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babydollhead

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5. your daughter is lucky that you found out

Sat Jan 26, 2013, 12:17 PM

Jan 2013

you protected her as much as you could once you knew about what was going on. When I was 16 an 18 year old boy took immense joy in being my first boyfriend and continuously abusing my innocence and blind love/trust. He was a sociopath, complete with smiles and charm and just as quickly becoming emotionally abusive and out of nowhere, it seemed, physically abusive. He hated me. I hated me. it was the recipe for a lot of insanity that i have had to make sense of and make peace with. He almost killed me four times. he told me evey way he could break into my house and stab me in my throat while i slept. It was poison. He charmed my parents. It took a huge amount of courage to get away from him. I worry for my daughters and the choices they'll make and what will happen to them. It was 30 years ago. I still don't ever say his name.

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A story of statutory rape... [View all] cynatnite Jan 2013 OP

Thank you for sharing that... ScreamingMeemie Jan 2013 #1

Only One Year is Hardly Restitution for What he Took From Your Daughter dballance Jan 2013 #2

If I could be sure he wasn't stalking other young girls... cynatnite Jan 2013 #3

He is registered as a sex offender and will be for the rest of his life lunatica Jan 2013 #16

+1 redqueen Jan 2013 #11

This is what we need full sex education in schools RobertEarl Jan 2013 #4

your daughter is lucky that you found out babydollhead Jan 2013 #5

Thanks for sharing your story (or your daughters') justiceischeap Jan 2013 #6

Thank you for sharing that personal story. Ilsa Jan 2013 #7

what state was this in? warrior1 Jan 2013 #8

Here in TN, it's statutory rape. n/t cynatnite Jan 2013 #10

and the laws are fuzzy, say that only below 14 you absolutely cannot consent. bettyellen Jan 2013 #22

when I was 14 I was pursued by a man in his 60s magical thyme Jan 2013 #9

KnR. The apologists are so wrong & I hope they don't show up in this thread Hekate Jan 2013 #12

Those who prey on adolescents are criminals and scum. MineralMan Jan 2013 #13

In PA it is 14, I know from experience. The 4 guys had this girl so terrified she refused to file Mnemosyne Jan 2013 #29

No, it isn't. The age of sexual consent in PA is 16. MineralMan Jan 2013 #31

Then contact the retired police chief in XXxxx, PA and tell him, he was the one that said it. Mnemosyne Jan 2013 #33

I'm just telling you what the law is. MineralMan Jan 2013 #34

I do know what it was then, and it was 14 years old. nt Mnemosyne Jan 2013 #35

There is no ambiguity about this. The OP did the right thing, and the rapist, not. n/t lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #38

thank you. excellent post. i can remember that young age and a couple times older men ingratiate seabeyond Jan 2013 #14

another important point in todays world with the net, delivered in our homes. adult sex world has seabeyond Jan 2013 #15

The good old days never were. lunatica Jan 2013 #17

that is really not what i am saying and yes, it was always out there and not anywhere near seabeyond Jan 2013 #19

My reply was not a retort so I apologize if it came across as such lunatica Jan 2013 #20

i get that. seabeyond Jan 2013 #21

This has happened in my family twice ProfessionalLeftist Jan 2013 #18

A dear friend of mine reported her brother for messing with her 12yo daughter, against her family's Mnemosyne Jan 2013 #30

She had every right to protect her child! ProfessionalLeftist Jan 2013 #36

She did what had to be done. He had deep issues and was not going back to jail, ever. My friend has Mnemosyne Jan 2013 #37

It's society and our culture of boys will be boys glowing Jan 2013 #23

this dad of two girls thanks you for telling thats story pasto76 Jan 2013 #24

thanks for sharing this La Lioness Priyanka Jan 2013 #25

"a girl is close to 18 & the boy is 20". or there in... i agree. but, dont they pretty much take seabeyond Jan 2013 #26

i am not sure how uniform these laws are about taking peer age into consideration La Lioness Priyanka Jan 2013 #28

oh wow sad-cafe Jan 2013 #27

... Mnemosyne Jan 2013 #32

Are there people that really think statutory rape is ok Arcanetrance Jan 2013 #39

yes. it seems too many. nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #40