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deutsey

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97. Yep...I've heard "Don't be that guy" used for many years now
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 09:00 AM
Jan 2013

As you point out, mostly in reference to the kind of guy who wears a band's T shirt to one of their concerts, but I've heard it applied to other commonly frowned-upon behaviors as well.

Good idea & obviously effective marions ghost Jan 2013 #1
Bill O'Reilly would say she was asking for it NewJeffCT Jan 2013 #2
Limbaugh would be saying it over and over. sakabatou Jan 2013 #13
Yup. Only that he'd throw in the word "slut" for good measure JackBoik Jan 2013 #85
Sadly, so would some right here on DU etherealtruth Jan 2013 #59
Kick! Heidi Jan 2013 #3
Putting the burden where it belongs. AtheistCrusader Jan 2013 #4
I like that a lot better than that snarky 10-point poster that keeps popping up here. Nye Bevan Jan 2013 #5
it's certainly mild enough to offend men less, shying away from using the word rape bettyellen Jan 2013 #10
... BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2013 #71
I love that poster tavalon Jan 2013 #91
so snark offends you more than the whole meaning of that poster? Whisp Jan 2013 #11
No, snark does not offend me in the least. Nye Bevan Jan 2013 #14
I suppose if we saw results of both posters LanternWaste Jan 2013 #108
It's not snarky, it's brutally honest tavalon Jan 2013 #92
Where they place the posters may be as important as what they say. JDPriestly Jan 2013 #6
It does a lot knightmaar Jan 2013 #9
Great explanation! BlueMTexpat Jan 2013 #99
+ Infinity! Odin2005 Jan 2013 #7
Rec. progressoid Jan 2013 #8
Nicely done derby378 Jan 2013 #12
+1 nt Nye Bevan Jan 2013 #15
"That guy"? Too vague fishiefish Jan 2013 #16
No, not really. Just that guy. Recursion Jan 2013 #17
Who the hell is "that guy"? fishiefish Jan 2013 #19
"that guy" that would rape "that woman". nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #30
In this case, mythology Jan 2013 #49
probably you Skittles Jan 2013 #87
It's vernacular jollyreaper2112 Jan 2013 #104
How does specifying "that guy" indict all men? gollygee Jan 2013 #18
Nope. "Don't be that guy" is actually extremely specific. (nt) Nye Bevan Jan 2013 #20
define "that guy" fishiefish Jan 2013 #21
That guy who would see that girl and rape her gollygee Jan 2013 #22
Then they should say "Don't be a rapist" fishiefish Jan 2013 #23
Their marketers decided to take a different route gollygee Jan 2013 #24
"Don't be that guy" is a phrase in standard usage. "Don't be a rapist" is not. Recursion Jan 2013 #25
Thank you for proving my point fishiefish Jan 2013 #26
Well, no. In "PCU" it specifically meant Recursion Jan 2013 #28
Oh urbandictionary fishiefish Jan 2013 #35
Oh well by all means if one man is offended gollygee Jan 2013 #37
Here Recursion Jan 2013 #40
Not to me, it doesn't. "Don't be that guy" has a very specific meaning. yardwork Jan 2013 #29
Do me a favor and specifically tell me what flickr means here in their TOS fishiefish Jan 2013 #39
It means that they don't want anybody to "harass, abuse, impersonate, or intimidate others." yardwork Jan 2013 #44
define creepy fishiefish Jan 2013 #45
You know what? You're being that guy. yardwork Jan 2013 #46
So now you are calling me a rapist... fishiefish Jan 2013 #47
I'm pretty sure that they were using this definition of the phrase that guy mythology Jan 2013 #52
yes, which is extremely vague fishiefish Jan 2013 #53
+1 XemaSab Jan 2013 #106
Nothing is creepier than the guy... Recursion Jan 2013 #58
You tavalon Jan 2013 #94
A little trouble with Predicates and Objects of the Adjectives? LanternWaste Jan 2013 #109
Yep...I've heard "Don't be that guy" used for many years now deutsey Jan 2013 #97
lots of men get pissed with that one also, saying it is saying ALL men are rapists seabeyond Jan 2013 #32
I think that the 'Don't Be That Guy' ad campaign seems to be working Autumn Jan 2013 #36
Now YOU'RE being "that guy" bettyellen Jan 2013 #41
Thanks for proving my point. fishiefish Jan 2013 #42
You don't have a point, you're just playing stupid. bettyellen Jan 2013 #43
+1 yardwork Jan 2013 #50
Has anyone ever pretended to know what "that" means before? bettyellen Jan 2013 #57
"that" fishy one is. Sissyk Jan 2013 #62
Aaaaaaand he's gone. 23 posts. yardwork Jan 2013 #73
Amen Aerows Jan 2013 #65
proably you Skittles Jan 2013 #88
Really that guy = a rapist plain and simple Arcanetrance Jan 2013 #27
I disagree fishiefish Jan 2013 #31
calif guy means everyone male or female. so are they accusing everyone of being rapists? nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #33
Minnesota, too. Odin2005 Jan 2013 #101
yup... nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #103
Using your logic of societal conventions the ad is still appropriate Arcanetrance Jan 2013 #34
No. You're just making shit up, not fooling anyone. bettyellen Jan 2013 #63
Or a troll tavalon Jan 2013 #95
and i doubt it would offend anyone. although this being DU..... Kalidurga Jan 2013 #38
Incorrect. "That" guy = a certain type of guy/a member of a particular subset of guys. redqueen Jan 2013 #48
That guy is slang for a male outsider fishiefish Jan 2013 #51
What you just posted contains nothing remotely resembling logic. redqueen Jan 2013 #54
Are you a troll? Ellipsis Jan 2013 #55
Post removed Post removed Jan 2013 #60
fish away, fishiefish nt Incitatus Jan 2013 #61
Well look at that. An entire 15 posts on this OP before thucythucy Jan 2013 #76
I was happy for several posts... Recursion Jan 2013 #81
He's "That Guy". Odin2005 Jan 2013 #102
My thought precisely. thucythucy Jan 2013 #105
Nope, only that guy who takes a drunk woman as bait. tavalon Jan 2013 #93
Excellent, and it's one of many reasons I am proud to be a Canadian citizen. nt Nay Jan 2013 #56
Worthwhile Aerows Jan 2013 #64
Thankfully, the fishie has been caught. JBoy Jan 2013 #66
good to know justabob Jan 2013 #67
I sure would like to know how one reports BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2013 #72
Two ways to do that. yardwork Jan 2013 #74
And I checked the TOS and asked they look at the thread not just the post.... bettyellen Jan 2013 #75
The list of folks serving on MIRt is linked below. Just PM one of them. yardwork Jan 2013 #79
i know Skinner hates the obvious ones, so I went that route. Tks for the link. Bookmarked! bettyellen Jan 2013 #84
thanks yardwork BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2013 #110
You can read the PPR message if you click on him. Recursion Jan 2013 #82
I think they leave them as an example to all trolls tavalon Jan 2013 #96
Wow, an anti-rape campaign that doesn't put the onus on the victims; I'm impressed Posteritatis Jan 2013 #68
Me too. I loved this. Recursion Jan 2013 #69
Definitely. And it's actually connected to some real results, to boot. (nt) Posteritatis Jan 2013 #70
An effective message effectively placed. thucythucy Jan 2013 #77
Love it. distantearlywarning Jan 2013 #78
Exactly! And enlisting bystanders Recursion Jan 2013 #80
i think it's good to put out there, so there are expectations of baseline decency... i hate to bettyellen Jan 2013 #86
Excellent ad. Demo_Chris Jan 2013 #83
Post removed Post removed Jan 2013 #89
They should try this around college campuses, too. tclambert Jan 2013 #90
That's impressive mythology Jan 2013 #98
So, looks like Evolutionary Psychology is wrong. Odin2005 Jan 2013 #100
i love you... lol. if that isnt a duh, huh? nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #107
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