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What did she say? Marrah_G Jan 2013 #1
she said he protects her. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #11
Unless there is some real abuse thre isnt much you can do Marrah_G Jan 2013 #31
he doesnt care SummerSnow Jan 2013 #85
Does the son not care leftynyc Jan 2013 #96
not his father. but her son is just into his own life hardly visits her. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #116
Protects here from who and what? leftynyc Jan 2013 #95
She never noticed that he was turning the ringer off.. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #100
Well, now she knows leftynyc Jan 2013 #103
my mom.my mom is deceased. no other siblings SummerSnow Jan 2013 #117
WTF brush Jan 2013 #87
Anger is the translation littlemissmartypants Jan 2013 #2
This is all very weird... Bay Boy Jan 2013 #3
when he is in the storage room he takes something out his pocket and stuffs it in the closet somewhe SummerSnow Jan 2013 #12
Trophy from a crime? gkhouston Jan 2013 #21
Reminds me of a Criminal Minds episode. Ilsa Jan 2013 #157
ok. NCTraveler Jan 2013 #72
Very sorry to hear this. Her 'anger' at you is surely frustration about her life. elleng Jan 2013 #4
She's in some trouble whether she knows it or not. Make sure she knows she can turn to you if Squinch Jan 2013 #5
+1000. NT riderinthestorm Jan 2013 #18
Sounds like child porn or online gambling MichiganVote Jan 2013 #6
they have no computer or any modern conviences.she wasnt like this before. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #14
Well he's hiding something that's for sure. MichiganVote Jan 2013 #20
she has no computer. he's got one some okieinpain Jan 2013 #26
he's a control freak...and having an affair? smackd Jan 2013 #7
i think its both as well. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #19
Ho-lee-shit...so many red flags...she needs to GET.OUT.NOW. Nt pkdu Jan 2013 #8
+1,000,000,000. Whatever she can take with her, she should leave with on gkhouston Jan 2013 #15
Keep an eye on her as best you can. amandabeech Jan 2013 #9
Her life is in danger, that's why Hekate Jan 2013 #10
Sounds like he's doing illegal shit as well. She needs to get out! NOW! nt riderinthestorm Jan 2013 #17
+1 burnsei sensei Jan 2013 #101
She spends three hours standing in the window every night waiting for him to return? Fumesucker Jan 2013 #13
i asked her why she does this since he has a key.. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #16
Is that it? Didn't you keep asking and explaining. You need to be more loquacious. Auntie Bush Jan 2013 #39
If she has to stand in the window she's not looking through his things in the house Matariki Jan 2013 #63
+1 KurtNYC Jan 2013 #106
How would he know if she isn't ann--- Jan 2013 #152
I'd call a women's shelter for advice on how to be supportive in this type of situation. aikoaiko Jan 2013 #22
I agree annm4peace Jan 2013 #52
Exactly!!! Help needs to come from some sources such as this, more RKP5637 Jan 2013 #129
I agree. Expert advice is needed. This is a dangerous situation. yardwork Jan 2013 #140
if it's your blood kin datasuspect Jan 2013 #23
you better have witnesses with you okieinpain Jan 2013 #29
where i come from we don't call the law datasuspect Jan 2013 #30
well this is going to requiem TCB for okieinpain Jan 2013 #34
Which will be pointless if the aunt isn't willing to go. gkhouston Jan 2013 #35
we don't ever let our kinfolks get harmed datasuspect Jan 2013 #110
Your aunt needs help, make sure to let her know she has your support Bjorn Against Jan 2013 #24
He is either having an affair or engaged in some really illegal shit. - n/t lapfog_1 Jan 2013 #25
Contact her sibling - your parent immediately and let them tell her to get out malaise Jan 2013 #27
that's some seriously creepy serial killer guy behavior tjwash Jan 2013 #28
That's what I was thinking. He's either a serial killer or a bigamist. n/t Ganja Ninja Jan 2013 #93
Follow him and see where he goes. rightsideout Jan 2013 #32
This Lex Jan 2013 #38
I'm worried that talking about this here could be dangerous for her. nt patrice Jan 2013 #33
You think this situation is unique? Sadly, no. n/t gkhouston Jan 2013 #37
And not much can be done, until something "happens"! :-(((( patrice Jan 2013 #41
What are the credit card purchases? FYI--she needs a divorce lawyer and a crisis shelter. nt msanthrope Jan 2013 #36
credit card purchases are kitchen appliances SummerSnow Jan 2013 #80
What state is the aunt in? edited to add, this is a very serious situation. msanthrope Jan 2013 #115
Battered Woman Syndrome Protalker Jan 2013 #40
Involuntary custody is a CRIME Generic Other Jan 2013 #42
Considering his control issues, I'm surprised he lets her see... WorseBeforeBetter Jan 2013 #43
Why would he leave that laying around for her to see? UnrepentantLiberal Jan 2013 #68
she told me the items on the credit card are not .. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #71
So, what have you decided to do? WorseBeforeBetter Jan 2013 #121
Can you help? Control-Z Jan 2013 #44
I never lived with her.when i got kicked out i was visiting. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #74
how old is your aunt? is she of an age where you can call an elder abuse hotline? niyad Jan 2013 #45
yes, HOW OLD is she? grasswire Jan 2013 #46
she is 76 her husband is 71. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #75
You can call your local elderly services Marrah_G Jan 2013 #83
I will call dept for the aging today. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #92
This sounds like an excellent approach to me. It will get you started talking to RKP5637 Jan 2013 #133
Brilliant question. This may be the solution! pnwmom Jan 2013 #143
Seriously, hire a PI to follow this guy....... Gato Moteado Jan 2013 #47
A PI doesn't cost as much as people think Lex Jan 2013 #109
Heck, I bet we could pass the hat here... Bay Boy Jan 2013 #169
does your family have resources to hire a private investigator? grasswire Jan 2013 #48
4 + 5 screams hard drugs to me Recursion Jan 2013 #49
I would do a stake out B Calm Jan 2013 #50
MYOB Lil Missy Jan 2013 #51
I agree...shes going ti defend him and make excuses like she always do SummerSnow Jan 2013 #81
I am sorry, but when one sees a situation like this, one does whatever one can. the attitude of niyad Jan 2013 #112
The woman in question is 76, and the law protects the elderly from abuse pnwmom Jan 2013 #144
Really? JustJoe Jan 2013 #53
Good point. UnrepentantLiberal Jan 2013 #69
This. nt. NCTraveler Jan 2013 #73
Reminiscent of the thread KatyMan Jan 2013 #77
This message was self-deleted by its author RKP5637 Jan 2013 #131
I never lived with them...He was letting me in cause SummerSnow Jan 2013 #84
Peace to you and yours. JustJoe Jan 2013 #142
Yep..... Gin Jan 2013 #90
um, that's just.... Catherine Vincent Jan 2013 #54
I probably would have already had evidence on this guy... Kalidurga Jan 2013 #55
I know I'd be spending my 3 hour window time 2pooped2pop Jan 2013 #94
Sounds like an Uncle and Aunt of mine 45 years ago. defacto7 Jan 2013 #56
She kicked you out? jberryhill Jan 2013 #57
i was visiting ..i tried to get her to come over to my house but SummerSnow Jan 2013 #76
If it's not too personal to say, leftynyc Jan 2013 #98
my mom and her were sisters.my mom is deceased. it was just the 2 of them SummerSnow Jan 2013 #118
Do you have brothers and/or sisters leftynyc Jan 2013 #132
i have 4 siblings... SummerSnow Jan 2013 #135
While my instinct leftynyc Jan 2013 #136
Cases like this, he has probably threatened a 3rd person also, son or dog okaawhatever Jan 2013 #58
Your aunt is likely not in a safe situation. Whether or not she knows it. PLease, silvershadow Jan 2013 #59
THAT is all super creepy. Matariki Jan 2013 #60
Serious emotional abuse going on ecstatic Jan 2013 #61
Buy her a cell phone that she can hide from him Matariki Jan 2013 #62
she says she has a cellphone ..when i asked ... SummerSnow Jan 2013 #82
Maybe you or your family could buy her a prepaid cell phone Matariki Jan 2013 #149
Suggest you tell everyone in the family about this behavior. mykpart Jan 2013 #64
Any fumes around the house? beevul Jan 2013 #65
no fumes thank goodness. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #79
this is so heartbreaking... that poor woman renate Jan 2013 #66
Disturbing. This guy sounds dangerous. I suggest... Demo_Chris Jan 2013 #67
I'm not buying this. UnrepentantLiberal Jan 2013 #70
buying? nothing to buy...i have seen this for a while SummerSnow Jan 2013 #78
OK, sorry. UnrepentantLiberal Jan 2013 #99
Nobody asked you to buy anything... Earth_First Jan 2013 #86
OK, but there's no real need to post that. MineralMan Jan 2013 #88
Sorry, no refunds jberryhill Jan 2013 #89
We all of us advertise our character in ways we often don't intend... LanternWaste Jan 2013 #154
Maybe he is looking for a mixed animal in the woods... AngryAmish Jan 2013 #91
This longtime DUer appreciated that flashback of brevity in this thread. alphafemale Jan 2013 #161
:) KatyMan Jan 2013 #168
Sounds like classic control freak behavior. 99Forever Jan 2013 #97
Get her a cheap $10 a month cell phone onlyadream Jan 2013 #102
doesn't seem like she would accept it though Marrah_G Jan 2013 #107
IF she could hide it onlyadream Jan 2013 #163
This is a poor place for this. A relative, a counselor, etc. nolabear Jan 2013 #104
I think this was the place for it Marrah_G Jan 2013 #108
No, actually, it isn't. Someone above had the smart idea of asking her pnwmom Jan 2013 #145
I don't know if you could afford it, but have avebury Jan 2013 #105
I was really concerned until you mentioned their ages, 76 and 71. denverbill Jan 2013 #111
if she were having memory issues, wouldn't you think that a proper course of action would be niyad Jan 2013 #113
He could be scared she'll be taken from him. ceile Jan 2013 #119
They are in their 70's and he obviously has some issues. denverbill Jan 2013 #122
It's not hard at all to believe that the man would all of a sudden start something like this. I Nay Jan 2013 #128
How many of those elderly folks became serial killers or drug dealers? denverbill Jan 2013 #134
Oh, not any that I saw. People in other posts who mention that are going overboard, IMHO. Nay Jan 2013 #139
I had a teaching colleague whose husband had retired from the same college Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2013 #155
she has no memory issues.his actions are SummerSnow Jan 2013 #120
Have you called Adult Protective Services yet? n/t leftstreet Jan 2013 #123
I like this idea. It needs to be investigated. nt Ilsa Jan 2013 #160
Well, I'm not saying there's no call for concern. denverbill Jan 2013 #125
It could also be that he has a type of dementia and has become paranoid in his old age. haele Jan 2013 #137
Hmm, I was kind of thinking along those lines, but hadn't made the connection to that sort of danger denverbill Jan 2013 #138
Thank you. In my posts above, I did forget to mention that these situations NEVER improve. Nay Jan 2013 #141
Good advice! nt pnwmom Jan 2013 #147
A 71 year old could be a control freak. pnwmom Jan 2013 #146
for those who dismissed this awful situation--it is pretty clear that none of you have ever been niyad Jan 2013 #114
thank you SummerSnow Jan 2013 #124
I'm actually glad to hear about their ages renate Jan 2013 #126
You might not be able to call the cops but you CAN call social services pnwmom Jan 2013 #148
Those are all thousand-watt red flags for abuse phantom power Jan 2013 #127
heroin? d_r Jan 2013 #130
I'm curious - are there some misconceptions going on in this thread? Matariki Jan 2013 #150
she is not locked in.she can leave out if she wanted to. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #164
My first thought was ann--- Jan 2013 #151
As others have said, he is an extreme control freak life long demo Jan 2013 #153
Sounds like your uncle is a serial killer. Drunken Irishman Jan 2013 #156
Can you get someone to follow him to see Ilsa Jan 2013 #158
Souds like domestic abuse to me.. and-justice-for-all Jan 2013 #159
I find that it is generally best to assume grownups are acting of their own agency. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #162
What is a local DV ann--- Jan 2013 #166
DV=domestic violence lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #167
this sounds like some serious Bluebeard shit to me 0rganism Jan 2013 #165
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