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anneboleyn

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99. I agree. Messing with a kid's education is very serious.

Reply to laundry_queen (Reply #62)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:06 AM

Dec 2012

I can't understand the selfishness of a parent who would play with a kid's future in such a manner.

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Charging an 18-year-old in high school rent [View all] obamanut2012 Dec 2012 OP

Do you know they aren't having financial difficulties? Indydem Dec 2012 #1

A high school kid's job is being a student obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #2

I had a friend who's dad made her pay rent. Indydem Dec 2012 #5

I am judging the parents, you better believe it obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #7

The OP was not a Minor. Indydem Dec 2012 #10

Your friend's child was a minor obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #15

5.5 Hours at $8.50 Indydem Dec 2012 #18

It is a high school student obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #23

A Moral Philosophy Indydem Dec 2012 #34

I would be very careful making any judgments here karynnj Dec 2012 #86

i don't get why the more conservative poster here is taking this position on parenting CreekDog Dec 2012 #78

5 hours of work plus school plus HOMEWORK? Then sleeping, eating, etc. anneboleyn Dec 2012 #106

5 HOURS A WEEK. Indydem Dec 2012 #131

It's a bit more than that... you forget mandatory deductions and travel,clothing expenses. nt TheBlackAdder Dec 2012 #117

All that time he was putting it into a savings account for her. abelenkpe Dec 2012 #13

How does the OP know what the parents are doing? Indydem Dec 2012 #16

It doesn't make a difference obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #25

Why? Indydem Dec 2012 #26

you don't tell your job when you can work lost-in-nj Dec 2012 #57

Most part-time jobs will ask for the applicant's availability tammywammy Dec 2012 #68

Unless you put 24/7 (or close to it) they roundcan the application though. And it's not a SWTORFanatic Dec 2012 #72

my daughter has a friend who was being asked to work more liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #85

This is the attitude the RW loves to give SWTORFanatic Dec 2012 #64

This message was self-deleted by its author devilgrrl Dec 2012 #29

Clarification: Indydem Dec 2012 #38

OK see abelenkpe Dec 2012 #35

We were raised to be resposbible with money obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #44

You didn't have a car at all? Not even one to borrow? AverageJoe90 Dec 2012 #73

Yeah. wickerwoman Dec 2012 #82

I did that with my daughter and she used the money Skidmore Dec 2012 #71

I agree. Kids need to focus on school, not work to support parents. anneboleyn Dec 2012 #103

Maybe they need the money to buy assault weapons? RetroLounge Dec 2012 #49

I hear the prices are going up. Indydem Dec 2012 #51

Well, maybe you can pitch in... RetroLounge Dec 2012 #59

^^^^^THIS^^^^^ HangOnKids Dec 2012 #67

Well-played, good sir. Well-played indeed. Chan790 Dec 2012 #76

True colors here! morningfog Dec 2012 #98

LOLOLOLOL morningfog Dec 2012 #97

That is pretty bad. alphafemale Dec 2012 #3

Seems a bit much ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2012 #4

I asked that obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #8

Pretty much crap. If I'm renting, a landlord doesn't get to say how SWTORFanatic Dec 2012 #69

The smart-ass in me would take my parents to housing court. Chan790 Dec 2012 #77

A parent should never charge their kid rent... no matter how old they are... Comrade_McKenzie Dec 2012 #6

My mother agrees with you obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #11

You forgot the sarcasm thingie FrodosPet Dec 2012 #43

Sorry, but your opinion is about as cold and hard-hearted as it can get.... OldDem2012 Dec 2012 #79

Oh, yeah? jberryhill Dec 2012 #110

100% agree laundry_queen Dec 2012 #58

Worth the read Tsiyu Dec 2012 #100

My son shares expenses with me Marrah_G Dec 2012 #121

That Goes Too Far ProfessorGAC Dec 2012 #138

Just as you never know No Vested Interest Dec 2012 #9

What would be a reason for this? obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #12

Too many possible reasons to list- No Vested Interest Dec 2012 #41

Nope, none of that obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #45

HOW DO YOU KNOW? Indydem Dec 2012 #50

Are you a parent? Earth_First Dec 2012 #14

Immaterial who is or isn't a parent in this thread obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #17

It's the making them quit their activities that is disturbing abelenkpe Dec 2012 #22

I agree obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #27

Exactly. The parent is seriously disrupting the kid's education anneboleyn Dec 2012 #104

Amen to that jberryhill Dec 2012 #111

I'm curious why you would even ask that question... OldDem2012 Dec 2012 #81

You don't have to be a parent to know good parenting, or Lex Dec 2012 #83

My sister is doing this to her 17 year old son abelenkpe Dec 2012 #19

In my state, it's illegal to charge a minor child room and board obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #30

she will end up with no one Skittles Dec 2012 #31

Disgusting laundry_queen Dec 2012 #62

I know. I really love the kid, too! abelenkpe Dec 2012 #87

I agree. Messing with a kid's education is very serious. anneboleyn Dec 2012 #99

In other words....not to be like her? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2012 #92

She doesn't happen to live in Ga. by chance? Claybrains Dec 2012 #123

Naw, they are in VA abelenkpe Dec 2012 #136

So, there's no curfew and she can have men "sleep" over? MrSlayer Dec 2012 #20

I agree, but the curfew and stuff is still in place obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #28

It seems ridiculous to me then. MrSlayer Dec 2012 #61

I am very thankful for my parents obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #21

25 years ago in high school Quantess Dec 2012 #24

I can understand in a really strapped family obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #36

Finances may play a role. As an orphan, I recieved benefit from my dad's earnings. No one wanted us. freshwest Dec 2012 #47

It appears that you turned out well despite not having it easy during your teen years. No Vested Interest Dec 2012 #52

That would be a matter of conjecture that I don't indulge others with online. freshwest Dec 2012 #53

You're correct No Vested Interest Dec 2012 #63

Freshwest, you speak wise words and offer good advice. iemitsu Dec 2012 #133

I had to pay for my own clothes and stuff about the time I turned 16. Kaleva Dec 2012 #32

I don't think kids should pay for their own clothes obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #39

I grew up in a poor family. Kaleva Dec 2012 #70

In my father's family the 3 boys had to drop out of high school but the 3 girls finished. freshwest Dec 2012 #91

After reading this thread you would judge me a bad parent Marrah_G Dec 2012 #122

Being in a family is being part of a team exboyfil Dec 2012 #33

Someone else's family, someone else's business slackmaster Dec 2012 #37

Not when they talk about it, it isn't obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #40

Well, an 18-year-old is no longer a child in the eyes of the law slackmaster Dec 2012 #46

Most states, in the case of divorced parents treestar Dec 2012 #127

Great pic! tabasco Dec 2012 #42

Oh, some things are our collective business jberryhill Dec 2012 #115

Having to go put for the evening obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #48

we're about to have to do that with our daughter liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #54

It's a tradeoff. ananda Dec 2012 #55

Sickening - KT2000 Dec 2012 #56

Wish I could recommend this post laundry_queen Dec 2012 #66

thanks - expected KT2000 Dec 2012 #74

OMG! Child abuse!! Maybe it is a 'Life lesson'. And some kids get kicked out. Worse?? Logical Dec 2012 #60

Could they move to a friend's house and then claim homelessness? pstokely Dec 2012 #65

My parents charged me "room and board" when I turned 16 and got a job. Lone_Star_Dem Dec 2012 #75

That's terrible, but I can top it: CreekDog Dec 2012 #80

my folks had me work for them, in the kennel and show ring, larkrake Dec 2012 #84

I would rather my children spend that 4 to 5 hours studying liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #88

Some people do that jberryhill Dec 2012 #89

My stepmother started charging me rent when I was 16. In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #90

Similar story here. Moved out at 17. eallen Dec 2012 #107

i was accepted into early attendance at college at 16, my mom said 'if you're out of high school, NMDemDist2 Dec 2012 #93

I don't blame you liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #96

that's bullshit, especially with the girl still in school LynneSin Dec 2012 #94

Great post. It is entirely selfish, as you note. anneboleyn Dec 2012 #102

Growing up in the 50s and 60s, charging rent to kids only happened if they weren't in school eridani Dec 2012 #95

A warm room, food, water, utilities, garbage and laundry service, for $200 per month? Nye Bevan Dec 2012 #101

I think $1 a day is suitable for a young person working part-time in high school. TheDebbieDee Dec 2012 #105

As some DUer wisely noted in another post choie Dec 2012 #108

I always wanted my kids to do better than I have done liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #109

Are they paying tax on that income? jberryhill Dec 2012 #112

Only a scumbag parent would do that. TheBlackAdder Dec 2012 #113

I can't believe how gullible some of you are Beaverhausen Dec 2012 #114

what makes you say that? KT2000 Dec 2012 #116

The way the OP has laid out the story Beaverhausen Dec 2012 #119

The OP is getting the story second or third-hand. No Vested Interest Dec 2012 #134

definitely teaching all the wrong lessons in that scenario Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2012 #118

When I was younger theKed Dec 2012 #120

I could see have them work for the summer or something but you're really taking a chance liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #124

Here is an interesting mikiturner Dec 2012 #125

good point liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #128

I would move... Kalidurga Dec 2012 #126

eee... that's bad HEyHEY Dec 2012 #129

That is total BS- it's a cheap way to make a buck off your kid. PERIOD. UNLESS you have $ issues. cecilfirefox Dec 2012 #130

I am conflicted GobBluth Dec 2012 #132

I agree with those saying she is now legally a tenant. NYC Liberal Dec 2012 #135

It's really none of anybody's damn business. HappyMe Dec 2012 #137