan 2013 #49

Dont need it as often DJ13 Jan 2013 #51

. . . Le Taz Hot Jan 2013 #110

That depends on how good they are at it. randome Jan 2013 #52

Maybe THEY are too tired HockeyMom Jan 2013 #53

sounds like the beginning of a case for gay marriage 0rganism Jan 2013 #56

I call bs on this study kimbutgar Jan 2013 #57

Totally can't be true. Starry Messenger Jan 2013 #60

Maybe, just maybe laundry_queen Jan 2013 #61

Correlation is not causation Yo_Mama Jan 2013 #62

Exactly Paulie Jan 2013 #72

the authors are not implying causation. it's hard to say what they are implying La Lioness Priyanka Jan 2013 #172

The lead author definitely is Yo_Mama Jan 2013 #174

This home cook begs to differ. Glassunion Jan 2013 #63

Ummm, kinda off topic Beearewhyain Jan 2013 #89

Thank you. Glassunion Jan 2013 #104

Copying and saving Beearewhyain Jan 2013 #118

Good eye... It is a NY strip. Glassunion Jan 2013 #120

Artists always push boundaries Beearewhyain Jan 2013 #122

That would ...um...work for me. smirkymonkey Jan 2013 #168

Quite happy. Glassunion Feb 2013 #197

IMO study funded by "macho" men who refused to do housework. nt Raine Jan 2013 #64

you're probably right liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #105

I was about to do the dishes. GreenStormCloud Jan 2013 #65

Doing housework is tiring and it's hard, fadedrose Jan 2013 #71

It plays into the stereotype that women find macho men or alpha males to be sexier than other men davidn3600 Jan 2013 #67

A stereotype with some basis in truth. GreenStormCloud Jan 2013 #69

yada yada yada. evo psych. i cannot believe anyone is still buying into this cult. nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #70

Not a cult. Established science. GreenStormCloud Jan 2013 #73

nah. the scientists say, please, stop.... but their following sucks the garbage up. check out seabeyond Jan 2013 #76

You are trying to claim that we are not animals. GreenStormCloud Jan 2013 #79

so really, you are just making it up as you go to fit the story you want. that is all evo psych is seabeyond Jan 2013 #80

I can easily list names of real scientists. GreenStormCloud Jan 2013 #85

guesses. story telling. they take todays thinking and apply it to beginning of time seabeyond Jan 2013 #86

Dawkins is also a real scientist. GreenStormCloud Jan 2013 #90

dawkins wrote his book what? in the 70's? even 2003 is out dated. they are finding things out seabeyond Jan 2013 #92

You are arguing with an agenda that can't allow the proof of galileoreloaded Jan 2013 #161

wow, if you did not manage to pile in a lot of loaded bullshit into this one post seabeyond Jan 2013 #163

I'm a giver! galileoreloaded Jan 2013 #165

a man, no... no you are not a giver. per your evo psych. that would be the woman. seabeyond Jan 2013 #166

in all honesty, evo psych is a misnomer galileoreloaded Jan 2013 #176

but it is the woo woo that is being spouted. not biological biology. seabeyond Jan 2013 #179

The concepts espoused are repeatable and to a skilled observer galileoreloaded Jan 2013 #180

this is the atheist version of the patriarchy of religion. no more. for those men to use in the seabeyond Jan 2013 #185

Shaming no matter how veiled in prose is still an attempt to shame, but of course I called it. galileoreloaded Feb 2013 #196

So rich men get ladies by taking out trash and digging gardens? leftstreet Jan 2013 #82

Social status plays a big part for female mate selection. GreenStormCloud Jan 2013 #83

do you think it might have something to do with women NOT allowed to work, dependent on man to EAT seabeyond Jan 2013 #87

Put your strawman back in the barn. GreenStormCloud Jan 2013 #91

it is not a strawman when i address the exact point you put out. you are the one that said women seabeyond Jan 2013 #93

Yeah but the open doors for women hasn't really changed their habits davidn3600 Jan 2013 #103

that wouldnt have to do with that evo theory but more the dynamics we have to work with seabeyond Jan 2013 #107

In hunter gatherer tribes tama Jan 2013 #135

men who help cook and clean get the ladies because they give the lady liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #101

So true. smirkymonkey Jan 2013 #169

We are animals tama Jan 2013 #127

Woo. The Earth isn't warming either I suppose and Jesus rode a dinosaur. Bonobo Jan 2013 #186

evo psych is a whole other animal of story telling. but then.... seabeyond Jan 2013 #187

You have created, as usual, a strawman to diassemble. Bonobo Jan 2013 #188

i am challenging the evo psych. that is what was being spewed. because i challenge what was being seabeyond Jan 2013 #189

Well it sounds like you are attacking the entire concept of evolutionary psychology as if Bonobo Jan 2013 #190

i am attacking, as is real scientist attacking, evo psyc. that is not the same as evolutionary seabeyond Jan 2013 #191

I am in agreement that this study is foolish. nt Bonobo Jan 2013 #192

My wife's been bugging me to change the oil in the Prius rightsideout Jan 2013 #68

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #74

I can vouch for this!!! nt Courtesy Flush Jan 2013 #77

Less doesn't necessarily mean worse daleo Jan 2013 #78

Oh, how I long for the old "unrec" button. Chorophyll Jan 2013 #81

LOL- Thanks, I needed that. UtahLib Jan 2013 #138

I think a man vacuumming is pretty darn sexy! n/t onestepforward Jan 2013 #88

I have always found a man who really, I mean really knows how to cook very sexy liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #108

They "GET" less sex? hmmm. nt Zorra Jan 2013 #96

amazing huh, that the story is all about the men and how much they get, the womans sexuality seabeyond Jan 2013 #99

Yeah, I caught that too. Le Taz Hot Jan 2013 #113

Well now, my wife will love this post! B Calm Jan 2013 #97

Not in my house. Zoeisright Jan 2013 #98

traditional women are obligated to have sex liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #100

i dont get this. i did not read where the woman is solely responsible for amount of sex. seabeyond Jan 2013 #112

just simply offering a hypothesis why traditional men may have more sex liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #117

no... you missed the point. everyone is talking about men having more sex. guess what. women are seabeyond Jan 2013 #154

How is paying bills manly? Politicalboi Jan 2013 #109

I call BS on this study Hekate Jan 2013 #115

My fiancée is this way LittleBlue Jan 2013 #119

My recent observation is that a 54-year-old unmarried man who lives alone and does all the housework slackmaster Jan 2013 #124

Now that I stopped laughing. reverend_tim Jan 2013 #145

A friend of mine died a year ago yesterday. I helped her family clean up her stuff. slackmaster Jan 2013 #158

Not that bad yet. but I fear it. reverend_tim Jan 2013 #164

OK, that was funny! Le Taz Hot Jan 2013 #153

No worries, really. I'll turn 55 on Sunday. I've had more than my share of fun. slackmaster Jan 2013 #159

or fatigue for all the housework. nt Deep13 Jan 2013 #132

Over 27 years of marriage quaker bill Jan 2013 #148

that is the difference i see. being a stay at home, i get everything done at the house. so we both seabeyond Jan 2013 #155

You mean all this time... rucky Jan 2013 #150

I don't believe that. And no, I didn't read the article. I just flat don't believe it. nt raccoon Jan 2013 #156

good because once you read the actual info, it is a bullshit head line and not seabeyond Jan 2013 #157

Nonsense CBGLuthier Jan 2013 #170

i wish i had the actual study. i wonder if its based in self-reports and what they controlled for La Lioness Priyanka Jan 2013 #171

this one gives a little more info, i think seabeyond Jan 2013 #181

i found the original work. it's long and i'll read it later La Lioness Priyanka Jan 2013 #182

gee.....i`ve done that stuff since i was a kid..... madrchsod Jan 2013 #183

Not in this house. OnionPatch Jan 2013 #193

LOL! JesterCS Feb 2013 #198